Were you spanked as a child?

It has been theorized that childhood spankings lead to a focus on sexual spanking later in life. It makes sense to me. You're held in a vulnerable position, buttocks exposed, while a private sensitive part of your body is touched and struck. The rush of blood to the genitals can lead to physiological arousal, even without psychological arousal. All the while you're being told that you're being spanked for your own good, because they love you.

I can definitely see how the physiological arousal combined with the emphasis on spanking being a loving action could lead to a focus on it in sexuality later.

Were you spanked as a child? Do you think it had anything to do with your enjoyment of spanking in sex?

 

With me, I was molested by a female teacher who followed the molestations by spanking me with wooden paddles. Aside from that the female twchers were always more cruel and likely to apply the board for disiplanary problems. The men hardly ever used it and then only when they felt it was needed a last resort.
So for me it wasn't hard to come to the conclusion that women were cruel and sadistic and who's primary interest was inflicting pain. And that formed my sexual persuasions as my sex drive developed in early youth.
Combine that with the fact that I'm obsessive-complusive, I was born with OCD which causes unwnated intrusive thoughts that you can't get rid of no matter how hard you try. As I got older those OCD obsessive mental images took the form of women being whipped, flogged, branded, caned, or physically tortured in various other ways. Thats a pretty disturbing condition to live with since I never wanted to hurt anyone and found those unwanted images very difficult to cope with.
Whenever I found a girl attractive any sexual thought that would normally form with any normal person was in my case superceded by graphic torture images. It made me very shy around girls cause I was afraid of the disturbing images they evoked.
I lived like that for a long time and gradually learned to cope with it. I'm on a med now for the OCD and it helps a little.
As for sexual spankings (of the consentual type, as opposed to the sexual child abuse variety), I've always been masochistic, and to a lesser extent sadistic. So for me Its just an extension of what has always been for me the concept of normal sexual practice. Sex = pain. Women = cruelty.
The other element is I feel very guilty about all those evil thoughts that have been cropping up over the years and should be harshly punished for all the horrible things I've wished on the opposite gender no matter how subconcious or unwanted those thoughts may have been. Deep down, at some level somewhere, I must really wish those things to actually happen otherwise they wouldn't come up at all. So I don't object to anything any woman wants to do sexually or sadistically. On the one hand its normal to my way of thinking and on the other I deserve whatever comes.
Based on my previous experiences I get offended when people get special treatment on matters of corporal punishment, especially in areas where its considered normal to exempt girls from such punishment based solely on their gender. They are more sadstic than men by their nature and obiously have no problem which inflicting physical punishment on others, so exempting them based on their gender is just plain wrong. Countries that inflict criminal floggings only on men and excuse women of their criminal responibilities just because they are women really offends me. Did the woman who molested me not deserve a flogging? She certianly had no problem inflicting physical punishment so she should be more than capable of taking it. Fortunately most countries that previously had bigoted criminal codes of that nature are expnading their laws so that criminal punishment is inflicted equally and without bias.
As for spanking children for displinary reasons, I have no objection there. There is a difference between spankings and abuse and you have to have consequences for bad behavior. If I ever have children of my own they will not be exempted from spanking. My gf may object, but a house has to have rules and disipline to prevent a state of anarchy.
That was kind of long but it explains my background and feelings on the matter.

 

Nope never...I got a few time outs and twice got a toy took away,but usually my parents just said they were disappointed with me and gave me alternates to my behavior.

 

Yes regularly but for me my spankings as a child has nothing to do with me liking spankings in sex now. Big difference is as a child they hurt and as an adult he is not hurting me when spanking. Also as a child I was NEVER spanked with my ass exposed. It was always over the clothes.

 

For me it was a mix, sometimes clothed sometimes bare. It depended on the situation and the offense.

 

I wasn't spanked in my childhood. But I think when you've become an adult spanking is hot.

 

I'm finding out that alot of people were spanked as children and many weren't, but alot of the ones who say they weren't just don't want to admit it for whatever reason.

To those people I say there's nothing to be ashamed of there, so why try to hide it?

 

i was spanked or smacked as a child & i hate spanking now. i wouldnt be very happy if my fiance spanked me.

 

I was spanked as a child, and I love it now.

It's probably different for the people who were spanked just becuase their parents lost control. I was always spanked and I knew why I was being spanked, so it made sense to me. I hated it, but I understood that I did wrong. People who were spanked in an abusive way are bound to have a different opinion on the matter.

 

You have some good points there, KeileighAnn.

 

A few times, it never taught me anything except that my parents were jerks.

 

I was never spanked as kid although maybe I should have been. That would have been weird I think. :toetap05:

 

I was spanked as a child (and whipped with a belt) and I recently discovered that I am really turned on my spanking porn that I have found on the internet. What's interesting is that I prefer to imagine myself as the spanker and then having sex with the person that I spanked. I know that kids who were abused sometimes identify with the abuser, but I have no memories of any of that behavior towards me. I also don't enjoy the abuse or S&M aspect, just the erotic sight of a bare ass and spanking it.

 

No.

 

yes hard and often both at home and at school. i dont think I turned out as a bad person b/c of it i do love a good spanking in bed but i dont think getting whippings and paddlings as a kid turned me into a spanking perv or something one has nothing to do with the other

 

I was spanked up untill I started hittin' back then they resorted to ear pullin'

 

I was spanked (and beat) with and extention cord, hurt like a bitch.

 

I've had an extension cord but only consentually not as a punishment they hurt like hell that would be a harsh way to get punished

 

I grew up in the 80's.. It just never really was considered as abuse then like today, I don't know.. I always just thought it was normal then, but when I think about it too much i get mad at my parents. :/

 

I was went I was bad, that's how my parents were raised so they adopted the same system. I always knew why I was being spanked. My parents never spanked me without a reason or for pleasure so any pleasure I seek from spanking atm or in the future is unassociated.