Girl Talking Behind My Back

Discussion in 'Women's Forum' started by astrid1995, Feb 1, 2015.

  1. astrid1995

    astrid1995 Members

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    Hello,
    I don't know if this is the right place to post this but here it is. There is this girl that lives at my dorm, she is on my floor. We haven't talked once since I moved in, only greeted each other ( and it was always me who greeted her first ) . I knew that she wasn't fond of me because she liked the boy I was seeing at that time. Everyone thought I was crazy when I said that she hated me and no one believed me. So yesterday I found out that she was talking nasty stuff behind my back, that were each and one of them untrue. I don't care ehat she thinks of me as long as she doesn't talk about me to other people. This really pisses me off. Should I confront her about this?
     
  2. Heat

    Heat Smile, it's contagious! :) Lifetime Supporter

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    If you think that it will cause her to stop then perhaps you should. It rarely works and usually causes far more tension than resolution.

    People who do this usually do so for attention and to make themselves feel better. Ignoring her and what is being said defeats the reason for her doing it and may be more productive in the long run.
     
  3. Aerianne

    Aerianne Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    I agree with Heat.

    Be who you are. Do what you do. Let those things speak for themselves.
     
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  4. volunteer_tommy

    volunteer_tommy Elongated Member

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    I know that typically talk between girls about other people tends to be harsher and more damaging than talk between guys about people. That said, in my generation and town it really doesn't seem to make a difference anymore, and I know I've had shit-talkers from both genders on about me. So, here's what you're going to do: nothing. Part of maturity is knowing when to keep your mouth shut. This girl isn't being mature at the slightest. It's a real fucking pain in the ass sometimes because people like that try to make you WANT to snap, but the people who are actually worth spending time with will know better, or know not to judge before they've gotten to know you. Let the other idiots think what they want. They're not worth your time. That said, don't look down on them for being idiots, because they can't help it if they wanna act that way and you'll just make yourself look like you meet their expectations if you do (look down on them). The line between seeming and being is far thinner than most people think it is.

    That said, keep your ears out for news about her. I've had some people try to confront me directly, and I wound up embarrassing the hell out of them with news I'd picked up by listening to conversations and with my quick wit. People don't bother me anymore. I'm strange, though. You might not want to try that part.
     
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    put some piranhas in her bathtub. ..
     
  6. Irminsul

    Irminsul Valkyrie

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    Pull an axe out your book bag and put it in her back.
     
  7. RainyDayHype

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    You didn't hear this directly from her, so it's really just a rumor that she's talking about you. Everything you're being told may not be entirely true. I think you should just ignore it. Hopefully she finds something else to talk about other than you in due time.. Focus on studying, that's what's important.
     
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  8. secret_thinker

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  9. Moonglow181

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    always 2 sides to every story....i wonder if this other person is on some forum spreading the good cheer about you....that's what makes the world go round and round and round......I feel like I am reading an excerpt of a 12 year old's diary here.
     
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  10. I'll Be Waiting

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    Isn't that just what us women do? Talk
     
  11. Ashalicious

    Ashalicious Senior Member

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    Any chance of an update on this situation??
     
  12. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    from the person who posted 9 times and hasn't been back since february 9th? i have to say probably not.
     
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  13. Ashalicious

    Ashalicious Senior Member

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    It never hurts to ask though, dontcha think?
     
  14. I'minmyunderwear

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    hurts? no, i just wouldn't get my hopes up.
     
  15. dangermoose

    dangermoose Is a daddy

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    I love the clarity in this response, even if OP is long gone
     
  16. Ashalicious

    Ashalicious Senior Member

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    I totally agree. Excellent and mature advice.
     
  17. Irminsul

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    If a motherfucker is talkin shit about you for no reason

    Give that motherfucker a reason.
     
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  18. calgirl

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    She has a right to talk about anything she wants. You will go through life having this happen over and over because that is what people do. They talk about other people. It means nothing, truly.
     
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  19. IMjustfishin

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    aww hails naw ::snaps fingers and bobbles head::
     
  20. Sleeping Caterpillar

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    You have to think of women like objects. And when you're frustrated with an object, it's best to just put it down in a safe place, and get back to it later
     

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