Is Parent-Child Spanking Ever Ok?

I worked at that office 20 years ago and he didn't use amalgam.

Anyway...spoken like a non parent and someone who is a tad ignorant about life.

If you wait until your child has a huge cavity and possible abscess before seeking treatment...that is neglect. It can be very serious for a child to have infection in their teeth and very painful. Same as with adults, if you wait till you have a problem, what may have been a small restoration becomes a root canal or extraction. So, that is just ignorance on your part and neglectful if you do that to children.

Your idea about what kids "get" is ridiculous and wrong, I am sorry. You must think like a 4 or 5 year old, not an adult to know what kids get.

.don't know how old you are, but I am thinking by your posts, you are a teenager with that old angst and I know it all attitude.....and I tell ya what, been there done that

 

That's fair enough but I think every parent here will agree that until you have kids you have no way of realm knowing. I myself didn't have a clue until a few hours into being a parent when I desperately wanted to sleep but my baby was screaming his head off - so I really mean mo offense, but being a parent is unfathomable to those who are not parents.

But to answer your question, nothing made my son strong willed. He's been a fussy little man since day 1, it is just his temperament. As far as sitting him down and explaining the consequences of his action....yeah, I didn't do that, he's 2. We just talked about how he feels when he throws a tantrum and what triggers it in very simple language he could understand.

My personal parenting philosophy is pretty in line with yours, I always want to be honest with my child and try to reason with him. I just don't think that always works and I think parents need to be go with the flow as far as disciplinary techniques. Do what works for each stage of development.

 

Should that be a new rule for posting on HF? Personal experience with the subject? Does that mean I get to tell 99% of the members to STFU about business and finance?

 

I won't become a parent until I feel ready to commit everything to that project. I will be there everytime they brush and brush with them. I will try to make it a game if possible and see who can brush better. I'll watch them very carefully and make sure they get all the nooks and crannies.

I think a lot about being a parent. For me finding the most moral action in any scenario is easy to accomplish when I do what I would want my kid to do, or be how I would want my dad to be. My dog is a proxy for my future kid, and when she comes seeking company I try to give her my full attention until she's sated. I know a dog is a minute commitment compared to a son or daughter, but being ready and able to drop everything and invest in another being is a good stepping stone to the next challenge. I'm a perfectionist in that my mindset is to always edge closer toward perfection. In everything I've done I've improved continuously and I insist that my parenting will be no different.

I appreciate your concern about the potential neglect of my children but I assure you it will be a non issue.

 

I don't have any kids, and call me old fashioned, but if I did, they'd be getting a spanking. You disobey me? That's a spanking. You cry? Spanking. You touch something without my permission? Buddy...you're getting spanked. Every kid I've ever seen has deserved a spanking. It may not teach them anything, except that I have all the power. But I think that would be a valuable lesson. The kid will realize as I am spanking him two or three times a day that life simply is not fair. I'm not going to deny that life isn't fair...man, kid you're getting spanked.

 

I hope you'll cling to your guns when I come in and spank you for spanking him. Now I have all the power bitch.

Might equals right, correct? That's what we're teaching kids by spanking them. Violence begets more violence.

 

If by some minute chance someone on HF starts a thread about business and finance you can absolutely tell them to STFU

 

The subject came up twice this week.

 

I think that once you hit a certain age it's gay if another man spanks you. So if you want to spank me, fine, but don't act like it's my problem and not yours. I am a straight man.

 

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All of the parents here are reading your posts with "ok...tell us about it when you have a child" We all felt different about parenting...before we became parents. It is something you have to DO before you'll ever get it.

 

I think spanking is useful if done minimally. Basically if the child is in serious tornado mode where they've been told to quite down or do something and they keep making things worse.

I mean, for example you have other kids over and they made a mess in your son's room but your son contributed. I walk in and see this and tell them to clean some of it up, SOME of it. Instead they don't clean any of it up, well fine, but the my son leads a second wave of destruction. Maybe spills some juice on the carpet because he's in "I don't care" mode. That would be an optimal time to spank his ass, have his friends go home and he's in his room until it's clean as a whistle.

This happened like twice in a year for me. So it's not at all a usual occurence. I feel the child must know what the limit is and to not want to ever go there.

As for money and items of value. I have been giving my step-children money since they were 7 to teach them math and what things are worth. They go to the dollar store or Walmart and buy their own stuff with what they have. I never take what they already have but with two kids you can play against eachother. So if my son is having a bad day and not listening, fine, his sister will probably make $5 cleaning dishes.