High Sex Drive And Needing Sex

My Boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year, and as of lately he's been bringing up how him not being able to have sex, is really driving him up the walls, making him want it more. He knows I am saving myself for marriage, and he accepts and respects that, but then again, he keeps bringing up how he wants sex, how he's sexually frustrated etc. I even went as far as offering him to have someone on the side, that he can have sex with, if he wants it that badly. But he doesn't want to do that, because it wouldn't be fair to me. Me, personally I just feel really bad for wanting to stay pure and save myself for marriage, every time he brings up how he wants sex. It makes me feel worse and worse. I had dreams and each time this happens, those dreams fade away, one was that I remain a virgin until marriage, and the other was to get married, then have sex.

I have told him he can watch as much porno, look at dirty photos, masturbate as many times as he can, but he says none of that does it for him, it does but it isn't "enough". He wants sex.I really don't know what else, to do, what do you think he can do, to please his sex drive, and keep him calm? He has told me he has self control but yet this is happening so. I just don't know what to do, I need help.

 

elope?

 

Everything but intercourse?

 

This one again


Remind us all how old you are again


I doubt it will work, if you were 19 it would, but I doubt he is going to marry you, at 30 wasnt it?, then you suddenly find a sex drive

 

He isn't happy with what we are already doing and just wants sex. Us eloping or getting married isn't going to work, because we don't have a lot of cash handy, and he see's it as this, he wants us to have a business and team effort together, BEFORE any purposes or marriage comes into the picture.

 

Lots of oral sex.

 

so basically, he's not happy without sex, you won't have sex with him without marriage, and he won't marry you? sorry, but i don't see how this could possibly work out at this point.

 

Ok.....so why is the guy complaining when he's already told you he's not prepared to get married until after the business has taken off?Its not just you thats made a decision not to "go all the way"?You wont have sex until you get married,he wont get married until the business is established.So really,he's made the same decision as you.Does your guy have a time frame on the business or what?Has he mentioned he'll give it a year to settle into it (business)and then you'll get married?If not,then I think I would ask him what that time frame is.If he's putting the pressure on you now for sex,how much longer is the guy prepared to wait?

 

Is he pressuring you? Tell him how you feel when he brings that up. Tell him you feel really bad.

 

Yes he is pressuring me, and he wasn't referring to a REAL business like a online business or a store business, but like a partnership business, being able to work together as a team. communicate better with one another that type of business.

Nothing we do makes him happy, he wants sex, he says he is trying to control himself and not bring it up, but he is so frustrated without sex, he brings it up a lot and every time it hurts me.

 

every guy wants to have sex all the time..so he should just watch porn and jack it instead of pressuring you. i mean does he only like u for sex ? if he does dump him and get some who likes you for who u are..a person...not just a vagina

 

I don't know, I know I am changing for him because he doesn't like my attitude and negativity so I have to change to make him happy.

 

Something just isn't adding up here.

Smells funny

 

The main problem here is me, I am doing all of this, if I didn't have this attitude problem and acted the way I did when we first went out, everything would be fine. But since I have this attitude issue and I am trying my hardest to change, the same thing is happening.

 

in da butt

 

You are here because you wanted to get treated like a princess, get treated like you are pure and virtuous.

Which is something that doesn't happen with this guy anymore.


Remember they are your rules. If things don't work out the way you think they should, the way you think the world should work, then there's no one else to blame, you can try blame everything else, but no one's going to listen.

Doesn't matter how you try spin it to others, more than likely he just thinks you are trying to blackmail him into marriage

 

How am I trying to blackmail him into marriage? He has a job and needs to save up for the ring, wedding, our own place etc.

 

He?

Just he has to save? Not you?

 

I could save too, but I don't work so me getting money is tough.

 

As much as I hat Kanye West:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZH3cPk_edRU

C/S,
Rev J