Have any of you had experiences with a Shemale. You see all the Shemale porn sections on sites and I often wonder how many are faked. I'm bi and would love to have the best of both worlds in one body. Anyone got any experiences to tell - and are there any shemales on here - what is sex like for you, what do you look for or enjoy? Simon
by the time I was 18 I'd been fantasizing about hooking up with a t-girl for years. I had already gone all the way with girls (since I was 15, many times) and guys (since I was 18) by the time I found one that I seemed to click with. being bisexual (and someone who loves sex with both genders pretty much equally), I was totally excited about the possibility of being with someone who was a combo of the soft, smooth and delicate beauty of a girl, but the sexual aggression and of course, cock that i loved about guys. I was so turned on by the idea that I feared I might be hyping it up--that it would be a letdown of sorts. I was very, very wrong. I was even more turned on than I expected, the combination of masculine and feminine being exactly what I wanted. I haven't hooked up with as many as I'd like to simply because there aren't a huge amount of them, but all the times were great, a few were submissive and wanted me to fuck them, although one was into topping and bottoming, which was great too. basically, if you like tranny porn etc, go find one and you'll probably be happy you did.
Thanks for that Jamie - the thought turns me on, and like you I like the idea of the combo. Shemales can't be very common though, must be in demand for the porn sites huh? Simon
There are differnent classes of Transgendered people .. Like heterosexual porn .. you may see activities that are not common in everyone's bedroom. And transgendered people may be straight or gay or bi sexual.. These films are made for the porn lovers and really have no story line, lifestyles of the transgendered communities, Just as straight hetro people may be offended by pornography. Same with some Transgendered people.. If you closely watch transgendered porn, you will see the same characters over and over again. Its a business and does not reflect the image of the transgendered community very well.. Im not going to lie. I love to watch attractive transgendered people have sex.. I have been up close and personal with real transgendered people, because I am a transvestite ( a male that dresses in women clothes) my attraction to them dont mean im gay or bi.. It mean Im normal and like people, being with these people at time. They are not about taking their clothes off and getting down to have sex.. In real life it takes chemistry and attraction, or your just having sex with people at random, like heterosexual people, gay people .. all people that just have casual sex.. as with any group of people, there is a demographically pattern to transgendered people. While many may live in your community it may be difficult for them to live normal lives in Kansas as they can in Californa, Florida.. ect.. demographically.. just as the gay community isnt excepted everywhere.. Transgenders are often outcasted in the gay community aswell, because a women with a penis having sex with a women isnt actually gay, its straight according to some beliefs.. something to think about. If your wanted to engage in sexual relations with a transgendered person. You may want to stop calling them trannies , and shemales and view them as human beings, thats if you want a long term relationship with one. Otherwise you may just want to find a transgendered prostitute that may not have any feelings of self worth and dont care how you treat them as long as they get paid..
Thanks for your post Orison - in no way was I meaning to denigrate Transgendered people/Shemales etc. Maybe this post should be renamed Transgendered? I once came across a whole such community in Java but in the Western world, unless perhaps you are a member of it, or as you say unless it is the commercial sexual arena, transgendered people are fairly hidden. Obviously for us who fit into societies sexual and physical norms people known as 'shemales' are objects of curiosity - but I meant no disrespect. I am curious however as to what numbers/proportions of people are multi-genitaled. And yes, as a bisexual who enjoys sex with both genders, the sexual image is both fascinating and enticing. Sorry, but i can't help that. Simon
your post title is fine, unfortunately thats how most people refer them as.. It would probably be scrolled over even more if it was titled transgendered.. I in no way wanted to insinuate you didnt respect them. Its a very difficult topic of general discussion as you can tell from the lack or replies.. Its also unfortunate that transgenders, shemale, trannies are so difficult for someone to except. Having a relationship with one may be difficult for both parties. Whether the Shemale be a 10 on the scale and 100%passable. Will you take her home to mom>? And lets say you did, could you tell her. Just hypothetically speaking..... If you was gay, it might be easier to except bring in a man, Its crazy but it just happens to be the case many times over.. Its rather crazy that the breast and penis together make the difference, before they learn the personality of the transgendered person themselves.. but as I said there are diffenent classes of transgendered people, this may also include bisexual male cross dressers.. This may be a safer option for your endeavor.. to add more to the confusion, yes: I am a transgendered person: Im also a straight male.. (not to say I have not experienced some bisexual activities in the past. but ive had no contact with penis.. Its a fantasy, yes.. but i dont have to go far to fulfill it with toys.. I am also married with 2 kid from previous relationships to women also comfortable I was a Drag person:a another name for crossdresser, transvestite... Good luck to you..
Great posts Orison! There are many different types of people under the "transgender" umbrella, which can make things especially confusing. Many people are confused enough over transsexuals, but that just makes it even more confusing. I think the term "tranny" or "shemale" is acceptable, but only for describing ladyboys, autogeynephiles, (often errogenously categorised as transsexual) and transvestites. Just about all the "shemales" you see in "tranny porn" either fit into one of those categories, or as in a lot of cases, they are actually genetically born women who have had their images doctored to make it look like they are transsexuals. Most people who feel like they were born in the wrong body, and have always hated their physical anatomy, would have no desire to either be in "tranny porn", or be physically intimate with someone who sees them in that way. I think the tranny porn phenomena has had the very unfortunate impact of making many people already ignorant about the subject, think that this is the way that transsexuals actually are, or the vast majority of them are. Ive heard a couple of people on these boards saying that transwomen are "lying" to straight men by calling themselves women, and should only go for men who are particularly attracted to "shemales" and "trannies". The problem is, this would not be acceptable for those who have only ever identified as female, and are repulsed by their male anatomy. Because those transwomen identify themselves as being heterosexual, not gay, if they are attracted to men. The problem there is many other people who will always view transwomen as "men", so see them as gay, if they are attracted to men. This makes it extremely difficult for transsexuals in those categories to find love and a relationship. Most of the guys who would want sexual relaitions with them in their eyes wouldnt make suitable or acceptable partners. Whereas the vast majority of straight men, who are the only men that straight transwomen would want a relationship with, would not see them as a real woman, and therefore, not want to have any romantic or physical relations with them. I myself, am in exactly this same situation, and dilemma. Although I am not a transsexual, or indeed a trans anything, the intersex condition I was born with made me wrongly brought up as male, and because the condition wasnt treated properly, left me with unwanted secondary male sex characteristics. Although I am mostly female genetically, most would still not view me as a "real woman", and class me as a "shemale" and a "tranny" even though I am not a transsexual. Intersex conditions are also often wrongly viewed as being hermaphroditsm, which they are not. I only ever identified as female from a very young age, and immediately self identified as straight once I was in my mid teens and started realising my sexual attractions were towards guys. Whenever I have thought of having a relationship and sex, its always been with me with a normal female body, with a straight guy who sees me only as a woman. Now the huge problem I have, is many guys would be just as uncomfortable being with a girl with an intersex condition (or a hemaphrodite in their eyes) as they would be with a transsexual women. And I have no desire whatsoever, to be someone's fetish, curiosity, or "an experience" to be tried out. Or to be with a guy who's only attracted to me, because he is attracted by the fact that my body has some masculine features in it, and sees me as "part male", and is turned on by that fact. Not that I would want to be with anyone while my anatomy is currently the way it is anyway. So, basically, the chances of me ever finding a loving relationship is just about zero. I have never been with anyone in my whole life, and in all likelyhood, never will be. But I would never compromise myself and be with someone just for its own sake. Id rather stay alone forever. And there are also some transwomen stuck in the same boat as me, Im sure.
You won't find many people who are multi genitaled outside of certain intersexed conditions. Trans people either have their birth equipment or have a vagina/penis created in its place, can't really have both at the same time.
thanks you Invisible Soul... , and thats sad the part about zero chance. And while you may have feelings of emptiness, you should remember the role youre playing in helping others. And thats where real love is.. :love: @OP .. Invisible Soul and I have had heated (argumentative) lol.... didnt want that to cum off the wrong way ..... ok.. being serious now: difficult discussions on the very topic of transgendered, trannies, ect and this just being cause we're from different walks of life, but the transgendered community is growing ever more, not just here but everywhere. The more trasnsgered people talk to trasgendered people we discover the trans word disappears.. We are all just people and it really dont matter what your sex organs identify you as.. this is an old human (monkey concept.. no disrespect to the monkey,,,, But human beings are far past the need to ID sex and breed...
You're welcome. I do have feelings of emptiness. Id be lying if I said otherwise, and I probably wouldn't be human if that situation didn't leave me feeling empty inside. It's difficult never experiencing love or intimate companionship with someone. Especially when it seems like everyone else is able to have those things quite easily and naturally. Ive learned to live with it, but it's still hard for me to deal with, and it probably always will be. I suppose trying to help others, and create more understanding is just a natural part of my character. And also trying to make a positive thing out of a really horrible thing. Ive never had love or compassion shown towards me, but I still try and show those things to others. The world can be a very cold and horrible place, especially for someone like me. But you have to try and make the best of things, and that's what Im doing. Talking about my situation is very painful, but if it helps even just one person understand, or change their mind about something they previously held prejudice about, then it's worth it. As for the rest of your post, I completely agree with it.
Wow, a lot of posts - and I have to admit i went back and looked at previous posts re. Transgendered etc. A bit of a learning curve for me, so thanks for your posts. Sad to read so many resigned (sometimes bitter and angry?) comments about 'never experiencing' / 'rejection' / 'no prospects (sexually)' etc. etc. Having recently had my wife accept my bisexuality (I always was reasonably at ease with it apart from admitting it to friends and society at large) I am feeling comfortable and positive with being different - albeit little in comparison. I am a fairly positive and pragmatic person and while obviously not being able to experience some of the depths of what being transgendered feels, think we should all be proud of what we are, how we are, and while TG people may not be able to function in some ways they will be able to in others - perhaps quite unique ways; something to be proud of. So, if it is right what I read in a previous post that there are millions of TG people, then "vive la difference" and lets try and educate society. Simon
Id be lying if I said I wasnt bitter and angry. If Id been brought up as a girl, and my condition treated properly, Id have been able to live a normal life. So it's very difficult not to feel anger at that. Also at the society I live in which seems hell-bent on denying me even the most basic happiness in life. The no sex thing is hurtful, but its the not experiencing closeness, companionship, love, and romance which causes me the most unhappiness and empty feelings. Although I am not transsexual/transgender, I think in a lot of ways, my experiences are very similar to some people who are in that category. Ive never been comfortable, or positive about my situation, aside from the fact that I realise there are those out there even worse off than me. Seeing as my situation was forced on me rather than it being my own choice, I cant really be positive about it. All I can really do is try to make the best of an awful situation. I dont think I function in any way that is "unique". As Id like to think I would still possess all my positive personality traits if I was able to be a normal woman, and function in society as that. And there's nothing that I dont know that anyone else couldn't discover for themselves if they really wanted to learn about it. I dont think Im special at all. But I can try and educate people who do lack understanding of these things, and that is the only real positive I can take out of my situation. So I have taken a very negative thing, and been able to make something positive out of it. I cant be proud of my condition, the way that was treated, or how I was brought up, cos I had no say in any of that. And did not wish any of it. If I had my way, Id just be a normal woman. So Im not proud of that aspect of myself, because I dont like it. Im not proud of being different, because I didnt ask to be different, and I dont want to be. But I think being able to take some positives out of that, and use it do some good, and try and make a positive difference is something that I can be proud of. There are a lot of transgender people, but you have to remember "transgender" is a label that encompasses many different groups of people. And in a way, I think that endeavors to make educating people much more difficult, because it can be very confusing. There are actually more cases of people born with some type of intersex condition, than there are of transsexuals. Yet many more people are aware of transsexuals than they are of intersex conditions. Some intersex conditions are rare, but as many people as 1 in 100 births has a body that in some way differs from the standard male or female. So certainly, the narrow gender binary that most in society subscribe to is nothing more than an illusion.
I was stumbling around in thought the other day and I was wondering .. What category this would fall in.. I have always wanted to do this with my drag routine. but it would require more sowing skills than I possible have/ Im sure I could do it, but would be incredibly time consuming.. here is the possible origin and an incomplete wiki article http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Josephine_Joseph had me thinking though, what if someone lived like this and continued to propel it further than lady gaga could. just the every day guy in the neighborhood like myself. What then?.. Is freak the only thing people could come up with?.. Theres a personality there, just in the picture I placed up there. I could learn alot from it. I can tell they are a very creative person from the start. the furthest from my mind is how good in bed they may be. or what the sexual orientation is. I dont really care, they are a human being. Of course they have sex.. lol. I have often be bombarded with questions from friends, family of what my sexual orientation is... depend on who asks me. if my friends ask me., Im more likely to educate them on genders, gays, ts,tv. They usually get it quick. most often they've seen me all my life with women, that confuses them.. then they get it, im straight... this is enjoyment in my life. when asked by religious family: I dont bother to educate cause they are ignorant. to them, Im fucking everyone, sucking everyone and I probably have HIV.. They have actually never seen me all that much in drag, dress, and only make assumptions..
Why not? Im XX, my genetics say Im female, so I shouldn't have been brought up as male, its as simple as that. I was born with ambiguous genitalia, and it was decided by some medical "professionals" that I be brought up as a male. It is simply immoral and wrong, to surgically assign someone's sex without their consent or knowledge. So yes, I can and will, absolutely blame those who made that decision. My life was ruined as a consequence of a wrong decision that I had absolutely no say in. My thought processes, desires, and needs are no different from any other heterosexual female. But unlike most other females, its virtually impossible for me to have those needs met. I would only enter a relationship or sexual encounter if I felt comfortable with it, and it felt natural to me. And being with someone who didnt see me as merely female, and was attracted by the idea that Im not fully female would not feel natural to me at all. There's no point in getting emotionally and sexually involved with someone purely for its own sake. At least there isnt for me. Unless it feels natural to me, then I wont do it. Oh, believe me, Im sure id much rather give pleasure than recieve it myself. lol But the circumstances and situation would have to feel natural to me for me to do those things and feel comfortable with doing them. I am trying to make the best of what I have. Ive just accepted that anything I do get out of life, it'll have to be done alone. If I cant enjoy, and feel comfortable having intimate relations with somebody, Im better off not doing it. I love cats and take care of them. I think that is my calling in life. :sunny:
Did they perform surgery on you as a child? If it's too personal .. then I'm sorry and I won't persist in asking questions... (I'm just curious) It sounds quite bad that society forced a stereotype on you. Not many people face the ugly side of gender stereotyping like this... May you remain positive in the face of it...*hug* I was saying in another thread - i don't think that the beginnings ever feel entirely 'appropriate', (i don't mean in the sense of touching or talking to people when it's clearly not wanted) I just think for most people, it's usually awkward, nerve racking, scary and weird. The other guy in that thread said his lover asked him for a kiss and he said yes. I asked a girl once and she said no =( .....not all flowers and kittens. I probably have issues now. I did see a cuuute transsexual (at the least, transvestite) at a rally. But honestly..i like the male body best nowadays :devil: I like the lack of breasts (it's almost if a males body is a 'spare' female that isn't needed yet) and the structure of his hips and the way they draw the eye downward. =P
Yes. It's standard practice for doctors to artificially assign a babies sex if the genitals are ambiguous at birth. It is unfortunate that intersex individuals have to suffer invasive surgeries, and often the wrong upbringing as a result of having to pander to society's very narrow and strict gender criteria. It is gender stereotyping at its most extreme and worst. Im just one of the few unlucky ones who've had to experience it. Thank you. *hugs back* I try my best, but it is very difficult sometimes.
