I Want to Try Gay Anal, etc. but Don't Know Who to Approach

Hey guys,

N00bie here from the Pittsburgh area, yell at me if need be. Anyways, I consider myself a very straight guy (women are just fucking creatures of beauty in my mind) but I like to keep my mind open. You can have gay sex without being gay I've always figured.

But I don't know who to approach or how to approach them. It kinda creeps me out asking someone I know or see on campus every day but just imagining a cock in my ass and, well use your imagination, just kinda turns me on. Plus it might be cool. lol Any suggestions on what I can do? I have no/little problem accepting my...er desires...it's just finding a way to act upon them.

Are there any safe places on the internet?

Thanks ya'll.

 

You should just go to a bar or such and get a feel (no pun) for different types and how guys are. You don't want most types of guys for this - take your time and proceed with antenna
That's such a personal thing I guess if I didn't know someone I sure would want to get to know them first.

(That's what I imaginate anyway. I imagine that's a pretty...whatever thing that if some bastard (or idiot I guess?) was weird or rough or anything I would get pissed and violent like instant. I imaginate there are more idiots and bastards than not...)

 

I believe the term is gaynal.

 

Ok that was funny don't matter who y'ar ~

 

Yup. You can have m2m sex without being gay. You are mentioning "campus", so I guess, you are a college dude willing to learn the ropes or explore his sexuality as the PC form for it really is.

All the things that look simple and easy are only so on the first sight.

Sure, you can walk over to the first gay bar/club/sauna/cruising area in your town, meet someone, and hope that he'll be nice, kind and reasonably gentle. HOPE, however is neither a strategy nor a plan... It is a bit like playing a mild form of Russian Roulette. It can go right, and yeah, it can go terribly wrong, too.

A smart thing here would be to connect either via local sites or via national portals. (Remember, Google is your friend here!) Meet a guy who seems attractive, smart, and yeah, 'normal' as in not a freak. Have coffees at the Bucks and shoot the breeze for a while. You do NOT have to fall in love, develop life-long relationship or even deep friendship. But yeah, it would sure help if there is a bit of a vibe going on there.

If anything seems wrong, not trustworthy, shady, not inspiring confidence, move on. There are so many other dudes out there who are worth your while, and who would be happy to do the honors.

Once you connect, go and enjoy yourselves. But make sure that you understand each other, have a degree of trust in each other, etc.

Remember that a dude who you have had absolutely no contact with does NOT know your noobie background. He also has little reason to care (some people always do, and the others don't). His default is going to be that you are dude adjusted to the play, so he simply goes on with it... Not what you may really want if you are a noobie

KD

 

Dat just don't make sense to me, keyword: gay sex...now how can gay sex not be gay?

 

well i guess you might not have to BE gay, but if you're a man with another man in your ass.... you can't really deny participating in homosexual relations.

unless you're into the whole no labels thing

 

Oh yeah, just add "no homo" and it ain't gay anymore. I wanna suck ur cock so bad, no homo!

 

Guys,

A dude can give it a try. He may or may not like it. Having sex with another guy won't make anyone gay.

What really makes someone gay is a pattern of his sexual behavior. If a guys tries, and carries on meeting other guys for sex and/or romance, he is gay (in or out of his closet). But if he tries, and calls it quits, he simply ain't gay.

I have come across a number of gay guys who have had sex with women. They tried. They figured out this was not really what floated their boats, and reverted to their usual pattern of sexual behavior...

KD

 

And one more point...

Being gay has lost much of its stigma over the last decades. Having sex with other men is certainly not a societal default for most men. But the actual notion of m2m sex has received a degree of acceptance hitherto unseen.

A guy who has a m2m sexual experience is far less likely to see himself as a member of the gay community now than it was a case 20 years ago. Heterosexuality for men remains a very fragile concept but a number of men will agree that a situational homosexuality happens, and that there is really no reason for them to start identifying themselves as being gay, flying the rainbow flag, and marching around in gay pride parades.

KD

 

I'm not sure if I could give you much information on where to find the 'right' guy for the job, just be careful so you don't get caught up iin a bad situation.
As for the sexuality labels, I figure everyone is on a gay/straight scale, with one end being totally gay and the other being totally straight. I think my people fall somewhere within the two extremes, whether they act out any of their ideas or not. Bi is not Bad.

 

I kno this was a couple of months ago. But if your still wanting to. I'm from pittsburgh. i'm a bottom tho. but if you need some help. you can ask me questions.

 

I'm not good at picking up guys in bars etc, and get most of my partners thru websites. I've found that I've been approached by a number of guys on swingers websites, who describe themselves as straight, married etc but who are curious about trying anal sex. Although a bit apprehensive when they saw the size of my cock, they have all enjoyed the experience. So maybe swingers websites might be a place to try.