My wife and I have dirty talked about threesomes for years. Nothing ever really happened with it, but it turned us on to talk about it. Three weeks ago we happened to get into a situation where alcohol was involved (probably too much) and we ended up having a threesome with another guy. Totally out of our character, but I loved watching her with another man behind her while she touched me. We haven't talked too much about it after the day it happened, but I've been wondering if she's up for it again. I'm afraid to ask her in case it was a one drunken night deal, and I feel guilty for being turned on thinking of her with another man (should I?). I would really love to do it again, either if its with another guy and I on her or with another girl. I just don't know how to test the field without looking like a creeper if she's not into it again. I know the answer is "you should just ask her", but I'm hoping someone has some lines to help get the topic rolling. And if she asks "do you want a guy or a girl?" I don't want her to think I'm just weird for wanting to see her with another guy, but I also don't want to say I want a girl and have her think she's not enough for me and I'm looking for an excuse to get with someone else. Overthinking much, eh?
Stop over-thinking this. If she was obviously enjoying the experience...just assume she enjoyed it. Nothing complicated here. She may feel a little wierd about it right now since it was the first time but talking about it a bit may make her feel more assured about it. And a discussion about another woman in the mix isn't out of bounds here at all. It's just a discussion. You just watched her get banged by another dude so...I'd say your fairly safe to at least discuss what you think. If you can't even be honest in a private talk....I'd say you should both take a step back and ask if you're ready for that kind of lifestyle. Even if you never do anything like that again....the experience can be something you guys use to open communication a little more.
[SIZE=10.5pt]Communication[/SIZE], Communication, [SIZE=10.5pt]Communication[/SIZE], I totally agree with this. If you haven’t talked about it you should, don’t leave it hanging. Maybe not bring up the do you want to do it again, at first. You know her, feel out the conversation and see where it goes. If you are both into doing it again, maybe suggest alternating guy and gal.
At the time of the first threesome. I would guess you could tell if she enjoyed the other man or not. If you know the other man, talk to him and set up another meeting.
As a general rule of thumb, you should ALWAYS have a debrief after having a threesome. Just be honest with your wife. You married her for a reason.
have you ever thought that the reason you guys haven't talked about it after it happend might be because she is felling the exact same way as you do? It would seem logical to med, that this is the case, and my advice would definatley be to just start talking about the experiance, open up the conversation find out how much she enjoyed it, if she wants another go at it or something a bit different , but what ever get talking about it
My wife has always fantasized about a threesome with another guy. I wasn't interested much until the last few months. Now I can't get the thought out of my head, and it turns me on - what to do?
You can find a swing club, We went to one I didn't know at the time, but singles also attend. it has been several years ago, but still have fond memories. The lady of the couple, talked to my girlfriend, several times before we ever attended. She had it set up for my girl to met with a guy, who treated her nice. and showed her a good time. The thing is, she found out, all were not that good. But I had threesomes with other couples. And they were never planned. I done several women in the presents of their husband or boyfriend. They were all good. But I think seeing my girl get it from another guy, is by far the hottest thing we ever did. Funny but until it happened, I didn't think it would be fun for me.
Was it difficult for you to overcome the sight at first of her pleasing another man or was it an instant turn on? Not sure what direction to go/
I didn't like the idea at first. But after things got started, I accepted things. She had alot of insecurities, that she should have never worried about to start with, and this guy helped her overcome them. The main thing is to talk things over. Think about every aspect.
Get hot n sexy one night pull the dildo out and fuck her with it while she sux you off, while this is happening ask her if she wishes it was the guy that you had the 3some with, bet she says yes, then tell her how much you enjoyed it and want it again, then after your hot sex with her tell her you are going to arrange a hot night out and do it as soon as you can, this will work, bring up the chick thing after you become more comfortable talking about it over coffee
So a little update... We ended up meeting up with the same guy again and all had an awesome threesome! This time we knew what we were getting ourselves into ahead of time. We were all way more comfortable and had a great time! I think it's something we're officially into now One question I have for all your regulars out there... Is it more common to meet up with the same person/people every time, or do people try to always be finding someone new? We think we'd actually be more comfortable with someone we know, and we're curious about who would be game.
I certainly can't speak for the other folks, but my wife and I always had our threesomes with the same guy (a very close personal friend.) It was way more comfortable, we all knew what to expect, and she just plain loved him fucking her!
Have read your stories and liked them. Do you think she would have enjoyed another man? I know i watched my wife with other men, never a threesome, and I know she enjoyed one guy more than any of the others. In fact he was the only one she ever invited for a threesome. I think part was the fact he was he first lover other than me.
I was my wife's first lover, but I suspect that she enjoyed having sex with our threesome friend more than with me (although she adamantly denies it.) It was okay, since I could tell she was enjoying herself immensely and I enjoyed watching the two them. (Knowing that I was going to be inside her next didn't hurt either!) As for her enjoying another man, I don't know. I doubt very much that she would have enjoyed being with a stranger or someone that she didn't know very well. One of the things that made our threesome partner work out was the fact that we'd been friends with him almost as long as we'd been married (over five year.) I can think of one other male friend who she probably would have enjoyed fucking... once I set it up between the two of them. (That's how our threesome got started; I arranged it by talking both her and our male friend into it. It wouldn't have taken place any other way.) We met this second male friend about the same time we met the first one (the one who was in the threesome with us.) I know that our second friend was physically attracted to my wife. (When he first met her, he tried to asked her out on a date before realizing that she was married.) I also know that my wife found him (our second friend) attractive as well. I suspect that I could have arranged a different threesome with our second friend that would have worked just like, but have been separate from, our first threesome. At one point, I actually considered arranging for my wife and our second friend to start fucking on a regular basis. Once she was comfortable having sex with both or our friends individually, I wanted to start having foursomes (or mini-gang bangs) with both of our friends and my wife and I getting together, then having all three of us guys take turns fucking her bareback. I think she would have loved the attention and I get super-hard just thinking about all that semen oozing back out of her pussy after all three of us guys had cum in her!
buzzgunner. Wife and I had similar interests. At one time she wanted to had a gangbang. Which I didn't like the idea of. But I was also against the idea of a mfm threesome, until it happened. She tried a few other guys, but found none she liked, compared to the first guy. As for a fact she was very disappointed. We had less than a handful of threesomes with him (Tim). But she did meet him on her own several times. Which I was fine with, because I traveled for my job, and I also had my share of flings. We had an open relationship, and always told each other everything. Tim arranged meetings with us and other couples he knew. So we got together with him several times. After awhile, he kinda lost interest, and she never, wanted to find another steady friend with benefits.
I'm wondering, how do you feel directly afterwards? I know from experience that when you're horny as hell you'd do things that you normwally won't do. So after you cum, is it still exciting to see another man fucking your wife or do you feel shame/jealousy? And when you meet again later? Do you guys talk about it or pretend it never happened until the next threesome? Doesn't it get akward?
Normally, I felt just as excited about it the whole time, even after it was over and he'd left. Sometimes, my wife and I would lay in bed and talk about it. Later (following days), I'd get together with our friend (just him and me) and we'd talk about fucking her; what we enjoyed the most about the previous time and what we were looking forward to the next time. He'd frequently talk about how amazing her pussy was and how he wished he could fuck her more often. (As it turned out, she felt the same way about him.)
The way i would want to be approached after something like that would be for hubby to come right out & say "we need to talk about what happened"! In fact, if he didn't make the first move I'm the kind of woman who simply HAS to talk things over, so I would broach the subject after giving him the time to pluck up the courage. The first time we swung (that is to say actually swapping partners) the sexual tension was such that neither of us could keep quiet about what had happened!!!!
