Is it really cheating?

Discussion in 'Love and Sex' started by Little_Spaghetti, Jun 20, 2014.

  1. Little_Spaghetti

    Little_Spaghetti Member

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    The internet has really caused a lot of social miscommunication. Is it really cheating to get nudies from other girls that you will never meet? How do you feel about it versus how you would feel if your significant other was doing it.
     
  2. Sallysmart

    Sallysmart Raynstorm Serenade

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    I don't think it's cheating but is it necessary if you are in a good relationship? I see some posted but while in a good relationship I would never request any to be in my possession. I got a nudie right here at home when I want to see the man parts. If I am single again I might ask, but pics don't really do as much for me as having the real thing in my bed anyway.
     
  3. AmericanTerrorist

    AmericanTerrorist Bliss

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    Cheating to me has to do more with if someone is lying or not. So, yea, if behind my back he was exchanging pictures with someone and there was some kind of connection/communication/emotion behind it and he didn't want to tell me....then yes, I would consider it to be. Basically if he felt like it was something he could tell me about it wouldn't be and if he felt the need to hide something, then yes, I would consider it cheating.
     
  4. vance2335

    vance2335 Banned

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    If you don't think it is something you would want your partner to do then don't do it.
     
  5. enhancer13

    enhancer13 Senior Member

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    This chalks it up pretty good. Myself I do not get being with someone if you feel you need to do things behind their backs and i do not want anything to do with someone who feels they need to do stuff behind mine. If there is no communication and trust there is nothing for me.
     
  6. mudlife73

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    saving a pic from a chick on the net (google) is not cheating but getting a pic from a chick on the net that you chat with on a personal level to me would be crossing the line. Even if the person is in China and you'll never see them it's still wrong in my book.

    A person has cheated long before he or she gets under the blankets....sex is not the line.
     
  7. MochaMood

    MochaMood Member

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    It is cheating if it violates the understanding between those in the relationship. Otherwise, no.
     
  8. MikeE

    MikeE Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    It doesn't matter if we think its cheating. It matters if she thinks its cheating.
     
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  9. LM2014

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    How does she KNOW you won't meet these girls?

    My husband watches porn when he masturbates, but I would have a serious problem with him getting nudie pictures from another woman. That would be cheating and I would divorce him. He knows that I don't tolerate cheating and so he wouldn't do anything where he was contacting another woman. Again, for me cheating means divorce, not "let's work it out" or anything like that. That is the one thing I don't tolerate.
     
  10. Just_a_woman

    Just_a_woman Member

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    My husband is free to fuck whoever he wants. Having said that, I'd find it sad if all he could get were pictures off a stranger on the Internet. His cock has higher standards.
     
  11. tommeem1

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    Depends on the couple and what they define as cheating.
     
  12. BitterAsTheCud

    BitterAsTheCud Member

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    I personally would be unhappy with it. And I would not swap pictures with someone while I was in a relationship. I wouldn't even be talking to someone in that way if I had a partner.
     
  13. angelica peaches

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    I don't consider it cheating..... to me you have to actually do something physical to cheat.
     
  14. Karen_J

    Karen_J Visitor

    Pictures are really nothing.
     
  15. MikeE

    MikeE Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    ^^
    Pictures aren't nothing. They are enough to maybe cause this woman to look elsewhere for a partner.

    This is a good opportunity for the OP. He gets to see how the two of them deal with a situation where one thinks something is trivial and the other disagrees.

    And, if the OP is unwilling to forgo these nudes, if he is willing to end the relationship over them, then he doesn't think they are trivial either.

    Is she right? Is she wrong? It doesn't matter. Right or wrong, she's the woman she is. And the OP has to deal with her, not "her, if she were thinking right"
     
  16. iriegnome

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    In a word (IMHO), yes.. It is a form of cheating. But like someone else said, it is only cheating really if there are lie's involved. If you partner knows about them and is cool with it, no it is not cheating. But, if you are hiding them and lying about it, then it is cheating. All depends on the point of view of you and your partner.
     
  17. VerySexual

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    i agree with Mochamood.

    Just a woman, are you free to fuck whoever you want to?
     
  18. happilyinlove

    happilyinlove with myself :p

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    I'd be pissed if it was done behind my back.

    And I think if you're doing it, and you feel guilty for it…its probably cheating on some level.
     
  19. Silvertop

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    Depends on why you keep picture.
     
  20. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    written this way, the name makes me think of a guy from saudi arabia or something.
     

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