Hi. I'm 49 been happily married for 28 years but recently been really struggling with bisexual urges. I went with a couple of guys when I was 15 or 16 but nothing since. Anybody else experienced this feeling?
not bi myself but getting married to a womon who is, cheating will be a deal breaker, if I can't go with other womyn she can't go with men. Any non-open relationship needs to be that way.
the implication in what I said was it is cheating unless the one you are with knows, understands and is open to it - in other words you have an agreed open relationship.
Love who you love, be open and honest with everybody, and don't hurt others. That's probably a good start.
I guess I'm really fortunate in that I am married and bi and in a wonderfully very open marriage. We feel that by having an open marriage you remove all the lies and deceit and really that is what causes such jealousy and anger in any relationship. Neither of us has to lie and say "i'm just going fishing" or "I'm working late". We just say "I'm going out today" or "I'm meeting up with a friend". Each of us knows what that means, no one brings anyone home (sacred us space), always use protection and stick to the rules we made up and agreed to. Trust. And at times we get to play together at Swingers Clubs.
I am married and also bi. I love woman but love cock as well. For many years, I struggled with this but have recently come to grips with it. My wife knows of my desires and we sometimes share in them. There have been a few times I have met independantly with a fwb as she has with one of her's but not often. Not sure if your wife knows or if she does if she will understand. That is a chance you will have to take. Either decide to share it with her or not... Either way, be safe and look for a regular as it makes it easier and less of a chance to get something. Happy screwing!
I am bisexual and married. Feel free to pm me. My wife doesn't know that I play. I struggled with whether to act on my urges or not but finally gave in and did it. Haven't looked back. No more going weeks without sex. My gay lover wants it as much as I do. Close to every night
Sure their are a lot of guys like you out there. Married and bi or just bicurious. Depending on how you feel on being the whole "is it cheating?" or "should I tell my wife?" ... I would say to try and do it. You really don't know if its a fantasy or something you really want to do, or if you even like it ... until you give it a shot. My advice would be to find out the area trolling spots ... and when you get up a bit of nerve ... give them a look. You'll know if you're willing to go through with it when you're standing in the middle of the opportunity. At that moment when your face to face with another man ... your heart is racing ... just reach out and grab it ... go from there.
I'm 20 years married and have recently started to develop strong bi urges and I am considering acting on them. Why does this happen to so many married men? Is it a lack of attention from the wife? I envy people who have open relationships. My wife recoiled when I once discussed the idea. There's no way that I could tell her that I fantasise about sex with guys. The sanctity of married is an amazing thing but can't be and isn't adhered to by everyone.
sanctity ˈsaŋ(k)tɪti/ noun 1. the state or quality of being holy, sacred, or saintly. So, the state of being sacred of marriage. What the fruck does that even mean? Gives me a headache when you lot complain about attention from the wife then include things like sanctity of marriage in the same paragraph And why in your age range in particular? Seriously, what the hell man
it depends on how strongly moral you are. and how important this thing is to you. if you love your wife and if it's just to get your rocks off, it's probably not worth it to cheat. if it's more than that, if it's something you absolutely need, your wife can't help you in this department. some might consider it a ''bad'' thing to cheat on your wife, but you do only live once. there is no such thing as a ''bad'' thing. you gotta do what you want to do in this life. it's all you have. i don't envy you though. i'm a monogamous guy and i like it that way. luckily i am only attracted to men. which doesn't mean i am incapable of cheating, but i can't imagine monogamy lasting at all, in fact, when a person is attracted to both sexes. which goes to say, you either have to figure yourself out before you get married, or you gotta suck it up and go with the cheating after marriage.
I was bi-curious from the age of 30. I never did anything about it until I was 59, when it got so strong I had to know if it was me. I went with my first man and loved it all. I always felt I was a woman in feeling so took that role. I feel at home with bra, panties, blouse, skirt, and stockings, along with shoulder length wig. I was hooked from day one and have used that role since. I knew I was a true bi-sexual and nothing would ever be the same again. I have had anal, given it and now have nipples over 1/2" long and ultra sensitive. My wife, who is my soul mate knows nothing. I see it as something different, not cheating, even though it is. I have tried a few times to give it up but can't because it is in my brain that I am a woman when with a man, Weird I know but nothing I can do about it. I have reached the point of no return.
I have a few mates that I jerk off with and give each other head. My wife knows we watch porn and jerk off but that's it. We catch up every 2 weeks or so at one of our houses, get drunk, watch porn and suck each other off. Love it!! It took us a while to get there but we started slowly and gradually progressed, its a bit of fun on the side and something different.
I don't see what it has to do with being married. Either you're married, or you're not. Maybe you're just gay, if being bi is such a big deal to you, or changes anything about being married.
Ditto........don't want to screw up my marriage but I want to give myself to another guy. These urges are getting to be a real bitch.
