What makes a girl good in bed?

Discussion in 'Free Love' started by Angelina31, Aug 26, 2008.

  1. Angelina31

    Angelina31 Member

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    I am probably going to get shit for this question, :p but I was wondering, guys & girls, what makes a girl good in bed?

    My girlfriends and I will talk about a guy's performance, but we don't really chat about what makes a girl good in bed? My husband says I am good and he likes it when I am on top of him because 'I fuck him properly' and that I get into it and excite him and make the right movements to make him feel good, he likes when I dance for him. But he can't explain further. Can anyone tell me what they think makes a girl a good fuck? :)
     
  2. ClassicSWC

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    What makes a girl good in bed? A few things. Don't just lay there. Move. Use your hands, you can hug, rub, scratch etc. Talk to him. I don't know a guy that doesn't like to hear his woman talk to dirty to him. Use discretion though. Saying "Pound me like the football team did in high school" might be a turn off. Every once in awhile give him a blowjob for no reason. Trust me, this means a lot to guys. If he resists, just push him back down. See the movie "White Castle" for reference. No, it's not a porno.

    Othe than that there are no answers. Some people just turn you on more than others. Enjoy!
     
  3. LexLuv101

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    One, enthusiasm. If you're going down on a guy, act like you're into it and enjoy it. I DO enjoy it but make sure you do. Move during sex, don't just lay there as said before. Kiss with passion, don't be distracted. Enthusiasm really matters a lot. Also, take time to learn the partner's body, don't be afraid to experiment and keep your mind open.
     
  4. LBCnaturist

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    [more for a couple than for a one night stand] communication/attentiveness, I say. everyone is different and likes different things, and what you've done with other people may not work with the current one. communication is rarely verbal in the bedroom. you need to watch for good and bad responses and adjust as needed. and don't be afraid to just plain ask - "what do you want me to do to you?", "do you like that?", etc. and try to pick up on those subtle hints dropped when someone wants something, but are too embarrassed to just say it (ie, anal play or watchin porn, etc). hmmm... most women are terrible at giving head, but don't know it.... oooo, and be creative and spontaneous too - nothing is better than a girl that can think of something new to try or do!

    also, not only don't just lay there, but open you eyes every now and then - it makes a guy feel like you're not pretending he's a vibrator or another guy. look him in the eyes and SHOW him your passion. and never ever fake an orgasm.
     
  5. Chainz

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    I agree with classic...spontaneity for no reason. Just drop and please him, simply because you want to make him happy. Talk dirty to him during sex. Tell him what you like and how you like it. Tell him when he is doing something you like alot. Play with yourself while he fucks you. Enjoy it, and make him know you like it. Be eager for his cum, like you are opening a present. Give him a hand job while you are sitting on the sofa watching the news, or a movie. Be spontaneous. AND, tell him what you are going to do to him the next time you are together. He will think about it ALL FREAKIN" DAY LONG. Trust me. lol.
     
  6. OlderWaterBrother

    OlderWaterBrother May you drink deeply Lifetime Supporter

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    What makes a girl good in bed is her actually enjoying and wanting to have sex especially if she makes you feel like you had something to do with it.

    If you are faking it or just going though the motions then I'd rather be somewhere else.
     
  7. IamnotaMan

    IamnotaMan I am Thor. On sabba-tickle. Still available via us

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    1)Responsiveness
    2)Trying new , fun stuff
    3)Talking about whats good and what isnt.
    4)being tactile - there's foreplay for guys too.
    5)learning taoist /tantric sex and stuff like that.
    hmm other stuff , its hard to describe - that "spark" is a big part of it.
     
  8. Angelina31

    Angelina31 Member

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    Thanks for the tips guys, it is all helpful, although I like to think I already knew most of it :p;)
     
  9. IamnotaMan

    IamnotaMan I am Thor. On sabba-tickle. Still available via us

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    Some things I forgot.
    1)watching where the guy is- is he warmed up?does he want to hold back or step it up a gear.
    2)Also intensity is a big thing.There's looking at a guy and *looking* at him
    3)How she breathes .Is it fake moaning , or is it "combined" with the guys?
    Is she in control of her own pleasure with it
    4)Stimulating a guy's whole body.Does she just pull his dick a bit and climb ontop?
    Or does she stroke different parts to stimulate them-chest , balls , thighs, neck
    - acupressure points etc
    5)Setting the mood.
     
  10. Angelina31

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    I think that, particularly, is really important. For both parties. And I love looking into his eyes intensely, and not being coy and embarrassed about eye contact, as it is one of the biggest turn-ons, in my opinion, when you are looking deep into each others' eyes while doing what you're doing..
     
  11. duckandmiss

    duckandmiss Pastafarian

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    What movie is this that your talking about? I tried to look it up on Imdb and all I got was Harold and Kumar...
     
  12. IamnotaMan

    IamnotaMan I am Thor. On sabba-tickle. Still available via us

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    Girls seem to instinctively explore acupressure and stuff more than us guys.I remember stumbling across points on the inner forearm of a girl one day along time ago- to me it was like revolutionary stuff.
    I sort of stumbled on soulgazing round about the same time.
    Do that and it can be hard to get someone out of your head!: )

    A guy's sexual energy is harder to channel than a girls.I like girls who know how to move it around a guy's body , and between them.Its hard to explain if you haven't discovered the techniques and stuff.
    But well worth learning ..! ; )
     
  13. JohnInMi

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    #1. Don't say, "Ewwww....that's SICK!!!" if he asks for something a bit out of the ordinary. (Of course, this doesn't apply if he's asking for something outright dangerous and/or illegal. I'm talking more about golden showers, foot licking, role playing , etc.)
    #2. Don't bring up past lovers in any way, shape or form unless it is to say something like, "Mmmmm....Ohhhh...You're soooo much better than (fill in the name or names here) "
    #3. Tickle his balls (if you can reach them) while in the missionary position.
    #4. Tell him what pleases you BEFORE the act. Don't expect him to just 'know' these things. If, for example, you enjoy having your breasts sucked during missionary sex, your butthole fingered during doggy style, etc, TELL him this BEFORE you have sex w/ him. Of course, this 'rule' applies in the reverse as well; if you don't want him messing w/ your breasts or bunghole during sex, don't be afraid to bring it up as well.
    Ladies, this last one is really the most important rule of all (in my opinion anyway...) Don't EXPECT us to 'just know' what you like; TELL us in advance. Us guys are pretty direct and up front in general. Just be honest w/ us about what gets you off. Trust me, it will make things easier on all parties concerned! :)
     
  14. Angelina31

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    Thanks John, good points about communicating :) You guys have been really helpful, cheers!
     
  15. IamnotaMan

    IamnotaMan I am Thor. On sabba-tickle. Still available via us

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    I'd say a girl who's goodwill stimulate all 5 sense:-
    touch , sound , sight with taste , and smell to a lesser extent.
    Someone who's good might stimulate mentally , technique-wise/ physically etc.
    Then there's the "soul" aspect of it-like theyre really passionate about it , rather than them just "ticking boxes".

    Finally , there's the X factor- to me , its when someone has some way of doing something that u never thought of ,or u never saw done in that way.That can be rare.
     
  16. Greengirl

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    confidence and the right amount of excitment. You know if you can turn yourself on you can do anything
     
  17. wally m

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    Willingness.....
    to communicate
    to give
    to take
    to have fun
     
  18. anonmaleuk

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    Confidence and enthusiasm
     
  19. Mothman

    Mothman Senior Member

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    It is nice when a girl is comfortable with herself and feels sexy, it shows up in their performance. I dislike girls with too many boundaries like "none of this or that". Coordination is nice, I have had to tell a few girls to let me work because they just could not ride properly. If you ask me, women are the essence of sex and sexiness and rarely need much polishing to be good in bed.
     
  20. sarahrei

    sarahrei ~Lover~

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    ^ Just thought that I'd add that I have a hard time riding because I have a bad knee. It does take practice.
     

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