I cannot, for the life of me, orgasm. I've been trying, and 98% of the time masturbating is just not good. I rarely actually enjoy it, it usually feels like nothing. Fingering doesn't get me off, clit stim doesn't get me off, porn really isn't my thing. Any combination of those doesn't get me off. The most pleasure I get out of masturbating is when I apply pressure to my clit with the vibrator, it usually results in a numb clit, I feel like I'm getting so close, but I just can't release. Sometimes I'll hit a good spot, and an odd coolness will go across my legs, and it will feel amazing, but it will feel too good. It will feel too intense and I'll have to stop, I really can't do it anymore. It's like this with anything I could do to myself that actually gives me pleasure. I can't bring myself to have an orgasm, my boyfriend can't either, ugh. What is wrong?
Hello , i think you should relax and forgot trying to have A orgasm.Only relax and enjoy your "session". Only enjoy and Focus in your body is feeling. Trying to force a orgasm will do the opposite . Learn to enjoy and listen your body,i am sure you will have great orgasm; but don't forget avoid forcing it.
Still waiting on my first. >.< I don't think about it at all when I have sex, and I've been fighting through that feeling like I have to pee, I don't just "let it happen" to see if maybe it is an orgasm, but I no longer make my boyfriend stop when I feel it. I figure that if it's an orgasm coming on, it will eventually just happen if I let the good feelings continue. But alas, no orgasm yet. I often wonder if I'm one of the unlucky women who just can't do it, but I am still quite young, so maybe one day.
For the way you describe it: "and an odd coolness will go across my legs, and it will feel amazing, but it will feel too good. It will feel too intense and I'll have to stop", it seems to me like you were pretty close to come and you're holding back because of fear. What you need to understand is, that having an orgasm is a very strong feeling for a woman, and it is this very strong never experienced feeling that scares you from just letting everything go and reach the orgasm. I'm not a woman, however I can tell you from the many women I had sex with, that having an orgasm is definitively a very strong experience for woman. An orgasm can make a woman scream, curl their toes, bite or scratch their partner, shake their bodies, sometimes they even go unconscious for a little while. We men, just squirt some liquid, maybe moan a bit and that's it. lol Women have nothing to envy men when it comes to sexual pleasure. But yeah, I think if you're truly willing to have an orgasm, you need to take into account the psychological factor. You have to relax your mind, and just enjoy the moment, and let everything go. This is very important, specially because you're a woman. Keep up the practice, enjoy the road of discovering your body sexually and don't worry about not having an orgasm yet, with time it will come and it wont STOP, it will be amazing, but you can't give up. Oh and by the way, if you're feeling like you're about to pee during intercourse, it could be an indicator that you're about to have an squirting orgasm. Try to go pee before you have sex and if you still feel like peeing when having sex then that might just be the orgasm right there, just let it go and enjoy it. Oh yeah, let your bf know beforehand, just in case he doesn't like that type of stuff - but that'll be weird, I personally find it hot as fuck. lol. Who knows, you might be doing an awesome job and you're just worrying to much. Just relax, keep learning and it will come with time.
Some things to think about... get rid of the vibrator and just use your fingers, vibes can become addictive and it will actually become more difficult to orgasm Try and Kegel while you masterbate, it can help bring on an orgasm in some women. I also hold my breath when I do it and it's good! the need to pee can actually be a squirting orgasm, let it go and see what happens. how long are you trying? It can take a while, try and fantasize while you touch yourself and see if that helps. Put yourself in a scene and play it out in your mind. Good luck!!
I think the kegels are definitively worth to do, I'm not sure how exactly it affects women but I've heard many positive comments. I personally found them very useful when it comes to control of my sexual pleasure..
