Yeah, it was doing four positions with a 62-year-old back. I'm spending the long Memorial Day weekend with her, so I'll be tested again. She's nine years younger, calls me her "old man". I love the way it's going.
57 this year. Still need ejaculation at least 4-5 times per week, sometimes more depending on schedule etc.
And for me! ..and obviously for my wife too..we just celebrated our anniversary this past week...where she gave me a 'blowjob for the AGES!!'..I still am weak in the knees .....of course I reciprocated.. (me 62 she 56)
Hi Everyone My story and a request: I am in my mid sixties and still have a strong libido. Unfortunately my wife has a zero sex drive , despite us having enjoyed an active sex life for many years , and probably due to health problems. I believe in the adage " Use it or lose it " So I am a daily visitor to the gym and an ardent masturbator, to keep the juices flowing. The masturbation I see as a health helper and of course it is very pleasant. But I do find it lonely - no one to share the fun with. I would like to hear from others in a similar position to me , both male and female ....
Is there anyway for your wife to find solutions and alternatives to help her health and recapture her sex drive? I lost mine for a long time due to health issues too and I am please (thrilled!!) to have it return. I am kind of in the same boat, mostly that I depend on self-pleasuring (although to have some sex with a partner when we can manage it.. long distance relationship). It's hard when one partner is unable or unwilling to have sex and the other one craves a sexual connection, especially after being married for a long time.
Thanks so much for your reply . The first communication I have had on this topic with anyone ... it helps ! My wife suffered from the Big C a few years ago , Naturally a big shock for her - and a turnoff for her . She is on an anti hormone medication which will continue for another year . My guess is that a post menopausal woman with a further medication induced reduction in oestrogen will suffer a drop in libido . Maybe when she comes off her medication in a years time she will rediscover her drive . But maybe it will never return . In the meantime we cannot even cuddle in bed . But I am fortunate , I guess , to still have my health and libido and can still fantasize ! Best wishes to you Annwyn
You're very welcome. I can relate. I've had cancer three times and didn't think I'd ever recover from it. It can be a huge shock and really affect your self esteem. I thought my sex life was far behind me and never though I would recapture my sex drive. But I did.. big time!! I had to get off of all of the drugs and re-educate myself on sex and in some ways educate myself for the first time. I do not take any hormones and have absolutely no problems with lubrication (I'm horny and wet all the time). A lot of this attitude. If you think you can, you will... I posted some ideas that might help on my journal.. apparently it stuck a cord with people because I've been blown away by the amount of views it's gotten... http://www.hipforums.com/modules/Journal/viewentry.php?journalid=4327 Like I said, been there, done that. Things can change. I hope you can find some solutions. If you would like to know the things I've done that has helped, please let me know.
I am in a similar situation, so masturbation is a great help. I cant understand why people get so paranoid about it, its a shame we have to hide away to feel some pleasure after all a cock or clit is simply an appendage like the fingers and toes.