What guys think about lesbians?

Seeing women aroused excites us in a sexual way. It goes without saying.
In x-rated media its sexy to see a two girls aroused for each other. And in that kind of x-rated genre, it's exciting to watch because I can't always imagine myself in the male's spot when I'm watching hetero x-rated stuff between a man and a woman. Plus all dicks are ugly (except my own).

 

Lesbians are a turn off for me. I think that the main reason that guys are attracted to lesbians, or think that two girls kissing is "hot" is because porn movies often start with two girls kissing/having sex, and then the guy comes and the three-way commences. Male brains then get conditioned to associate lesbians with three-ways.

 

What I think about lesbians is I hope the idea doesn't spread.

 

This is not something people decide to become, they are born like that. It's part of you or not, and either way there's nothing you could do to change it, so it can't "spread".

 

Bassline, please look up "political lesbianism" and report back.

 

I don't see what's wrong with it! It's not real homosexuality, it's said clearly in many sources that those women don't necessarely date or have sex with one another (sounds more like they take a break from dating/hooking up with men for some time, which in some circumstances can be healthy). It seems mostly ideological, and as for "lesbian" separatism I can get the necessity to group with fellow females only from time to time. These are all beneficial things for both the women's rights movement and the women themselves, and happier, healthier women (physically and psychologically) is also a good thing for the males in our lives. In short, I think you worry for nothing.

 

I agree with you about the details there. Besides, the heyday of political lesbianism was decades ago, and it doesn't show any sign of picking up again, so straight men really don't have much to worry about! But we might remember that women can walk out on men if we make them angry enough.

As for genuine lesbians, they're balanced by some number of gay men, so in theory there should be a partner somewhere for everyone who wants one. If someone wants a partner of the same gender, well good luck to them is what I say.

 

As a "lesbian" myself (prefer to be called queer or fruity) I have to say the argument of "you were born that way" for me personally just isn't the truth at all. For me it was a lifestyle change completely and it started off when I was early teens. I've often admitted that had I not had that emotional connection with my partner of 13+ years I may never have strayed over to the same sex. At the time I didn't even think of it, I wasn't attracted to females at all it just happened like that because I had a deep connection with my eventual lover.

Being gay might not be a choice for some people, but not all people were born gay. Some of us did choose. =]

 

"Political lesbianism" (damn I hate that term, they should just call it "taking a break from distractions to figure things out" instead!) is pretty off-beat nowadays when you look at it. Girls (especially young ones) often feel some kind of valorisation from getting male attention be it romantic or sexual, so the idea to take a break from all that, even just for a bit, isn't very popular. I think it should be encouraged tho as females could benefit from it in many circumstances, like while recovering after a break-up, completing college or pondering some important life changes for example. There's nothing wrong with lust and romance but they can be distractive, so sometimes it could be necessary to pull the plug to be able to think straight and figure out what to do or what you truly want/need, etc.

 

I don't.

 

A pair of lesbians adds up to two women who are in no way romantically/sexually interested in me. "Rejection" is never a turn-on...

 

Wait, how did you choose to have a deep emotional connection to your lover? In a way, you didn't choose your path at all, in my opinion. Your lesbianism was inevitable the moment you met her.

If two girls were kissing right in front of me and I was supposed to think it was sexy I would think they were stupid for paying so much attention to each other. I would be resentful that they were lying to me, pretending to be interested in each other, but mostly I would just think they were being stupid for thinking that's what I wanted. I just want two naked girls to lie on either side of me as I talk about myself. I don't see why they'd want to kiss.

 

@neonspectraltoast,

A deep emotional connection is not a spontaneous arrow from Cupid. Its a process, a series of choices that both partners make.

People have choices in life, there is not such thing as fate. The norns are a myth.

 

Ohhh come on you're just baiting me to get involved with this with all your talk about the Norns.

I won't attempt to disprove but IMO, when you see déjà vu in real life from dreams, no matter what it is, you've seen it before so how can your "choices" now in present time have any bearing on what might happen in a future you've already seen?

Like, you dream about say having a strawberry milkshake. But you don't know you're going to have one until that moment arrives and you remember and reflect that hey this seems nostalgic, like a distant memory. Yes! I remember this in a dream.

I think your fate was already woven and you got to catch a glimpse of what the future might bring. The fate of Norns awaits us all, I know this to be true.

 

This right here bothers me. Just because I'm not attracted to the male species, how is that "rejecting" you? Like, what. If I was straight I'd succumb to whatever desire you'd like because I like your gender? Like, just because I like guys that I wouldn't reject you because you're a guy? Motherfuck! I'd reject the shit outta you for that. So what's this now? Double strength rejection from a gay chick?

Fuck outta here with that shit.

 

Now thats funny

 

There's a hero factor involved. The possibility that you could turn them straight is in your subconscious and therefore they're automatically attractive on that level.

 

Responding to Irmminsul, I've known two women who became lesbian after some amount of time being straight, who both said "I never realized I was gay until I fell in love with X", referring to one particular woman for each of them. In one case the relationship had lasted, in the other it hadn't, but once they'd made the switch they stayed with it. I don't know if that's "choosing to be a lesbian" or if it's the circumstances of someone's life, but it does seem to show that we're not necessarily stuck with the same sexuality all our lives.

 

No I know that.
I dunno which post you were responding too.