What are the chances that she's pregnant?

Discussion in 'Birth Control' started by Deleted member 248652, Feb 12, 2013.

  1. I'm in a tough situation right now and could really use some help.

    About a month or two back, I was in a relationship with my girlfriend of 2 years. During this time, we had a big argument about her ex-turned-bestfriend, who I thought she shouldn't be spending time with. I said some regrettably messed up things to her and we just took a break from our relationship for a little while. That weekend she went to visit her family in ohio. By saturday, one of my friends from school invited me to a party at a classmates house. Feeling the need to let off some steam, I went with him. There was lots of alcohol, and the party was wild so I drank many beers from the coolers and began chatting with a girl i recognized from one of my classes, Bernadette. She wasn't at all pretty (pimples, oafish face, greasy hair, looked about 250lbs) had a bad attitude, and was a bully to some freshmen, but i found myself sharing a couple drinks with her regardless. We talked and flirted for a while as the shots kept coming. Eventually wasted and horny we started groping, kissing then went off into one of the bedrooms inside. I didn't have a condom on me at at the time so we had sex unprotected through most of the night. In the beggining she told me to make sure I pulled out, but after a few hours it slipped both our minds and I stupidly came all inside her. The next morning I awoke sober and sick to my stomach about what happened that evening and fled the house early while she was sleeping. This was a month ago. Yesterday I got an urgent call from Bernadette while me and my girlfriend were starting to make up, and she said we needed to meet up immediately. I met her a sonic and she told me she might be pregnant. When we did it, apparently she was in the second week of her cycle and missed her period recently. She said she's been having mourning sickness and had to go to the bathroom alot in the past couple of weeks. I nearly had a heart attack right there. I called up my girlfriend and tried to explain the situation honestly to her, but she furiously broke up with me while crying over the phone. I feel terrible and don't know what to do. Me and this other girl are both in high school and I had plans to go to college. I can't be a father. Especially with a girl like that. I don't know what I'm gonna do
     
  2. xxaru

    xxaru Guru of Porn

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    This is just stupid. Tell her to take a pregnancy test and get back to you.

    If she really is pregnant, then you have to determine whether she's going to have the baby or not. If she is, then you'd better get a paternity test to be sure it's yours, cause if she fucked you bareback after just a few mins of convo one night, she very well may have done it with others as well.

    Best case scenario if you get to the point of the paternity is you find out you're not the daddy :)

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vt2i0ts-uck&feature=share&list=LLwn5o5qb-O3-Vv7enQMfUdw"]YOU ARE NOT THE FATHER!!!! - YouTube
     
  3. LetLovinTakeHold

    LetLovinTakeHold Cuz it will if you let it

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    Lmao you knocked up an oaf

    Smooth move dumbass



    But in all seriousness, listen to dude above me.
     
  4. whitterbug2012

    whitterbug2012 Member

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    Are you asking for advice on how to get your girl back or what to do about the possible pregnancy...or both?
     
  5. Look guys, I appreciate the help, but the put downs aren't benefiting me at all right now. I'm frustrated and scared enough as it is. We were supposed to take a pregnancy test yesterday but she was working late after school and I couldn't see her. We're gonna try again but I honestly don't want to find out, and hope that if we do, the test doesn't come out positive. She said she didn't have sex with anyone else but even with her features I refuse to completely believe it without facts. The only alibi to her story is a mutual friend of hers I know who said that the party was the only time she'd seen Bernadette go out in a while. This friend is a good girl but I wouldn't put it past her to lie on her behalf anyway. Either way this feels like a nightmare. I feel so alone without my girlfriend especially.
     
  6. I'll take any advice that could help any aspect of this situation. I cant imagine how to fix this problem
     
  7. ChrissySunshine

    ChrissySunshine like disco lemonade

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    Have you thought Bernadette might be lying? Because chicks do that sometimes
     
  8. Lying about being pregnant? God I would hope so. I'll only know by the end of the day.

    I'm going with her to buy some pregnancy tests after school, though i'm not sure which brands are the most reliable.
     
  9. xxaru

    xxaru Guru of Porn

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    They're all reliable. And remember, it's the stupidity of your own actions that have brought you to this place.

    Had you at least waited until after you had a pregnancy confirmation and a dna test proving that it was your kid before you went and started confessing everything to your gf, you may have held onto her for a bit longer.
     
  10. whitterbug2012

    whitterbug2012 Member

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    Well first off, you definitely should've waited to tell your girlfriend. But since you didn't, it depends on how much you want her back. Buy her something...doesn't have to be anything nice or with too much thought behind it, but it really helps. Even something little like her favorite candy will do. Or take her to dinner. Try explaining it to her exactly as you have phrased it with us. Stressing that you were drunk, upset, and how ugly the girl was will help. Explaining your worries about your education will too. And if you really like her, explain you want some sort of future with her be it a few years or forever. Apologize and just ask her to try and understand. Give her some time too cool off first if you haven't already done so. Chances are she'll be thinking about it and will be able to talk to you with less fighting. You're only human and you're still young, you make mistakes.
    Second, you might have got this girl pregnant. Or she could be lying. It could also not be your kid. If she is, there is a decision that the BOTH of you have to make. First and most obvious, raise the kid. Second, adoption. Third, abortion. It is not my job to provide you with my opinions on either but I hope if she is pregnant, you will consider the first two options before the third. Being a grown up means accepting responsibility for your actions and taking care of them. It means doing things you don't really want to as well. People come into your life for a reason, so maybe this girl had a reason. We'll use "if" in an effort to not offend anyone or start a religious debate, not question his existence...if God is real, he is giving you this child for a reason though. You can still finish school and go to college...both of you. It'll just take a little extra work. It'll only make you stronger, smarter, and more proud if you've finished school and helped raised a child.
    Next time wrap it up or at least pull out. No, they don't always work, but it still lessens your chances. There is also the chance that her body is tricking her, she's just being paranoid, or she could miscarry and the problem will take care of itself...just try and be rational and respectful with both girls, whatever decisions you make and good luck to you. I'm not an expert or anything, but I hope offering up my opinions will help you decide what you want to do and how to go about it. Let us know what happens.
     
  11. ^Thank You for your thoughtful response. It's really helping. My girlfriend is who I think about most often. I wish she had heard me out completely before dumping me, but I understand where she's coming from. As soon as this ordeal is taken care of tomorrow, things will be better. I'm praying this other girl isn't pregnant, there's just cant be a way. Looking back, I feel like my chances are pretty low. Some of my friends i talked to said that they had sex while ovoloating and nothing ever happened, so i'm hopeful that even though I did cum inside Bernadette alot, there's only a very slim chance that she could've conceived.

    Like we agreed, I met up with her at a rite aid pharmacy near the school to get some pregnancy tests. Thank god nobody I knew from school was there. When I got in, she looked really annoyed and started getting her attitude about me taking so long to get there, even though she finishes classes before me. We got a few clear blues and first responses cause an aunt of hers used the same brands when she was pregnant. There was a long line to the register and as we waited she started to get impatient, saying she needed to take a dump and TALKING LOUDLY about how the people in front of us should "hurry the f*ck up". I got her to quiet down eventually, but the shit was embarrassing. I dropped her off at her folks house and didn't say a word to her on the way there. She didn't even thank me for taking her home. I was beyond furious.

    I'm gonna go bck to her house early tomorrow morning when her mom, brothers and dad are out the house so we can test and get the best results. When i find out shes not pregnant, I can finally be done with her and try whatever it takes to get back with my girlfriend.
     
  12. xxaru

    xxaru Guru of Porn

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    You bought the test, drove her all the way home and didn't even have her take the stupid test? Are you mental!!?

    I would've drove her to the first available place with a restroom (if there wasn't one I could use in the drug store) and walked right the fuck in there with her and made sure she took the test. It only takes 2 seconds. But instead you're going to extend this bullshit out another day!!? :banghead:

    This has got to be a joke. What sane person would drag this out like that? What happens tomorrow when she doesn't come to school, or her family unexpectedly stays home?

    Sorry... rant over. I just get a little irritated when people do stupid things like this.
     
  13. I looked up that the best time to take a pregnancy test is first thing in the morning, so that's what we planned. I'm new to this whole thing so cut me a break and stop busting my chops. I have the tests with me and I'm going first thing in the morning. I'm so nerve wracked I cant even get any sleep.
     
  14. dark suger

    dark suger Dripping With Sin!

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    Papa I know you're going to be upset
    'Cause I was always your little girl
    But you should know by now
    I'm not a baby

    You always taught me right from wrong
    I need your help, daddy please be strong
    I may be young at heart
    But I know what I'm saying

    The one you warned me all about
    The one you said I could do without
    We're in an awful mess, and I don't mean maybe - please

    [Chorus:]

    Papa don't preach, I'm in trouble deep
    Papa don't preach, I've been losing sleep
    But I made up my mind, I'm keeping my baby, oh
    I'm gonna keep my baby, mmm...

    He says that he's going to marry me
    We can raise a little family
    Maybe we'll be all right
    It's a sacrifice

    But my friends keep telling me to give it up
    Saying I'm too young, I ought to live it up
    What I need right now is some good advice, please

    [chorus]

    Daddy, daddy if you could only see
    Just how good he's been treating me
    You'd give us your blessing right now
    'Cause we are in love, we are in love, so please

    [chorus]

    Papa don't preach, I'm in trouble deep
    Papa don't preach, I've been losing sleep
    [repeat]

    Oh, I'm gonna keep my baby, ooh
    Don't you stop loving me daddy
    I know, I'm keeping my baby
     
  15. whitterbug2012

    whitterbug2012 Member

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    You're welcome. I just like to try and help. When you talk to your girlfriend again, letting her know you understand where she's coming from will help too. This girl sounds pretty annoying. Lol. Morning is the best time to test, so even though you're nervous and such, waiting can't hurt. It'll only be more likely to give you a correct reading. Just try not to worry about it too much if you can, keep yourself distracted. You don't wanna stress yourself out more than need be until you find out. Good luck, I hope the test(s) come up negative!
     
  16. dark suger

    dark suger Dripping With Sin!

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    I wanna know what happened!!!!!!
     
  17. pensfan13

    pensfan13 Senior Member

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    yes and the reason is, as a cautionary tale to all the other people who might go out and get drunk when they are underage and then on top of that go have sex with the first person they talk to when they are in a relationship.
     
  18. Maelstrom

    Maelstrom Banned

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    At least you used the word if.
     
  19. whitterbug2012

    whitterbug2012 Member

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    I'm sorry, but if you're going to quote me, don't leave pieces out. I said IF God is real because I know that there are people that believe, people that don't, and people that just aren't quite sure yet. If you can't respect that, you're a butthead.

    All ya'll need to quit giving this kid shit. Don't act like any of you have never made the mistake of sleeping with someone you regret, got drunk, or made mistakes in general. Yeah, he's probably too young to be drinking and he made a mistake, I think he understands that. He asked for help, not hate. If you're not kind enough to try to give it and just feel the need to give him shit, at least do it respectfully. It's not our job to tell him where he went wrong or judge him.
     
  20. xxaru

    xxaru Guru of Porn

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    Maybe the test was positive and he was so distraught that he hung himself. :D
     

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