Hi guys and Gals I am a 36 year old man, up until a good few years back i knew i was straight but in the last 11 years or so i find 90% of my fantasy's are of sucking and or masturbating a guy to completion. I have accepted that this must make me Bi-sexual. I am not attracted to men in general and have only masturbated mutually with a guy once but i loved it, i was much younger then though. How on earth you meet a guy to fulfill a fantasy though is beyond me, very very rarely though i have seen some guys who i have thought are lovely but they are straight. How would i meet up with someone who is a decent guy and is interested in mutual masturbation or oral sex? Is this strange? I confided in a gay guy many years back and he told me that being gay goes deeper than sex and lust which i totally agree but then what does that make me if lust olone can't make you Gay or Bi? Any thoughts anyone i'd love to hear them
huh, that's funny, I have the exact same fantasies, and for me it's only sexual as well. I've been wondering how to find someone to live it out with too
What do you think you can do about it? I have a family and obviously they don't know!! Women turn me on but when I watch porn and see girls sucking cocks I want to do it myself!! The thought of giving a passionate strong blow job really really gets me going!! But how do I take this forward to realise this fantasy! I like the taste of cum as an ex GF once made me lick my own, so obviously depending on the guy I'd want him to unload in my mouth and I'd happily drink him down!! Is this something that's can be realised, I'm so naive about the gay scene and what/where to go, preferable to meet someone who's wanting the same who'll be discreet and be regular!! Just a thought
I am in the same boat. Just want to suck cock sooooo bad and feel cum squirting in my mouth. When I watch porn and see a girl sucking on guys I want to so bad. It looks so good!
It's quite strange really!! Plenty of guys out there that would love give and receive head with another guy but unable to do anything about it!! I've only ever been chatted up by a gay guy once (maybe gay guys aren't attracted to me) but my bottle went, plus he knows some of the same people I do!!! I know how much I want to do it, it's just knowing how to find that someone for the first time of it!!!
Yea its tough, I would never meet someone off of craigslist or a dating site just to risky it would have to be somone i know, but dont know to well if that makes sense lol.
I'm also the 1st to admit I have a high sex drive and I don't think I'd be able to stop myself from masturbating at the same time as sucking a guy off! Another fantasy is to masturbate in the dark or blindfolded and be groped and touched anonymously!! I have a caged kinky side I think!!! I know how much I love to play with myself and how many times a day, it'd just be wonderful to have someone else's hand around my cock and likewise my hand on someone else's!! Unfortunately my wife has a low sex drive so I don't get regular sex at all!! The thought of being able to get another guy off makes me sooooo horny!!!
Yeah I agree!! Too risky although the adds do sound tempting on occasion I'd just hate for a first experience to go badly!!
i agree with your friend. it's not just about sex, gay men's attraction to other men. sex is the ultimate expression of that attraction, it is not the cause for it. for you it is the cause. whether that makes you bi or straight, you figure it out. it shouldn't be that difficult to find a guy to play with. there are plenty of guys out there who are just after sex with another man, no strings attached, and who themselves are married/in a heterosexual relationship. i hear most of them hook up on the internet. but don't ask me which sites they use (besides the most obvious one -- craigslist); i don't use the internet to get guys.
How you mean what do I use? I've never told anyone except you guys about my true wants! My family background are very against it! I was raised as quite discriminate but have found my own feet. I have my needs and that includes very much wanting to play with another man!!!
well i don't have it tattooed on my forehead, but if anybody asks, i tell the truth. in that sense i am open about it. i use real life and eyesight. i'm very old school about it. and i'm in a scene where i come across many different people on a regular basis, and when i see someone i like, and after as accurate an assessment as can be made in a situation like that, if it appears that the guy might be interested i take a chance on that. you can pick up a guy asking for a light on the street, by the way. not that i smoke. but this is how you do it in real life. subtly. and by careful assessment of the person's disposition. you can go wrong, sure, and i have, but that's part of the chance you take.
Thanks for your input Meridianwest, it's very insightful!! I think I'd quite enjoy being chatted up by a guy if it happened again!! Love new experiences, it's what makes you know you're alive!!
Not sure if you're still around, paradox, but I've used online twice, craigslist and adam4adam, and both of the encounters went fine. Neither guy was super hot or without some quirks, but then I'm definitely not perfect and I'm way out there. The second guy I met I really loved his cock, it was amazing sex, I gave the best BJ of my life and just worshiped his cock, but he kind of had this look about him that turned me off a little. It was easily look-pastable when I saw his throbbing cock in front of me, but later the night, or week, or month; I had to get really horny before I finally texted him again and by then he had "lost interest." I think most guys are pretty clean nowadays, tho the danger is ever present, so always try and be careful. If you really aren't looking for this one night stand stuff (or just not internet guys, tho I'm sure the average internet guy is an average guy) you can google around and find out the local hot spots for the gay/bi community. Head over there, try and meet eye contact, or just sit with someone, talk, etc. But there is definitely some way for you to do this if you want to experience it, and I must say I highly recommend it.
Hi unufalready. Yeah I'm still about! What do you mean by had this look about him? What stopped you from texting him earlier and why had he lost interest? If I had a casual NSA spicy partner I'd be happy for whenever I could nip away!!! Lol I've never seen adam4adam and I do get worried about Craigslist. What made you reply to an add and where did you meet them?
I too am looking for NSA fun with a regular meet so I can suck cock and be fucked senseless. Not comfortable with the craigs list scene, too many posers unwilling to follow through in my experience. Sent from my LG-E739 using Tapatalk 2
Lots of guys are like you and they have the same problem - finding a compatible guy who wants the same thing (at the same time that you do). Many sites are used to try and find such matches but often they do not end up in a meeting as they are arranged on whim when both guys are probably wanking their cocks and thinking how good it would be for someone else's hand to be on it. Then they cum and the urge goes away for a while or is not as strong when you have had time to think about meeting a total stranger.
I like to think of sex with men is more of a sport. I do not have any emotional connection to guys other than being friends. I have only sucked cocks of men I like who are friends. It is hard to fine a FWB guy.
I've been thinking a lot about this lately. Although i'm sure I'm not gay i do seem to have a growing intrest with men's cocks. When looking at porn i go straight to the bisex ones. I think my real goal is to be with a couple (m/f). I'd like to help put the man's cock into her and maybe tongue her as he's moving it in and out. Then maybe rub his balls etc and masterbate him. I thinki'd then see how far i dare go. I also sometimes consider group masterbation but think i'm too scared to see it through!!!