Sexually, but not romantically into guys. Anyone else?

Discussion in 'Bisexual' started by Justadood, Jul 10, 2012.

  1. Justadood

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    Hi, I am 22 year old guy. I consider myself a bisexual, but I am only sexually attracted to males. Ive tried dating guys and its not for me. Is anyone else like this? When I do have gay sex, I am the giver always, and I do give and recieve oral, and do indulge in kinky sex and enjoy it 100%. Im single at the moment, and this is when i like boy on boy action and may browse cl m4m and invite someone over. Ive been with numerous partners, both genders. I am definitely not confused. However, I never tell women I am with that I am bi, its not necessary when she hasnt a thing to worry about. I dont or wont cheat. Usually when I am dating, I will masturbate to gay porn just to relieve the urge for guy on guy sex. At the end of the day I want to come home to a beautiful wife, have kids and raise a family.
     
  2. RooRshack

    RooRshack On Sabbatical

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    I'm strait.

    But that's how I am about chicks.
     
  3. KewlDewd66

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    You are in for a possibly very rough ride ahead.

    It is fine to keep your history to yourself when it comes to casual dating. No one should be naive to expect that your sexual life started with him/her. Actually, keeping the details to yourself is only prudent and smart. Your casual partner really does not want to know.

    Your desire to: "At the end of the day I want to come home to a beautiful wife, have kids and raise a family." will most likely collide with your sexual if not romantic attraction to other males. Your beautiful wife is most likely going to be very upset if she discovers that you are having m2m sex on the side, though there is no emotional involvement. Conversely, all the secret planning, plotting, etc. to keep it secret from your beautiful wife will wear you down over the time.

    I see two possible exit strategies here.

    First off, you want to start asking yourself why are you sexually but not emotionally interested in men? Are you actually a victim of social conditioning. Why are you craving a beautiful wife, kids knowing full well that she won't be able to provide you with sexual happiness you desire? What's stopping you from falling in love with a man?

    Second off, you may want to see your dreams come true. Ideally, your future beautiful wife, and the mother of your kids should agree to the conditions of an open marriage that would still allow you to enjoy the male2male aspect of your sexuality. And she will have to be OK with that for many, many years needed to raise your children, etc. How realistic is this?

    KD
     
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  4. benzocoop

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    Yes! This is very similar to me actually. I am sexually attracted to males and females but only romantically interested in women. I've also looked into dating dudes and realized it wasn't what I really wanted. But yeah, being single feels like the perfect time for me to explore that aspect of my sexuality that I otherwise might not be able to if I were dating a woman. I have had the opportunity to have fun with guys, so things might have been different if I'd gotten into a relationship and realized I wanted to fool around with some dudes. But I've had the experience and am not so hungry for it. Plus, I haven't really been with a woman sexually so I'm pretty ready for that!
     
  5. Si69

    Si69 Senior Member Lifetime Supporter

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    Im sexually attracted to guys and girls but emotionally more to women.

    Simon :sunny:
     
  6. TBDM Miasma

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    I love looking at cocks and thats pretty much it with guys. I reallllly want to suck a cock and wouldnt mind being fucked and have my ass filled with cum.
    But emotionally only women!
     
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  7. meridianwest

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    physically, emotionally, intellectually, only guys.
     
  8. sockfetish

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    The only thing about a man that does it for me is his cock.
     
  9. biguy71

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    I used to be pretty similar. I always liked guys sexually, but was never really interested in having a relationship with them. I'm married now, though, and my wife is bisexual as well. She has never had a girlfriend to speak of, but she has had sex with women both before and since we have been together. And I have witessed that she definitely enjoys being with women in a group setting. We have hooked up with several other bisexual couples we've met online and she was totally cool with that. A few months ago, we met a guy at a gay bar and started hanging out with him. One thing led to another and I became involved with him sexually. The relationship has progressed to the point where I can't think of anyway to describe him other than as my boyfriend. We are in love with one another and I no longer have sex with anyone but my wife and him. I didn't really anticipate that, but it happened anyway. We are all friends and everyone seems cool with the situation. I guess my point is that things don't always stay the same. Each person has to figure out what's right for them and when they find it, enjoy it.
     
  10. QueerBear73

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    I'm more sexually into men.
     
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  11. Unufalready

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    biguy71, that's so great! I'm so absolutely jealous of you! Every single word you said rang exactly with how I feel and how I wish my sexual life would progress.
     
  12. kidmarley

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    hit me up
     
  13. dixie_pixy

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    Totally doable. Your best bet is to find a bisexual girl! Then you can both have sexual partners on the side. With whatever rules you see fit!

    I'm bi and my husband is straight. I know it's socially different for bi girls, but if you find someone you can be open with, and trust, you CAN have casual homosex!
     
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    I'm similar - my attraction to guys is purely sexual with no interest whatsoever in any sort of romantic involvement. I'm also sub only and I mainly use guy on guy as a way of living out submission fantasies so I find it interesting that you only top and are into kinky stuff. Maybe this kind of thing is often linked to power play fantasies?
     
  15. TBDM Miasma

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    There are alot of guys it seems like into this on the web but in person they probably all deny it. Atleast I do haha, but I am really into men sexually only. Nothing romantic its a complete turn off to be thinking about kissing cuddling etc.

    ...But when I see a thick cock my mouth opens. I love cum too and would not oppose to being the center of a circle jerk haha.
     
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  16. deedouble

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    same here but I'm attracted to TS/CD/TV mostly or hairless guys. do not like body hair at all
     
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  17. bidurham

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    I felt the same way for a long looooong time. For me, homo sex was an outlet, nothing more. But it's quite possible that you just haven't put enough time and effort into actually finding a man that you could feel romantically inclined towards. There's a big difference between finding a man for a casual hookup and finding a man that you could see being around in the long term. When my wife and I split, I decided to take the plunge into seeing what a gay relationship would be like, and it took some time to find the right guy, but i'm very glad I waited. I find it much more rewarding, but along the way I met a lot of "loser" guys as well. Quality over Ease of Access, my friend.

    I think the power play dynamic is a bit part of bi sex on the male side, or at least among the "straight" men that seek out occasional gay sex. I know when I was, I was almost exclusively attracted to dominant men for that reason. There's something psychological about being "taken" by a man that still drives me wild!
     
  18. russ224

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    im kinda the same, id like to know how it feels and such but thats about it, have yet to try, any details from anyone?
     
  19. bidurham

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    It feels....good? Not sure how to really answer that.
     
  20. russ224

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    not wierd or anything? i mean i dont mind the thought of having a guy suck me or to penetrate a guy, but everything else seems a bit off to me currently.
     
  21. bidurham

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    What seems off about it? From a physical viewpoint, it's the same sensations and procedure, so the only difference would be where you are mentally in regards to your comfort and arousal level towards a man doing it as opposed to a woman.
     

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