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#1 Ashalicious

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Posted April 30 2016 - 12:36 PM

This has been an ongoing issue for about two years now. Our neighbor (I won't say where he is from, because I don't want this to turn into a racial issue) has a serious problem with taking care of himself. He stinks. He stinks like spicy, rotten Indian food (no, he is not from India.)This is most likely due to him not showering on a regular basis, and not washing his clothes or bedding on a regular basis. He probably doesn't even clean his place much. I've never seen him take garbage out.

 

Last summer, it got to the point where if I was entering the building at the same time as him, I would take the stairs up 9 floors, so I wouldn't have to ride the elevator with him. He is just so fucking stinky, it makes me sick. Especially in the summer, when it gets stinkin (no pun intended) hot here.

 

Mostly we smell him in the hallway. The hallway fucking reeks. It is like the stinkiest cab you have ever been in, X 1000. I think this may be partially a culture issue, because he comes from a culture where parents don't teach their children basic life skills, like how to do laundry and take care of yourself on a regular basis.

 

Anyway, I have a pretty sensitive smell, and have been able to smell him on and off in our bedroom. My husband never did notice the smell in our bedroom, until a few months ago, when it started to get really bad. The way the apartments are laid out, our unit and his unit are on the front of the building, and there is only a wall separating our bedrooms, and the smell has started seeping through.

 

Another part of the problem - the neighbor is a really nice guy. He is very friendly and kind, and I enjoy chatting with him when he doesn't stink. Because he is so kind, this makes the problem an extra sensitive issue, because the last thing I would want is for his feelings to get hurt.

My husband and I talked to the landlord a few weeks ago, and advised him of the situation. We made it very clear that we didn't want the neighbors feelings to get hurt, but that something needed to be done. The landlord said he'd look into it, but I am assuming he never did, because the hallway is still stinking. (Fortunately, I haven't been able to smell him in the bedroom in quite sometime. This could be because I have been very adamant about keeping the windows open wide to ensure good airflow).

 

Fast forward to this week. The smell is again very very bad. My husband and I got home from the gym on Monday night and the hallway was fucking wretchedly smelly. I decided then and there that I HAD to take matters into my own hands and write the neighbor a note. Summer is coming, and this problem is only going to get worse.

 

I proceeded to write the neighbor a VERY kind note. I don't remember exactly what it said, but it more or less went something like this:

 

"Please know that this note is written and sent from the utmost kindest place, and is not meant to be hurtful. There has been a very strong and fowl odor coming from your apartment, and it is recommended that to prevent this from happening and to prevent embarrassment on your part, showering and washing your clothes/sheets on a regular basis, as well as airing out your place often, is necessary. Again, this note is coming from a place of kindness and concern, and is in no way meant to be hurtful or mean"

 

I folded the note and taped it to his door, and after that, THE SMELL WENT AWAY FOR SEVERAL DAYS. It was only LAST NIGHT that is started to come back, and today the hallway stinks like it always fucking does.

 

I should note that we did see him coming out of the elevator while we were going on, and he was PISSED. I was kind of hoping he would have asked me if I knew anything about the note, because I would have told him that I had been the one to write it, and I could have then talked to him in person about the problem.

 

In any event, I am FRUSTRATED. I am so sick of this being an issue. WHY CAN'T PEOPLE JUST FUCKING WASH AND CLEAN THEMSELVES? IS IT THAT FUCKING HARD? SHOULDN'T IT BE THE LANDLORDS RESPONSIBILITY TO DEAL WITH THIS? DON'T WE HAVE THE RIGHT TO LIVE IN A STINK FREE ENVIRONMENT?

 

I also wish I had the balls to go next door and speak with him myself, but I don't think I do.

 

So tell me, how would YOU deal with this issue?

 

 

 


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#2 bry75

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Posted April 30 2016 - 01:22 PM

I would just be straight up with in person and tell him whats on your mind in the kindness way of course.



#3 Spaceman Spiff

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Posted April 30 2016 - 04:26 PM

move

 

buy your own house...problem solved



#4 Ashalicious

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Posted April 30 2016 - 04:46 PM

move

 

buy your own house...problem solved

 

Move? No.

 

It is pretty hard to want to move when your front yard is the fucking ocean.


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#5 quark

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Posted April 30 2016 - 04:55 PM

My hopes and dreams may still come true... Anything is possible if such a smelly man can obtain oceanfront property.

 

*halts cleansing oneself, mid-shower*


Edited by quark, April 30 2016 - 04:57 PM.

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#6 Ashalicious

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Posted April 30 2016 - 04:55 PM



move

 

buy your own house...problem solved

 

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I did this out of love, fyi....... ;)


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#7 Spaceman Spiff

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Posted April 30 2016 - 05:08 PM

i dont care..the ocean is disgusting id take my fresh water lakes and forests any day over chinatown bc with fukushima water beaches



#8 Mattekat

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Posted April 30 2016 - 05:14 PM

I don't have any good advice in this situation :( writing a note is exactly what I would have done. It is how I dealt with the only neighbours I ever had a problem with actually. Maybe try talking to the landlord one more time?

And yeah, NEVER MOVE!!! OK maybe not never but your balcony is the best thing ever!
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Posted April 30 2016 - 05:29 PM

prank call 911 dead body in apartment... 


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Posted April 30 2016 - 07:13 PM

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