Advice for dealing with Middle Age.

Discussion in 'Old Hippies' started by Reverand JC, Mar 3, 2010.

  1. Reverand JC

    Reverand JC Willy Fuckin' Wonka

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    I just turned 34 in October. I look at my family history and know they generally die in their late 60's and early 70's. So that makes me realize that I'm at about the halfway point. I come on here and feel a little out of place. I'm too young to be an "Old Hippie." And too old to be a "Young Hippie."

    I feel like I'm old enough to be the Old Hippies kid and at best the Young Hippies stoner uncle. It's weird I went Buddhist meditation groups 10 years ago and felt out of place because I was the only one who wasn't middle aged and middle class. Now I'm middle aged but not middle class. I guess I'm kind of freaking out because now I can actually see my life getting shorter.

    Peace Out,
    Rev J
     
  2. tanasi

    tanasi Member

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    Hey man,
    maybe everyone feels out of place at certain times, I started school early and was always younger than everyone.Then one day I looked around and everyone was younger than me.I went from being too young ,to being too old without passing just right,heh go figure.
    I am now 55 with a family mortality of,eh, round 78 but as I look around everyone that I know is either dead, dieing, or super glued to the t.v..So I figure next fall I'll return too college and learn a little more about mother earth before she embraces me.Maybe I can scratch out a little more experience and make a small ripple before I shuffle along.I have heard it said "there is no good lifee and there is no bad life,there is only life so go live it".
    PEACE
     
  3. Shale

    Shale ~

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    :smilielol5:You kids are a trip!

    I didn't stop calling myself "middle aged" until I passed 55. Hey, it can happen! :D

    Now I realize I am a man with more history than future.
     
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  4. Trigcove

    Trigcove Member

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    Wait... past 55 is not middle aged?
    Crap!
     
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  5. FritzDaKatx2

    FritzDaKatx2 Vinegar Taster

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    O.P., just roll with it Bro. Enjoy the Journey and to hell with the destination.
     
  6. KeithBC

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    You still have your forties to look forward to. My forties were a great decade - old enough to have acquired some wisdom and perspective and healthy enough to enjoy it. The best of both worlds.

    In my fifties I am starting to notice that I am slowing down a tad, but as long as I can remember the wisdom bit, I figure I'm okay.
     
  7. Shale

    Shale ~

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    Yep, Life is short. Enjoy it while you can.

    Oldest person in US dies in NH at age 114
    From Associated Press
    March 08, 2010

    WESTMORELAND, N.H. (AP) — Mary Josephine Ray, the New Hampshire woman who was certified as the oldest person living in the United States, has died at age 114 years, 294 days.

    She died Sunday at a nursing home in Westmoreland but was active until about two weeks before her death, her granddaughter Katherine Ray said.

    "She just enjoyed life. She never thought of dying at all," Katherine Ray said. "She was planning for her birthday party."
     
  8. Karen_J

    Karen_J Visitor

    Middle age rocks! You still remember how to have a good time, and you know which mistakes you shouldn't make, and how to avoid making them. :cheers2:
    :party:

    Just don't get sucked into playing all the standard middle-aged bullshit games, which take away all your freedom and extra money. The miserable middle-aged people are usually the ones who have screwed themselves by trying too hard to compete with their peers or trying too hard to please their parents, instead of following their hearts and living every day to the fullest.
     
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  9. Tinkertiger

    Tinkertiger Member

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    i believe that life gets better as you get older, it's been so in my experience. :)
    and you're only as old as you feel.
    wanna feel old or middle-aged?? then that's what you'll be!!
    i much prefer to stay young.
    i don't waste time on useless crap anymore, just those things that please me.
    :party:: :cheers2:
     
  10. sunfighter

    sunfighter Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

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    I'm 58. I'm enjoying life more now than ever before. I've given up my dream of running a marathon, but that's about it. Recently, my GF turned 42. Before the nite was over, I had given her 42 orgasms. Sex, drugs, and rock n roll are still happening. Life is very good.
     
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  11. guerillabedlam

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    I'm in my mid 20's. Many of these posts seem encouraging, It's good to see many people enjoy middle to later life. I've spent a couple extra years in school and I feel older than many people in the school already but I feel younger than most the people i work with. I don't feel 'lost' but I feel disconnected from a lot of my peers.

    I somewhat embrace my isolation, but I feel like there is some secret or something that a lot of people my age know about who are out and about at the bars and sleeping with various people in a drunken stupor that i'm not let in on. Eventhough I've flirted with that lifestyle a bit, i'm content right now to be with my friend and explore my mind with psychedelics and music.
     
  12. granny_longhair

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    Not necessarily. Lots of people far outlive their family history these days. On the other hand, don't count on anything. You could be flattened by a truck tomorrow. You just never know.

    Getting old is a trip. Physically, it kinda sucks, although if you stay active and fit it goes a hell of a lot better. You do have to take care of yourself, though. Your body becomes less tolerant of abusing it, and it doesn't recover as quickly. Of the "sex-drugs-rock n roll" trinity, I still enjoy two of them :)

    Mentally, getting older is wonderful. Oh, people always make jokes about your short-term memory and "senior moments", but it's not as bad as they would have you believe.

    Overall, I enjoy my life more now than I did in my 20's. I realize that every day is a gift. I try to laugh a lot, I take care of myself, and I enjoy people. I live in a part of town with lots of university students, and they are wonderful. They're so smart and aware, and I love having them as friends. At the same time, though, common memories matter. My older friends are comforting to be around. I still very definitely enjoy male companionship, and thank goodness for viagra!

    Well, I'm rambling. But my point is that you needn't dread your years on the far side of 40. You have a lot to look forward to :)
     
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  13. Shale

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    Uh, sounds like you're hitting the whole trinity then. :p
     
  14. Dancing til Dawn

    Dancing til Dawn Senior Member

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    Misfits rock!!!!
    :p
    isnt that what its all about

    When i was young i was old- now im older im young- i have no idea what il be in the future
    :rolleyes:
     
  15. Reverand JC

    Reverand JC Willy Fuckin' Wonka

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    When I was a kid I told my dad "I want to be a musician when I grow up."
    He told me "Son you can't do both."

    Peace Out,
    Rev J
     
  16. thedope

    thedope glad attention Lifetime Supporter

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    Advice for middle age, grow older.
     
  17. famewalk

    famewalk Banned

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    Hey thedope, it was hard to find you. You know, in the love and sex thread I found it hard to pretend I was a virgin; so I didn't bother to reply.
     
  18. thedope

    thedope glad attention Lifetime Supporter

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    Yeah, I have yet to be able to enter the enter if you are masturbating now, thread.
     
  19. wild-flowers

    wild-flowers forever arbitrary

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    34 isn't even old at all....I mean you're old enough to have been around the block and have seen some things but you're not old enough to be having a mid life crisis just yet. You're old enough to comprehend things the younger generations dont quite understand yet and young enough for the older folks to still guide you.
    Just chill man, the party is still on for you. It never really ends until you want it to.
    Look at shale, he's walking around butt naked on the beach and seducing sexy men. And he's a grandpa.
    You choose to get old.
     
  20. TipsyGypsy

    TipsyGypsy Light of a Fading Star

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    On both sides of my family, people have been living into their 90s and have been fairly healthy. Although I just assume that I will live until about 70. I actually think more about getting hit by a car tomorrow than to what age i might live to. this way at least I live like tomorrow I will die and if I do get older I won't have as many regrets about not doing things.

    I find there are a lot of teenagers here, but I would never go back to that. And I don't even fit into any middle aged category yet. I'm younger than you but already start worrying about age and that I need to start doing all the things I want to do.

    Although thinking about, we pass our middle ages everyday, as we have no idea when we'll die.
     

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