how do you tell if someone is a top or bottom
Posted August 27 2011 - 10:56 AM
Posted August 28 2011 - 10:04 AM
Posted August 28 2011 - 11:08 PM
Now both me and my partner are very feminine, but she has a little more of what you might think of as male energy and me, a little more feminine energy. But sex for us is not about top or bottom. Its about top. bottom, behind, upside down facing opposite ways, expressing all of our energies. In a situation where she might strap something on, yet I get on top of her and ride, who's on top and who's on bottom? The experiment and expression is is what makes sex so exciting for us.
So my suggestion is to get to know a girl, one who encourages you to be exactly who you are, experiment. Allow yourself to step out of your comfort zones and explore. You'll have a much better and more fulfilling sex life than choosing the top or bottom.
Posted September 13 2011 - 01:28 PM
I am really surprised to be seeing lesbians talking about top/bottom stuff. I have seen it in a lot of places recently. Yes some people gravitate to being more dominant/active than their partners and vice versa, but defining it as roles is weird.
One of the really annoying things about straight sex is that the roles are so prescribed. Not only that but the order of things is prescribed, kissing, 'foreplay', hopefully an attempt to get her off and always culminating in penis-in-vagina and his orgasm. Lesbian sex is so liberated from all that history and misogyny! We can do whatever we like, when we like and how we like it.
A compatible sexual style is very important in a relationship, but you can't tell how someone is likely to be in bed by how they dress.
Posted October 13 2011 - 08:49 PM
Posted October 15 2011 - 09:31 AM
As far as being able to tell , I think you just have to ask?! I know back in NY when the feminist movement was making a boom and lesbians were first outing themselves,lesbians would hang different coloured bandanas out of their back pockets to signify what their preferences were. Which is strange to think about...
Freedom in sexuality is a joy and right.
Posted October 15 2011 - 10:54 AM
Posted October 25 2011 - 06:33 AM
For these colours we will fight!
Red, white, black will crush the enemy
And will bring back what is right!
Posted October 25 2011 - 06:46 AM
Posted October 29 2011 - 08:18 AM