Rules for FWB

Discussion in 'Free Love' started by angelica peaches, Jul 18, 2014.

  1. angelica peaches

    angelica peaches Member

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    I believe there should be rules for FWB:

    Do not come over without calling.
    Not allowed to spend the night.
    Agreed to see other people.
    If you meet someone, it is over.
     
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  2. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    hell, i sometimes wish these rules would apply to friends without benefits too. specifically coming over without calling.
     
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  3. Reverand JC

    Reverand JC Willy Fuckin' Wonka

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    It's all up to the FWB's. Any type of relationship is open to their own rules. If you have those rules than those are your rules of your relationships. Just as my rules of my relationships are just that.

    C/S,
    Rev J
     
  4. angelica peaches

    angelica peaches Member

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    Yes I agree, these are my rules... we can all make our own rules ;)
     
  5. buzzgunner

    buzzgunner 180 grains of diplomacy Lifetime Supporter

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    I think rules are unique to each situation. For example, when my wife and I were in a threesome with a close male friend, he and she were effective friends with benefits and NONE of the rules that you list applied. For example:

    1. He NEVER called ahead and showing up at our front door unannounced was a commonplace occurrence. If we were home alone at the time and knew that no other guests were expected, an extended bout of fucking was virtually guaranteed. OTOH, if he arrived when we already had company (typically folks that he also knew), then nothing sexual would take place or even be hinted at.
    2. He would occasionally spend the night (in our guest bedroom). This usually occurred if we spent the evening fucking and it went really late. Usually my wife would sleep with me, but occasionally with him. Staying overnight virtually guaranteed another vigorous round of sex in the morning before he left.
    3. Agree to see other people? Well, we (my wife and/or I) didn't see anyone else but he had a regular girl friend in a city 90 minutes away, who he fucked regularly. I don't know if she knew about us, but we knew all about her and my wife was completely unconcerned that he was regularly fucking someone else, so long as she (my wife) got her share.
    4. If you meet someone, it's over? Well, see the previous entry. That was certainly not true for us.
    So, I'm not saying that there's anything wrong with the rules you list, just that I think they're subject to individual taste.
     
  6. Wizardofodd

    Wizardofodd Senior Member

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    There should be rules about one person starting 15 of the last 40 threads under new posts. ;)
     
  7. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Lifetime Supporter

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    Huh, I lobby for overnights. But my situation is deeper than FWBs.
    And if it is FWB, why do they have to be single? I gather you are ok with being the other woman on the side from your posts, so why this rule? Retrospect? Limiting the numbers?

    And it is a direct contradiction to the rule you placed above it.


    But calling before appearing is mandatory. (Especially when one lives in an apartment with enough security to protect the Crown Jewels.)
     
  8. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Lifetime Supporter

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  9. PaullyNormous

    PaullyNormous Members

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    I need a few friends with benefits
     
  10. buzzgunner

    buzzgunner 180 grains of diplomacy Lifetime Supporter

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    I sure wouldn't mind one myself. Our threesome was almost 30 years ago and nothing even remotely like it has taken place since then!
     
  11. Wizardofodd

    Wizardofodd Senior Member

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  12. TheSamantha

    TheSamantha Member

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    WTF? I almost always spend the night with fwbs, often even cuddling. There's really no difference in my mind between a fwb and a relationship. Except with relationships they start harassing you to go up the butt or without condoms ("I just really want to come inside you.") Waa waa. Up the butt is cool but without condoms is a complete no-no.
     
  13. TheSamantha

    TheSamantha Member

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    Hey, maybe I'm polyamorous...
     
  14. IMjustfishin

    IMjustfishin Member

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    ok rule number 1 is just conventional politeness, but you should change number 2. recently this month i spent the whole weekend with my "friend". we stayed at a hotel from sat to monday.

    if you're scared of getting feelings then fwb is probably not for you. i can hang out with a girl all i want, but when its time to go theres no hard feelings. and id get pissed as fuck if a girl ever kicked me out of her place in the middle of the night with stank dick!
     
  15. WOLF ANGEL

    WOLF ANGEL Senior Member - A Fool on the Hill Lifetime Supporter

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    It's been a while since I was able to avail myself of the FWB option.
    Most have passed away, into monogamous relationships ... or on
    - I guess one of the downsides of an olde hippy with limited circle of 'close' friends
    However,
    - Still Lookin'! ;)
     
  16. tammy126

    tammy126 Members

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    That's one of the rules made between my hubby and I. My sex friend never spends the night. If we host a weekend party, everybody just sleeps where they are at. We don't use our bed for outside sexual adventures unless both of us are there. My husbands den is the place where either he or I play with others.
     
  17. tammy126

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    My only rule for me is that they promise to keep their sex between only us. I nor my husband want an STD and I always tell my husband if I plan on having Allen over. Just like he tells Allen if he is going to screw around with Anne. I love texting Allen and tell him I need him and he tells what time he can be there so I'm naked in bed waiting for him to arrive. When I travel he and Allen or his wife as well play all the time. My husband is a bottom and loves to be fucked.
     
  18. lcfan

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    I guess it depends on the situation. Have you been drinking before having sex? Staying over would be fine. Especially if you plan to wake each other up in a special way. ;)
     
  19. Kitten_Purr

    Kitten_Purr Newbie

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    I second that. FWB doesn't ever seem to work. Someone always brings their feelings to the table.
     
  20. CntryGrl

    CntryGrl Newbie

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    Yes and no in my opinion. Calling before - yes, staying the night - I like them to spend the night, agree to see other people - yes, depending upon the level of the committed relationship but if one person says it's done then respect their wishes.
     

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