What a GREAT site! it is actually GD erotic just to read stuff here. my wife allowed me to try anal on her a few years ago. I like to lick her there anyway and I think she somewhat likes when I put a finger in while my cock is in her vagina. We did anal about 6 times and now she says that it hurts and does not want me to do it. I absolutely LOVE to see that it hurts her a bit and it is a turn on and love to cum in her. Is there any ways through toys and whatnot to better her pleasure so I can keep doing it? I do not go balls deep and told her I would go half shaft or something but that did not help. I think a lot of it is that she will not relax. She actually bought a toy years ago to get used to anal but we have since been having major sex issues and ANY sex at all is rare.
question...Is there a way to help wife like anal answer...get a new wife....its the only way i have found that works
LOL. the real problem is just how much time really gets wasted in a relationship learning someone only to learn "oh, I don't do that, that, that, and that". Well..... I think if I open with that when meeting someone, it won't turn out good!!! lol
I started my girlfriend out with a butt plug and I asked her to masterbate with it. I read that was how some porn girl got used to the feeling. We found some good lube ( wet platinum in a black bottle) you need a good lube that won't get sticky on you. It worked now she masturbates analy everytime she says she cannot cum now without something in her ass. Now we could do vaginal but it's like why when we could have anal she loves it and if I wasn't in her ass she would want her dildo in her ass. We aren't into pain she has no pain from anal now and she has no problems from our anal sex. We stopped having vaginal at her request about a year ago. She says she can feel me cum in her analy she couldn't vaginally. Her orgasems are stronger and more intence analy and she's a squirter so you you can tell she's going off like old faithful. My girlfriend is kind of small and I am 6'2" 270 she is sallow vaginally and bled everytime we had sex. Anal sex has been a much better option for us. My girlfriend said when she started having vaginal sex it took getting use to and anal was the same for her. Now she tells all her friends about anal and how much she loves it. We hope we can help someone add this to there sex life it's incredible how much we love it how intense it is it's brought us closer. So I think the key is to get your woman a small butt plug (to start with and work up to your thickness) and platinum wet lube and start there take your time go easy and the rewards will be great. She had never had anal sex before me she tried it once and didn't work very painful.
From my own experience with Anal Sex (both giving & receiving), I've found that the key lies in the position you adopt. I've found that the traditional Doggy Style is not only difficult to achieve penetration, but can also be quite painful. The Spoons position is slightly easier (similar to Doggy, only each partner lying on their sides), but the overall easiest for penetration as well as being non-painful is the basic Missionary - ideally with the receiver's knees hooked over the giver's shoulders. After all, any form of sex should be a pleasure for both partners - not a task to be endured.
Dude, you can't make her love anal. True desire comes from within. If she'll never become an anal whore, it's time to start the divorce process. Move on and find an anal whore and you'll be happy in the long term.
Fastlane.... I am Linehaul's Girlfriend... WE have an AMAZING Sex LIFE... Not trying to Rub it in or anything.... I feel so sorry for men or women in a relationship that they are Sexually deprived... I am gonna be honest... I am 41 and a mother of 3... I have an Extremely High Sex Drive.... Sexual desire is something that doesn't have to go away... But sometimes it is something that has to be worked on... She needs to find something within herself or something that she wears that makes her feel sexy.... And you have to make her Feel Sexy too... You can't not pay attention and then just want Sex... (not saying you are doing this) Maybe your communication has something to do with it also... A man and woman are very different when it comes to SEX.... Women need Emotional Satisfaction and need to be Romanced... I Love Sex (I guess I should say I love ANAL... I have become my boyfriends ANAL SLUT) and can't get enough!!! I have to agree with The Backdoor Man to some degree... True Desire does come from within... A woman has to be completely comfortable with herself as a Sexual being and be completely comfortable with who she is with... LOVE and TRUST are so important... If a woman is not truely into who she is with, Sex will always be an issue... Much less forget the anal.... Anal REQUIRES TRUST and much more so the desire to please who you are with... And from what I have heard some women just are not pleased by anal... But from what I have experienced... Anal is just like vaginal in the case of the first time isn't easy.... You have to go slow and be patient.... There has to complete Trust, Respect and Real Love for one another.... And if you cause pain ... She will never want it again... again...you have to go slow and caress... in other words... Worship that ASS!!! I love Anal Sex... And My Boyfriend have only had anal for almost a year now... We are completely committed to ONLY EACH other... and I agree with my Boyfriend in the fact that we just fit better together that way... He is quiet large and I am a smaller woman.... In all ways Large... A very strong man and has an amazing Sex Drive... I love it... Can't get enough of him... You should Tell your Wife how this is making you Feel... It is very important to have open communication about your Sex Life... And if She Truely Loves you... and you Truely Love her ... you both have to meet each other's needs.... Both Emotionally and Sexually.... I know that She would not you to have your needs met outside of the marriage... Just like you wouldn't want her to do that.... Good Luck... Worship that ASS!!! )
dude.. some chicks just don't dig anal. i am definitely one of those chicks. it's like the prodigal turd returneth home... i like a little play back there, hubs likes to snack back there... but penetration? nah thanks.
Well if it's super important, why don't you: 1. stretch out her ass first 2. try finger banging your own asshole! 3. stand behind her when she's distracted, just to bring it up 4. fart. That will get her attention... 5. If all else fails, just grab her ass one day. If she presses charges, calmly explain that you were trying to bring up anal without ever saying "anal".
A new wife is probably what you might want to think about. I suspect she has other aspirations that may not include you.
Nothing wrong with someone not liking anal. My wife loves to have her ass licked, played with, and even a finger up her ass; but she simply does not like a dick in her ass. We have done it and she has no pain, but she said a dick in her ass makes her feel like she is going to poop and she gets no enjoyment out of it. We continute to have ass play, but jusT not full anal and she enjoys the hell out of it. We are both happy with our sex life, so I just don't push for full blown anal any more. I have no desire to look for a new wife as we have a wonderful sex life without anal.
lmao. and for the original post.................practice makes perfect anal, thats all I gotta say. Even if i dont do it for a while it hurts at first.......you gotta go slow at first and do it often. also, I know for me, its really important to be clean down there. Im way self-conscious about that and most of the reason why I dont want it sometimes.
dont know why i didnt remember this earliar... squirt this in her ass first..tell her its lube...she wont feel a thing...but...warning...it will numb you out pretty quick so ya gotta cum fast lol
Try massage, wine and lots and lots of forplay and finger play in her ass. Dont even start inserting until she feels realy relaxed. No wonder your having problems with anal sex since you having problems with all sex. Maybe get a handle on what is going on with your whole sex life and that will solve the anal issues. Maybe marriage counseling (and no I am not saying that to be mean). Seems like more issues are going on here. Good luck.
Lots of prior relaxation is important; alcohol, pot, orgasms, love, lube, laughter, all these things will help.
