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#1 TheSamantha

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Posted April 26 2016 - 01:14 AM

Case in point:

 

Cal: friends since 2001.  Knew everything about each other.  Had memories.  Africans.  Someone to talk to all the time.

Had anger issues.  Sexualized all his friendships with women, therefore no friendship if the possibility of sex is off the table.  Hypersensitive, especially about racism, despite being an immigrant (maybe because he grew up in the ghetto).  Very blunt.  Violent.  Beat up three girls, almost beating one to death when she had barely grazed him.

 

Tried to pressure me to have anal sex.  Wasn't comfortable: not attracted to him at all, not my thing, and he's too big.  Pestered me several times over the course of four hours.  Last words before saying goodnight "we're gonna do anal."

 

Sees every little thing as racist, which is annoying:

 

Me: I just interviewed at a Jewish center.  It went well.

 

Cal: Oh really?  What did they ask you?

 

Me: They asked me [blah blah blah] and if I have a problem ideologically with working with Jews.  I told them I don't, that I've been to bar mitzvahs and bat mitzvahs, that I've volunteered at nonpartisan Israel/Palestine non-profits [etc]

 

Cal: I think that's racist what they asked you.  I think they would give you a hard time because you're black.

 

Told him I talked smack about my race three years ago on a website.  Told him that a year ago.  He still hasn't gotten over it:

 

Cal: I think Em's racist.  He said 'yeah I was talking to this black guy and he said he's gonna take off for Nigger Day.'

 

Me: Yeah that is racist.  He sounds ignorant.

 

Cal: I hate how I'm the token.  They say I'm not like the rest.

 

Me: Oh like you're their pet monkey or something?

 

Cal: What the fuck did you say to me bitch?!

 

Me: What?  I said like you're their pet monkey or something.

 

Cal: Oh I just heard monkey and snapped.  If you were in the same room, I would have smacked the shit out of you.  It reminds of that website you went to.

 

Me: Why do you dwell on things?  It's the Internet.  Who cares?  It's free speech.  Look at YouTube.  Everyone talks trash about everyone else.  You know what? I'm upset about sexism like rap music and the double standard, but I deal with it.  I once went to a comedy club ad the comedian said that women are stupid cunts who need to fix him a sandwich and STFU.  If he said that about black men, it would be all over MSNBC, it would go viral on YouTube, he would lose his reputation [etc]

 

Cal: That's just jokes.

 

Me: So you're okay with white people telling racist jokes?

 

Cal: Lisa Lampinelli is racist and I like her.

 

Me: Oh please.  Lisa Lampinelli is not racist.  She says she loves black men.  I've seen her act.

 

[After three hours of arguing]

 

Cal: You need to get in touch with your blackness.  You need to put aside these non-existent issues, and line yourself up with your people.

 

Fuck him. 


Edited by TheSamantha, April 26 2016 - 01:27 AM.

Comely Strumpet


#2 GLENGLEN

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Posted April 26 2016 - 01:30 AM

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Cheers Glen.


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#3 Desera_xoxo

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Posted April 26 2016 - 07:31 AM

Sounds toxic. My heads spinning.


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#4 NoxiousGas

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Posted April 26 2016 - 07:52 AM

  Violent.  Beat up three girls, almost beating one to death when she had barely grazed him.

 

 

I'm wondering why you would ever consider a piece of shit that does this a friend?


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"Do the walls close in and suffocate ya,
you ain't got no friends and all the others they hate ya,
does the life you been leading gotta go?"

"get your shoes and socks on people,
it's right around the corner"

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the poodle chews it"

#5 TheSamantha

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Posted April 27 2016 - 08:06 PM

I guess I was attached for three reasons: we have known each other, our area, and our crew since 2001, he gave me the guy's perspective, and he knew everything about me.


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#6 morrow

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Posted May 23 2016 - 03:24 AM

Your better off without him, he is dangerous

#7 Vanilla Gorilla

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Posted May 23 2016 - 04:07 AM

despite being an immigrant (maybe because he grew up in the ghetto).



As a crowd gathers 'round an angry young man
face down on the street with a gun in his hand
In the ghetto

In the ghetto
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#8 Vanilla Gorilla

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Posted May 23 2016 - 04:10 AM

PS: Where are the other three friends? I only count one

#9 I'minmyunderwear

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Posted May 23 2016 - 06:41 PM

so what exactly is nigger day?  kwanzaa?



#10 Perfection of Disorder

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Posted May 23 2016 - 07:14 PM

so what exactly is nigger day?  kwanzaa?

Wouldn't it be a whole month. Still on a more serious note guy sounds fucked in the head. You are almost certainly better off without friends like that.


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#11 Lynnbrowngreen

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Posted May 23 2016 - 08:36 PM

Your better off without him, he is dangerous

 

 

^^^ This!!!  

 

Just reading that made me scared for you.  Something tells me he won't let you cut him off easily.  Please take care.  



#12 Yogamat

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Posted May 24 2016 - 12:56 AM

For me,my friends have to share the same interests,morals,ect.I think its time you moved on from "Cal".He sounds very negative,and really?Who needs people like that in your life?Your life will be better without him.



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Posted May 24 2016 - 06:08 AM

For me,my friends have to share the same interests,morals,ect.


To each their own of course (and once upon a time i would have said the same..!), but now it seems like the other extreme to me... and also a bit boring.

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#14 Yogamat

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Posted May 24 2016 - 07:37 AM

Boring?No more boring than anyone could be.I have a wide circle of friends,all different in their own individual way.As most of us work,we're hardly in eachothers pockets,and some I dont see for weeks on end,which is quite nice,as more news to talk about.






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