Threesome Do's And Dont's......

Hey guys, so my question is obvious. The dos and donts of a threesome. I would like to have one with my Fiance and one of my good friends. Opened to all opinions on this subject....And go!!!

 

Is it going to be two chicks and a dude? I assume??????

 

Yes

 

I am no expert on this (unfortunately) but there are some great articles on line you may want to check out regarding "rules", jealousy, etc. One very clear message from all the stuff I've read is to be clear about any taboos up front. For example, some people prefer no penetration by the male with the other female, etc. I hope you go through with this and give us a full report.

 

Where rules are concerned, there is no "one size fits all" when it comes to threesomes. Everyone is different.

When my wife and I were in a threesome with a close friend of ours (about 30 years ago), there were only two rules: the two of them couldn't go off and fuck when I wasn't around (because I really loved watching him fucking my wife), and he always had to cum inside her bareback (because she loved the feel.) All three of us were disease free and she was on the pill (which worked very well for her), so we weren't concerned about STDs or unwanted pregnancy. Other that those two things, everything was negotiable.

Back to rules, it depends on everyone's limits. Maybe the lady doesn't like anal. No coprophilia or water sports might be another one. (People that enjoy that sort of thing are pretty uncommon.) The best thing to do is get all three participants together up front and have each list of the things they will or (more importantly) won't do. A list of "likes" and "dislikes" would probably help too.

I’d strongly advise you to also talk to your spouse in private, just the two of you. Make sure that you are both comfortable with any limitations imposed already, or that either of you want to impose. This will be easier than if you try to do it with the third-party present.

Finally, I urge you to talk to your spouse after each get-together (next morning or some other time soon after.) I call them “debriefings” (and, no, I don’t mean remove his shorts again.) They can be as short or long and necessary. The two of you should discuss the most recent threesome with emphasis on what went right and what didn’t. You both especially need to talk about anything that made you insecure, left out, or in any other way uncomfortable. If something bad is starting to develop, this is the best way to nip it in the bud and fix the problem, so that you can continue your threesome (if desired.) If not, this is probably the least painful way to end it without hurt feels all around.

Work it all out up front. Otherwise, someone is likely to get hurt.

I know that others on the forum have different opinions on this, but I advocate finding someone who's already a friend and have her become your husband’s fuck buddy. If he goes with strangers while you're away, he runs the risk of fun sex turning into rape, beatings, or worse. I know that I'd never feel like my spouse was safe under those circumstances with a stranger.

 

Just work the rules out in advance and stick to them. It's hard in the heat of passion to tell him not to do something! Have fun

 

Thank you for everything you wrote, it is extremely helpful.

 

Thank you for elaborating with your own personal stories, question, do you guys only envolve males or do you also do two females and yoursrlf? If so, what are your wifes views on it.

 

It's been over 30 years since the threesome I described. (We were in our late 20s then. We're in our late 50s now, with all the typical attendant physical issues associated with that age.) However, to answer your question in abstract, there was never an interest in a threesome with the two of us and another woman. I'd have been flattered by the attention, but my wife is definitely not bi and I doubt I would have been able to satisfy two women, even back then. (BTW, I'm not bi either. When we had our threesome, both I and the other man focused exclusively on pleasuring my wife.) Our threesome with our male friend was initiated by me. I'm very much a voyeur and really wanted to see my wife with another man.

Having said all of that, I think that threesomes with either a man or woman as the third member are great! It's really all about what the couple (you and your fiancée, in this case) want to have. After that, it's all about finding your third. Unless you're active in the swinger culture or if you live in a small or conservative community, finding a good partner can sometimes be challenging. In my case, I already had the guy picked out prior to springing the idea on my wife, so it wasn't an issue!