Divorce And Desire

Discussion in 'Sexual Health' started by lcfan, Apr 16, 2015.

  1. lcfan

    lcfan Guest

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    Hello everyone,

    I am in the middle of a divorce, and it's been a really difficult time for me sexually. One of the reasons for the divorce is that my wife really was never available sexually. That was a big change from when we were dating. I don't understand why there's a change when people get married, but I was definitely a victim of that in this case.

    Anyhow, it's been like 10 months since I've had sex, and it's driving me insane. I am trying to be a good guy and just suffer through it until the divorce is final, but a part of me always wants to find a FWB and just sext away, even though I don't think that will help at all. I don't know. Maybe it will. I'm definitely not looking for anything permanent. But this feeling of isolation is tough. Anyone else been there? Advice?

    -C
     
  2. sunfighter

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    Why in the world would you wait until the divorce is final? You don't jaywalk, either?
     
  3. Desera_xoxo

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    In a Females case I call them M.O.M (move on man) I think you should get back out there. Allow yourself to heal. Everyone needs somebody, even if its just texting.
     
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  4. lcfan

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    I'm waiting because I don't want to have to pay any more money. It's already cost me more than it should have. Alimony for a 2.5 year marriage when she gave up nothing??? REALLY? Divorce isn't cheap.
     
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  5. sunfighter

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    Yeah, I hear you. My divorce was uncontested, so I didn't have to worry about that.
     
  6. Desera_xoxo

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    Well I'm sorry to hear you're going through such a ruff divorce. I hope it gets better and you find happiness again.
     
  7. newbie-one

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    It's a damn good reason not to get married in the first place
     
  8. lcfan

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    Desera, thank you! I hope you are doing well!
     
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  9. lcfan

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    newbie-one, if I ever do it again...pre-nup. I can't believe that someone would be so evil. I believe that you should earn your way in this world, not take advantage of people.
     
  10. Aerianne

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    I didn't even know that alimony was a thing anymore.
     
  11. lcfan

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    Aerianne, I slept on a buddy's couch for 5.5 months until I reached an agreement. My lawyer called it "go-away money". I had to do it because she threw herself down the stairs, so my lawyer said I could never be alone with her again. She also faked a suicide attempt. Some people are evil.
     
  12. Ashalicious

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    Watch some live sex webcam sites on your own time. Chat with some nice ladies. That should fix you up until the divorce is final.
     
  13. Ashalicious

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    Wow.........
     
  14. Aerianne

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    Well, you really got a tiger by the tail! Sorry to hear that.
     
  15. shygurl170

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    I waited a year after we were separated before. I even considered dating. I wasn't ready prior to that. I have been enjoying my new found single status...maybe a little too much. ;).

    You have to do what you feel is best for you.
     
  16. Vanilla Gorilla

    Vanilla Gorilla Go Ape

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    Lolz, let us know how that goes
     
  17. I'minmyunderwear

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    whining about a relatively short sexual drought? no, not me.
     
  18. sunfighter

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    Every state has different divorce laws. I pay 30% of my income in alimony until I reach age 66.
     
  19. Vanilla Gorilla

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    Could you work out for us how much money that is in total divided by the number of shags you got?
     
  20. sunfighter

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    I'm tempted to do that, but in contrast to Icfan, I was married for 34 years. Too many shags to recall.
     

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