How many of you CAN'T turn off your attachment tendency when you have sex with someone you like? A promiscuous man told me that I needed to let go of attachment during sex, and just see it as a purely physical act. I thought, "Are you kidding me? Sex with attachment feels mind-blowing" Some of my female friends tell me that the more men you sleep with, the easier it is to move on and just forget about them. The only way I don't get attached is when I don't like the person, which defeats the purpose of having sex in the first place. If I like someone and it feels good, you bet I will bond with them. How many of you get attached during sex no matter what? Or are you able to shut off yourself? Hope that makes sense!
If there isn't potential there, I'm not bothering with sex. I don't have to be with a love of my life, but I do have to be with a friend.
why try one way or the other? if you feel attachment then it comes natural and is a natural feeling, why fight it? i dont understand that.
Ace k-I'm not interested in fighting it. This was my promiscuous friend's suggestion. Just bc it's easy for him to not get attached doesn't mean that others will be like him
I dont really get sex with no attachment. I've never been physically attracted to someone unless I'm also mentally attracted to them. I dont have to be madly in love with someone to have sex but I have to at least like them and feel some sort of bond.
I'm saving myself for jesus, because my school had an abstinence counselor who, without ever explicitly mentioning that they were talking about sex, told us all that every time tape sticks to something, it's a little less sticky, and our sticky will be like unsticky tape if we stick our sticky in or on anyone.
I can only have sex with people I'm already "attached to". I've always been grossed out at the idea of being with someone who I wasn't in a relationship with long enough to form some kind of bond with, at least. Attachment is a must.
I don't think they'd thought that far into the metaphor, they mostly seemed interested in sticky things - as you might expect from the type of perv who's dedicated their lives to sabotaging the sex lives of anyone stupid enough to listen to them.
I dont really get sex with no attachment. I've never been physically attracted to someone unless I'm also mentally attracted to them. I dont have to be madly in love with someone to have sex but I have to at least like them and feel some sort of bond.
I answered yes, based on if i like the person. But i have had a few one nighters where i considered it just sex and nothing more. Based on if i have feelings for them then yes.
