Virginity

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by klpic, May 26, 2014.

  1. klpic

    klpic Member

    Messages:
    73
    Likes Received:
    6
    I was wondering if any one still goes down the isle / sets up home with someone and is a virgin on the first night together ?
     
  2. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

    Messages:
    59
    Likes Received:
    9,110
    yeah, i'm sure someone does..
     
  3. klpic

    klpic Member

    Messages:
    73
    Likes Received:
    6
    only one shame on you all lol
     
  4. mudlife73

    mudlife73 Member

    Messages:
    150
    Likes Received:
    13
    my friends got married a few years back and they were both virgins, religious values. He got teased a lot and they kept telling him "what happens if she's a star fish?"

    Well about a month before the wedding she gave him a present, she had gone to the sex store and bought lotions and toys and told him that once they are married they'd have fun. All the stuff was in the packages so it was all unused. They took a week off when they got married and he told me later that they went like bunnies.
     
  5. klpic

    klpic Member

    Messages:
    73
    Likes Received:
    6
    good for them.
     
  6. sunfighter

    sunfighter Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

    Messages:
    3,814
    Likes Received:
    286
    This weekend I met a beautiful 20-year-old woman who is a virgin. She is extremely sexy looking and is a Christian. She doesn't want to wait until marriage. She does want to wait until she is sure it would be a loving experience. No, I did not volunteer.
     
    1 person likes this.
  7. *MAMA*

    *MAMA* Perfectly Imperfect

    Messages:
    6,271
    Likes Received:
    278
    Everyone who doesn't is a dirty sinner, and will surely spend eternity in the lake of fire.
     
    2 people like this.
  8. Meliai

    Meliai Banned

    Messages:
    25,868
    Likes Received:
    18,279
    I know a dude who didn't even kiss his girlfriend/now wife until their wedding day. He belonged to some weird fundamentalist Christian church.
     
  9. Karen_J

    Karen_J Visitor

    I hope not!

    I'm trying my best to forget all that.
     
  10. Asmodean

    Asmodean Slo motion rider

    Messages:
    50,556
    Likes Received:
    10,126
    Why not? If they really do it on a voluntarily basis I don't see why we (you) should hope this never happens anymore. To each their own. Right?
     
  11. Karen_J

    Karen_J Visitor

    It seems dysfunctional. The couple may be sexually incompatible, and not know it until it's too late.
     
  12. *MAMA*

    *MAMA* Perfectly Imperfect

    Messages:
    6,271
    Likes Received:
    278
    Sometimes I wonder how many people were married as virgins, and are having terrible sex and don't know any better.
     
  13. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Lifetime Supporter

    Messages:
    17,539
    Likes Received:
    1,351
    Mama, have you read Love and Sex recently?
    They know.

    I do know couples who were married as virgins. They came from communities that expected that, and they don't engage in western media to any great degree.
    Those things combined make them very happy.
    I'm happy for them, even as it sounds unbelievable.
     
  14. *MAMA*

    *MAMA* Perfectly Imperfect

    Messages:
    6,271
    Likes Received:
    278
    I haven't read over there very much. I believe people can absolutely be happy marrying as virgins. I just wonder if the ones cut off from media, most internet, etc. (like extreme fundamentalists) would know if something was amiss.
     
  15. Asmodean

    Asmodean Slo motion rider

    Messages:
    50,556
    Likes Received:
    10,126
    I know those people too. It doesn't sound unbelievable to me at all (I kind of pity the people who can't imagine other people living happy but such other lifes as themselves really..)!

    But there are also still a lot of married people who don't know any better or who suspect it but don't do anything about their terrible sex life, I'm sure... Not sure if most of them are in our parts of the world though.
     
  16. *MAMA*

    *MAMA* Perfectly Imperfect

    Messages:
    6,271
    Likes Received:
    278
    It's not that I can't imagine anyone different than me living happily. I'm just curious if they would know when it's bad.

    My lifestyle is not one I would ever recommend. It something people should only do if they feel strongly inclined to do so. There's no need to pity me.
     
  17. Asmodean

    Asmodean Slo motion rider

    Messages:
    50,556
    Likes Received:
    10,126
    I wasn't thinking of you when I said that just to be clear!
     
  18. *MAMA*

    *MAMA* Perfectly Imperfect

    Messages:
    6,271
    Likes Received:
    278
    Mhmmmmmm :p
     
  19. Karen_J

    Karen_J Visitor

    I'm sure some people don't find their sex lives to be very good, whether or not they are aware that it could be much better. I've been with a few guys whose sense of timing was very different from my own, or did something highly annoying during sex, or the things that turned him on didn't appeal to me. If I had married one of those guys as a virgin 100 years ago, I might have gone through life thinking that sex was equally bad for every woman.

    Everybody has to decide for themselves what level of risk they are comfortable with, and nothing is ever risk-free. Ironically, the highest risk of all is aiming for zero risk, because you have a 100% chance of living a boring life. That's essentially sitting in a rocking chair and waiting to die.
     
  20. *MAMA*

    *MAMA* Perfectly Imperfect

    Messages:
    6,271
    Likes Received:
    278
    For the first part, that's kind of what was getting at. I wonder if they would just assume sex isn't fun for women.

    For the second part. That's exactly how I feel. It's still not something I would ever suggest to anyone (maybe in jest). As you well know, if you have the mental and emotional compatibility for it..... Holy shit is it a whole lot of fun.
     
    Fred64 likes this.

Share This Page

  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
    Dismiss Notice