Fuck Buddy Problems?

Ive recently acquired my first ever fuck buddy. I'm a 23 year old female.

I know he's very busy, he's a chef and works 11-12 hour days 4 days a week, and he also runs a side business selling food at the marker on saturdays which he preps for on his other days off. I get that, you're busy.

But sometimes he just ignores my texts and I hate it.

I thought guys were horny like..ALL THE TIME. And i'm literally asking him for sex. WHAT GUY DOESNTJUMP ON THAT!

I know he works at noon, and gets home at 11-1130 pm. I have offered to swing by before or after his shift and just stay like an hour. He sometimes doesn't answer.

I mean, im hoping for sex 2 times a week, but i find myself asking more often than i probably should just cause he doesn't respond to my other requests.
So far we've done it every monday for about a month cause thats the day he's off. But again today, he's not answering me.

HELLO. ITS YOUR DAY OFF. SEX ME!

And although i considered that maybe he just didn't like sex with me..he's ignored me in the past and then finally responded when it was convenient for him.

My feelings aren't hurt. I kinda accept he's not the best dude. But i just want sex from you. Why are you so bad at responding.

I was thinking after today i would just stop texting him cold turkey...if he gets horny...he can text me.

And i know 100% he's not seeing or sexing anyone else

 

Ya, i was thinking that.
I'm just afraid that if i stop writing to him all together that i'll lose my fuck buddy all together and will be sexless for a year again hahaha.

But, at the same time, i'm hoping that if i don't write him for a week or two that he'll eventually write to me?

Ugh, idk.

 

if you're really a female, you should have no problem finding a different fuckbuddy that actually wants to fuck.

 

ttrue, but i have this weird thing about sleeping with a lot of people. I hate the idea of my number going up. I know it's weird, and not everyone will agree with me, but it's how it is. It was kinda a big deal for me to even take on this current fuck buddy, but now that I have him, i'm okay with it. I just dont want a different one... :/

 

I agree with Skip,
Give him a little time and space, and watch get back to you in blink.

On the other hand, I'minmyunderwear has a point, there are guys out there that are looking for a woman with your requirements.
Find just one guy, may help.

Take care,

 

I think that you have "fuck buddy" confused with "cheap prostitute".

Substitute "x-box buddy" for "fuck buddy". Someone that you call up when you want to play x-box. If your current buddy doesn't want to play as often as you do, you don't get mad because their devotion to x-box is less than yours, you find a different or a second buddy who also likes playing with your x-box.

 

Yes, but xbox doesn't come with as many potential dangers such as STDs. Ive found someone who i trust as a person and I just as a sexual partner.

 

Your safety considerations don't create obligations on your buddy. (They create hard barriers that you won't let your buddy cross.) If it takes you time to select and vet a new (second) buddy, then it takes time. That it will take time doesn't make an obligation that your current buddy has to fulfill.

Your options are fairly straight forward. Each of those options takes different amounts of effort and involve different risks. None of that makes your current buddy obligated to change their behaviour.

 

I have a fuck buddy at work. And we fuck there in the workplace. We build tour buses so we have a lot of beds to choose from and chances for privacy. Pretty convenient.

But, about your problem. We go through phases where we ignore each other's messages. On my eld its usually because I'm just SUPER busy and don't have time. On her end, she's admitted to ignoring me because she's starting to feel attached. If a sex session gets particularly good she shuts down for a while. She says these times make her start feeling more emotionally attached to the situation.

Maybe your guy is afraid he'll actually get too attached to you?

 

what makes you think being a fuck buddy constrains a guy to put in a set appearance and performance? that's what boyfriends are for.

his day off is his day off. if he wants to fuck, you'll hear about it. if his schedule and frequency don't suit you, find somebody else.

 

Hmm...I'm thinking the "fuck buddy" agreement ends when one person keeps texting the other. If it was me, I would be thinking this person wants more than just the sex and avoid them.
Just sayin

 

Possible. But i mean, im not texting "hey hows it going" ill be texting like "Im free tonight. Quicky?". so its not like im sending anything thats hard to read hah

 

Two things no one else mentioned:

1. Guys are always up for it, only partially true, they get bore too quickly

2. You gals are too picky, so its likely if you want him as an fb, so do other girls, so sometimes he doesnt answer becuase hes with a hotter one

 

Best advice, if you truly want a FB - find an older man.
There are plenty of us older, still good looking, men who would fall over ourselves to have a no strings attached sex buddy.
And sweetheart - the sex? Waay better than the young bucks who just want to get off.
We have decades of experience with women beyond the boy toy.

 

Fuck buddy be awesome. Can't see turning down sex.

 

Fuck buddy? Yes please

 

how have things gone with your fwb?

 

No comment as FB is not what I prefer (though I have).

Let it go...he wants it he will hunt you down.

I had a guy contact me...I knew what he wanted as he was reminding of the time we had...I told him his loss...shouldn't have waited 5 months.

 

Wish I had a Fuck Buddy like the lady...wow....trying like heck to find one in the San Jose area.....maybe because I am an older guy....cant believe it is that hard to find one for a girl.....