Hello, So my Girlfriend has said that she is interested in bondage and that it is a real turn on for her. I am totally open to the idea and willing to try anything, and I think it would be fun to give it a try; my problem is that I have absolutely no idea where to start or even what to do? We are thinking of getting a basic wrist/ankle restraints so that I can tie her arm and legs to the bed posts, but what do I do once I have her tied up??!!?? I mean I am totally new to this idea, so I don't know if I should just start fucking her or fingering her or wtf!? Anyway, any advice or information would be greatly appreciated! BTW she is not really interested in pain, not sure if that helps.
I would definitely watch 50 Shades of Grey again if you haven't seen it already. Just kidding. I think it's honestly not such a great idea in the first place.
I suggest you talk more first. It is good to start slow. A simple wrist and ankle restraint system is a good start. Once you have her restrained, begin to tease her a little. Kiss her cheek, her neck...she'll want to kiss your lips, tell her not yet. Kiss her stomach, her legs, her thighs...not her pussy. She'll go crazy. Thats a goodcway to start... I know I like the feeling of not being in control. He can have his way with me. I am sure you can take it from there! IMPORTANT... I know this is just bondage play...but have a safe word. If she feels uncomfortable at any time she can use it and you stop IMMEDIATELY. If she wants to do this she trusts you...don't break that trust. Safe word should not be stop... She may want o say stop, but not really mean it... If she says stop, ask if she remembers the safe word (may I suggest RED) if she does, she doesn't really men stop and continue. Also, ask her what's off limits...if she doesn't like anal, now is not the time to start... Unless it's something you both agree to ahead of time. Does she want to be humiliated? Called bitch, slave, etc... Have you cum on her face, get spanked? All, these things should be discussed before you begin bondage play. Most of all, have fun with it! I hope this helped from a woman's perspective.
I don't know much about bondage, but I do know it is a good idea for her to be 100% sober. If she is intoxicated, alcohol could dull her senses and affect her circulation around the areas where she is tied, and that would be very bad.
Agreed!!! Also, she would also have lowered inhibitions, when you are totally vulnerable like that, you should be sober... You would do things drunk that you would not do sober, and may regret them later... Great point Ashalicious!
Thank you everyone for the help, you have given me a good bit to work with and talk about! I will probably be back with more questions later
Not to mention if the ties are at odd angles. Shoulders only go so many ways, and as we age, and injure and have all sorts of fun, shoulders lose some more range of motion.
