I'd like to try spanking a woman but......

How do you meet a woman who's into it. If you met with 10 woman how many do you think would like it or like to try it? 2,3? and how long would you wait before asking them?

 

i dunno, i'm still looking for a woman who's into any sort of sexual relations.

you could ask some of the women that post here. seems like most of them want the shit beaten out of their backside, and i'm sure a couple of them are even actual females.

 

There is not really a formula, but it is an extremely common fetish. If you want to get straight down to business there are plenty of spanking personals on fetish websites, fetish dating sites, even craigslist, etc. Not my cup of tea but it is an option.

My main advise would be just ask her. Maybe not as the first thing you say to her, but as the interaction approaches sex ask if she has ever tried it or is interested. Worst case scenario she thinks you are a freak and bails, best case she is the freak and bends over. If you do get the chance don't start flailing away, start slow and build up your intensity. I am an extremist when it comes to spanking, most who like it are not so you have to play off the feedback she gives you. It's like any other sexual activity, some like it, some don't, and unless you happen across someone who is blatantly open about it you just have to go for it and find out.

 

Well I am into anything (I think) my partner wants to do after all it is a two way street.

 

really?, there is nothing you would draw a line at??

 

well, most places have outlawed shitting in the street...

 

I didn't know I liked it, until it was happening. Just try it, lightly. Quietly ask....."you like that?"....but don't press. When you're with her again, try a little harder and a little more. Boils down to trial and error.

 

I had a partner who had a go at spanking me, but it just made me really angry and want to hit back..if someone wants me to spank them, well I have no problem with that, but hit me and I'll kick yer ass

Shayla
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sounds like you're more into s&m

 

My first just tried it, another asked right out and said he liked using a ping pong paddle. Others just happened into it in rough play. My new BF brought it out in conversation over the phone by telling me he was gonna kick my ass next time he saw me after I flung a nasty smart ass comment at him. I said "go ahead, I like a good kick in the ass now and then". He said "Ok, then I will spank yer silly ass, you wont like that". I said "ya? Even better big boy if ya got it in you" then he came back with "So, you like a good spanking now and then" I made an attempt to change the subject and he wasnt gonna let go of it. The next time we were together he landed a few smacks and from there it is what it is.

 

^ yep.


I would suggest something like a quick slap/spank followed by a squeeze. Just to gauge her response.

I personally would not ask, unless we were in the process of dirty talk. Which we do a lot. Asking outside of dirty talk just seems awkward, and then it wouldn't be spontaneous when it actually happened.

Don't be shy, just slap and grab the tushie.

 

Agreed, talking about it outside of dirty talk is awkward. It needs to come up in the moment I think and he needs to see a reaction that makes it ok to do.
A slip comment during other talk is probably good too if he is the kind to catch on. If he does and he asks during the moment and gets the OK then he should try a little, then if the reaction is good and he wants to take it up a notch he needs to ask in a way it isnt implying he isnt too sure. Am I hurting you? Isnt good. You like that you naughty girl? Might work better. You deserve a good spanking for what you did, dont you? If her response is something like a Yes then you are ok. Next time take it up a notch but not like a real punishment style unless you know she is really into that level. Maybe a bit longer, a bit harder by throwing a few harder ones in the odd time and see what happens.
Later if she is totally into it, catch her one day purposely pissing you off and toss her over your knee for a good one and see what that brings on. Slapping an odd one here and there during a cuddling might give you a clue. Just tell her you needed to do that because she did something bad one day, if she argues that she didnt do anything bad she isnt into it probably, then say "Ok I was just kidding with you" and its likely not her bag so let it go, maybe try a different way sometime later with a single smack. Might be she likes it in foreplay only or during actual sex only or maybe she just like an OTK before it all starts up or possibly nothing.
Paying attention to her stories of her past is a great way to know where your first attempt might go with her. If she was abused as a child she could go either way and if its a no go the attempt could be disasterous. If this is what you really like and want to do make sure you listen and take clues as it progresses. I know some have gotten it and never went back to her guy because she was creaped out over the whole thing.
I dont mind any of the above mentioned, they all play a roll in taking the mind to different levels of place and time for me. I even like an agressive squeezing and massage with some nail scratching up and down by back to my legs and maybe some dirty talk while it might just be a cuddling event for the evening. It doesnt have to amount to the same thing every time. I just like my ass played with hard but as I said before, I am not into those levels where there is an injury that lasts days. I just like that my ass reminds me of him the next day because he roughed it up some.
I dont even mind a smack or a squeeze in a store but I am not an exhibitionist, just love the contact and reminders my man is thinking of me.

 

^ well said

 

Also, I have to admit I havent experimented with different tools much. A little here and there when asked and it wasnt too bad. I like the hand because its skin to skin contact and it never gets out of control but if other things are used you must have a trust level between you and your spanker/lover etc. Safe words might be a good thing here especially if you dont know him really well.
He might like what a tool produces on yer butt and you might not like what it feels like but you might be tempted to take more then what you should because you know he is having fun. Dont go there with someone you dont know till you know he understands what you want it to be. Some guys might forget, you are the one taking it and he shouldnt be a pain in yer ass you did not ask for. Aside from those requiring much higher levels as in a punishment this is about making love and ramping it up so you reach a higher level of orgasm and you both still enjoy it.
S&m kind of stuff I just dont get,,,

 

I would wait until we had been intimate a few times then as her if she would be open to it

 

I did it to my new gf just on purpose cz she made me some kind of angry while cuddling. Asking stupid q and then arose her mood. Didn't try again - she didn't complain that heavily to avoid it next time. But to have it as an option for the next time to test it is an interesting mind set.

 

Try spanking personals websites. Of course now that you have started this thread you might find someone on hipforums..

 

If you're sexually active with a woman, just ask. How else?

 

You'd be amazed at how many women secretly desire to be dominated, but don't dare say anything about it.
I used to be like that, before I met my master.
He didn't actually ask me...he threatened me a few times, telling me I was just asking for a good spanking, or that one day, he was just going to turn me over his knee for a good, old fashioned spanking, and I would tell him that he wouldn't dare...and then one day, he did it. He had hidden my wooden spoon in the bedroom, and as I was getting ready for bed, he grabbed me and turned me over his knee...and the magic happened. Once he got done with that spoon on my bare bottom, I knew I would never tell him he wouldn't dare, ever again!
Today, I am his happy slave, both craving and fearing his spankings. Sometimes I get several good, hard spankings with a strap or a cane or some other implement in a week. But always, on Saturday, I know I can look forward to a severe ass beating that will leave me tingly and numb for days. Oh, how I love it when he tells me what he is going to do before he does it! Sometimes he makes me count each stroke. Sometimes he makes me beg for my whipping.
And I love it.
It makes me very obedient.