I totally aggree with lutsko in all aspects..... Ladies do follow your heart and remember you need to be happy first and formost before you make others happy. I can't believe we got so many respoces on this thread, I didnt expect it to go into two pages. :cheers2: Keep looking for advice and we'll listen and help the best we can. Muah's ladies!!!!
Hey ladies I need help. I feel like I am traped, like a prisoner in my own house. I have been in a relationship with my girl for 4 years now she works 10 - 12 hours a day. I have no car no money no job because where i live the bus system sucks so it really hard to get around and not to mention there is no jobs. So I am playing housewife for now. I have no friends to go out with because I used to be an addict so I had to cut all ties with my old friends. I love my girl but i don't think i'm in love with her anymore. If i leave her i'm totally fucked i cant stay with my family because my mom is crazy and unstable and the rest of my family i have no relationship with. I used to be so inspired and play guitar and now i have no motivation to play anymore or even dress nice. I wake up crying every morning, I feel dead inside.
Also I am so comfortable in the relationship, this is all I know, I'm struggleing with depression and I know I need help but I have no one to turn to, not even my own mother which I am really starting to hate her ( i know isn't that terrible)
MayQueen! Don't feel left out, there will always be people to help you. Your situation is indeed complicated, you seem trapped and it must be real depressing to feel unpowerful. If you cannot go anywhere and cannot possibly find any job in your current surroundings, I have friends who work via the internet. Of course, you'd have to find something you are strong at, and if you can't find any ideas, you can always find something that interests you and start learning. You can always draw for instance. Or if you play guitar, put up some music on forums and such. Communicate. Create. Accept your situation and find a way to make it enjoyable to live, there's ALWAYS a way. As hard as it may be. Now, this could be called advice, or just words without any meaning, it's up to you, but it's what I would do if I were you. From what you posted. Don't stop seeking for advice oh and PS: I'm in love with Janis love your sig!
Thank you Saikoh, actually I was thinking about working online, maybe data processing because I can type pretty fast, can't seem to find a legit company though but I'm still looking, you are very sweet, thanks for making me smile. Much Love to Yah
Okay. I'm coming to come right out with it. My girlfriend cannot make me orgasm. She's aware of it and it's putting stress on both of us. It's not that she's doing anything wrong. When we're having sex it feels so incredibley amazing and I always get so close to coming but it just never happens. I have no idea what the hell is wrong with me. We once went about a month without any sex because she felt "inadequate". I LOVE having sex with her and I always feel satisfied afterwards even though I never come. But I must say, it would be a nice change to have her give me an orgasm and it would make her feel more confident too. We have a vibrator that we use but thats about all that we can acquire at the moment because we are both seventeen. I do masturbate on occassion and I USUALLY orgasm. It doesnt happen every single time though. I really dont know what to do. We've tried various positions but nothing seems to work. askdnfaiusnfausidnfasiducnvaeovqarf someone FIX me!
Have you ever had an orgasm with a woman before? Sometimes if you concentrate to much on trying to get off, it won't happen. You have to relax and let yourself go. Don't think about it!!! Also some medications (anti-depressents, etc.) make orgasm almost impossible.
Shes the only woman I've ever been with. Its getting ridiculous. We've been having sex for over a year and still...nothing! And nope, no depression meds.
ok..me and my girlfriend have been together for a year and some odd months and we have done just about every sex position we know and we have even searched online and everythin we find we have done..we dont have a strap on yet but we have a vibrator and my girl can control it like its a strap on...is there any positions we can do thats not that common? we are willing to try just about ANYTHING!! Please girls...we need your advice...it would be highly appreciated...thanx... ~Channy n Karisa~
I have a question... where the hell do I meet a nice girl? SERIOUSLY. There is no such thing in my area.
So I've been falling for this girl since I first laid eyes on her at a meeting. Didn't know her name, haven't seen her before, never talked to her. Then I found out she is bi. I've known her for about 5 months and since the beginning of January when she invited me to a gay bar with her and her friends we have been closer because she knows for sure I'm not straight. I don't know if she knew before the bar or what but I haven't told anyone else but her and her friends since. I see her about twice a week because we play the same sport and I'm afraid to tell her I like her. I want to really bad but I have no idea how she feels about me and I don't know what signs to look for. Any advice on how to approach the situation or anyone's past experience would be appreciated! should I as her to coffee again or maybe if she wants to go to the movies sometime? I'm at a loss.
Oh I say go for coffee or something, I mean you never know how she feels until you try right? And I remember with my girlfriend she told me she was 100% straight and one day we just kissed and we've been going out for almost two years now
None here either lol. My ex girlfriend is the sweetest person i know....too bad she was only experimenting. at least im still friends with her.... Good luck on finding someone
Okay so... I'm really confused. When I masturbate, its generally to women. The first time I looked at someone and really wanted to kiss them, it was a woman. But I'm also incredibly attracted to men. In fact, I'm in a serious relationship with a man, and I'm in love with him, and want him. The thing is, we've been having issues lately about the fact that he's probably asexual. And that got me thinking about my own sexuality. So there's this girl. We've been friends for a long time, but it kind of fell apart and grew back together again in the past year. But somehow, it was different. She was always telling me how attractive she found me, and I would tell her the same kinds of things. When we'd embrace, she'd sometimes slip her leg between my thighs... I thought as a joke. But then when I'd masturbate, it would come back and I'd think about it. And it stopped being a joke. We then began to seriously discuss it. Problem is, we're both in serious relationships (with men) and we love our significant others. Then, she started passing off her attraction for me as a joke, and I did the same to ease the tension. But now that we're parting ways (shes going to culinary school a long way off and I'm staying home for school), she's been candid about it. She tells me that if we were ever to hook up, it would be purely physical and she couldn't give me the love I deserved, because she couldn't ever love a woman like that. She said this in a light tone, but I don't know what to think. This was after discussing how we both found lesbian porn superior, and after I gave her masturbation advice... So. I don't really know what to do. Do you think she wants to be approached for sex, or should I let it be? I want to, but I don't really know women like I know men. Help!
My question is what are some signs a girl is into you? I know this is a vague question but I just recently let myself be and I'm only interested in girls. My whole life I have played this card of being str8 and I’m good at it. I think too good since now when I go to les bar or club everyone there keeps asking if I’m str8. Also I’m so used of acting that way that when I get compliments I smile and say thank you. My friends tell me to hit on her back but I’m just too shy. I can do one on one really well but when it comes to social places I completely fall to the background. I tried hitting on this girl (who by the way looked like Shane and sadly also acting like her) and she seem to be into me. I asked her to dance she said she didn’t know how when I turned to say something to my friend she was already making out with someone else in front of me. Oh and then she ASKed for my number, like really!! So anyways I need to umff my gaydar. I “act too str8” and I’m afraid I scare people away.
SO last post i did didnt really get me anything hopefully here i get some actual opinions. So im 15 nd im sure im a lesbian my problem is that i live in a horrible household my father has always been physically nd emotionaly abusive 2me nd this yr he caught me wit my gf in a very bad position.. ever since then things have escalated to an extreme he'll get mad for no reason nd just scream nd throw shit at me i kant take it the final straw was wen he was drunk nd startd goin off bout how he was a man nd well brought his pants down in front of me to show me hes disgustin nd now i find out that hes cheatin on my mom2 i hav friends that r gettin n apartment nxt yr wen ill b 16 nd they kno my situation nd will gladly let me live wit them ill b 16 nd workin but still goin 2skool of course SO i guess i wanna kno wat u guys think am i doin the right thing. i know im mature enough to do it just want some1 elses opinion
Some signs.. Well I am useless at signs.. Though for me signs is like any excuse to grab or hold your hand. When talking to you they try to get closer and closer for the chance to kiss you Okay yeah i am pretty useless though
@xchrissy Few thoughts. It's a great thing you guys are open about it. Some people never orgasm, but always fake it because they feel like you. They love the sex and it really feels good they just can't come, so they fake it to make their partners feel good. The fact that you are open about it is an excellent first step. As far as actually achieving an orgasm. Some people have to learn how to do it and it requires patience. You should not be so worried about it, but you two should keep trying. During sex repetitive motions help a lot. Have your gf stimulate your clit for a long time. And be patient. Take your time. If it takes you 45 mins, than take 45 mins. Dont get frustrated and just enjoy it while she is doing it. There is nothing wrong with you at all. They dont say for no reason that women in their 30s have better orgasms than they had during their early 20s. Quality comes with time and practice.
