Wasting So Much Time

I can't stand being alone and sexless. It's the absolute worst for a horndog like me. I've been out of the closet since I was 18, and I'm 26 now. And I've STILL never gone all the way with a guy yet. How long must I wait? How old and wrinkly and UGLY must I grow before I can finally satisfy my homosexual urges? I wanna explore my sexuality while I'm still YOUNG, but that's not gonna last forever. I wanna know what I've been doing wrong all this time. I want a simple solution. But I guess nothing's ever that simple. It's just... sex is extremely important to me. More important than it SHOULD be, probably. Most people think my priorities are all screwed up, and they're probably right. But the most important thing to me right now... is having sex with a cute guy, before I grow too old. I just wish I didn't feel so lost and helpless on my "quest".

 

yeah, it sucks being socially awkward and horny. on the one hand, you're better off because you're into guys, who are generally much less confusing as far as figuring out the cheat code to open the pants. on the other hand, the percentage of guys that are into guys is significantly lower, so you have a smaller selection and a lot of them are not open about it, so it might be even harder for you than for us straight guys. i dunno.

 

Well Shale spent last month sunbaking on a boat, and well ask him what happened below deck....and he's 70 or so

By even saying something like 'before I get too old' you are kind of telling you are not into men

 

How small is New Jersey? Can you not go on Grinder or something, even craigslist, to meet a guy?

 

first step is move out of your moms place

 

Something still smells funny about all this

18 to 26, you cant hook up with a guy?, dude, aint that hard

Either you only interested in ones way out of your league, want something way too specific, or you are only interested in jerking off about it and not interested enough to take the big step

 

I vote for the jerking off theory.

 

Young guy should not have to much trouble. Go to a adult sex store. You .sy not have to look. You would be hit on most likely.

 

Tinder? Grindr? Easy to find someone to bang with the internet and such...

 

I don't have access to Grindr or Tinder, what with my old-ass flip-phone. I can't afford anything else, and my lack of money also seriously limits my transportation options at this point. As for those of you "in doubt" of the fact that I couldn't get any dick in the past 8 years... there are several conditions that have to be met in order for me to get what I'm searching for:
1. I must find a gay guy
2. I must find this gay guy fuckable
3. This gay guy must find ME fuckable
4. This gay guy must not be already taken
5. This gay guy must be within physical visiting distance of me
Despite my efforts, I have never been able to successfully meet ALL of these criteria in these 8 miserable lonely years. Maybe I'm just not looking hard enough, but that's understandable given that I have no clue what the fuck I am supposed to be doing in the first place. I have very little experience when it comes to courting other males, what little experience I do have was pretty much a series of dumb luck.

 

Personal computer? OkCupid, PoF, Fetlife? Check those sites out. Put what you want out there. I know it's impersonal, but if sex is all you want, impersonal might be better.

 

Honestly, I have said this before, and I am about to say it again. I think you need to change your attitude. All I ever sense from you is negativity. You can't do this, you can't do that. Start believing that you CAN find a guy, and you WILL find a guy, and start fucking believing that it actually is possible for you to meet someone. Change your attitude, change your life.

 

You think that's bad.
I happen to know <cough> someone would couldn't get laid at Burningman.

 

In your original post you say (and I am paraphrasing here), I want to have sex with a man while I am still young, sex is extremely important to me. Then in your next post you go on to say, derp....I guess I am just not looking or trying hard enough to have sex with a man. When I say something is extremely important to me, then I put all my energy, focus, and hard work into achieving whatever that goal may be.

I don`t know, I have read many of your threads and I have always questioned the veracity in everything that you have posted on this site.

 

So pretty much, this thread is all fluff.
I vote we all forget about it post sexy stuff in another thread.

 

Dating? No. You can very likely find someone to bone, though.

 

To be fair, I've been where he is. You want it, but you either can't spare the time and energy, or you're not willing to. Doesn't mean you still don't want it and feel like opportunities are passing you by while you're working on other shit. The timing may just be wrong. My advice is to stop focusing on it till you can devote your time and effort. Sometimes you just need to focus on other shit and that's legit. If you need to occasionally have your temper tantrum that you're not getting what you want, go on and do it, but I mean... you can't stay in that state of mind. Shit or get off the pot.

Of course if you've read my other posts, you'll know I probably have zero grounds for giving dating advice, least of all to a gay male who may be dealing with a totally different scene. Feel free to disregard anything and everything I say.

 

Well, 31 was my second run at University, I was working 40 hours a week and at least 20 hrs a week for Uni, that lasted 5 1/2 years, so till about 36

Still had time to go chase UHUM UHUM at least 3 nights a week


A lot of gay guys do seem to have this hyper thing, never really worked out what that was. Dont think it is sex or hormone based as then they should slow down the day after a long night of UHUM UHUM

Whatever it is/was, thank god for it, motivation just from not being able to sit still