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#1 ricksters22

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Posted October 16 2007 - 05:06 AM

Hello everyone, Im 23 from the US, and i was wondering the best way to gape my girlfriends ass, we always do it and it never seems to get any bigger, so i was wondering if any of you know anything i dont. Whenever we do it her asshole closes right afterwards. and most of the time she doesnt even want to show me and gets up in a way i cant see it.
Any help??
Thanks :D

#2 Hungry for love

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Posted October 16 2007 - 06:20 AM

obviously dosnt want you to see...cant say i blame her.

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Posted October 16 2007 - 10:37 AM

Why are you trying to accomplish something she doesn't want. Be happy she lets you do anal with her.

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Posted October 16 2007 - 11:01 AM

Gaping assholes are caused by repeated streching and trauma to the sphincter muscle. All the porn stars with gaping assholes have very little muscle control from repeated extreme anal strecthing. This isn't a joke. They'll have incontinence problems. Anal is fine if its done gently, but there is a chance to damage the musclature and tear the colon lining if you are shoving huge things up there or trying to "gape" her ass.

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Posted October 16 2007 - 05:26 PM

Gaping assholes are caused by repeated streching and trauma to the sphincter muscle. All the porn stars with gaping assholes have very little muscle control from repeated extreme anal strecthing. This isn't a joke. They'll have incontinence problems. Anal is fine if its done gently, but there is a chance to damage the musclature and tear the colon lining if you are shoving huge things up there or trying to "gape" her ass.

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#6 The Lone Wolf

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Posted October 16 2007 - 06:08 PM

You have to make her comfortable enough to spread it open and relax for you. Hell, she does it before you fuck her, I don't see why it's an issue after.

#7 GearHead

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Posted October 17 2007 - 11:04 PM

the reason its closing is because shes pinching her hole, even if just a little. if she pushes out while you pull out it gapes it doesnt take a long time like jackass said

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Posted October 21 2007 - 07:14 PM

Correct, a normal length anal session will produce a "gaper". obviously the larger the tool, the bigger the gaper. Tell her to push out hard when you pull out and it will open up nice for ya.

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Posted February 26 2008 - 05:37 AM

Most women are shy about that sort of thing, her first reaction when you pull out is to clinch her muscle closed, next time you have anal sex do it with her on her back with a pillow under her hips and legs spread and pushed up around her chest, after you cum tell her to reach down and spread her ass checks for you and push out instead of closing up. If she can deal with the feeling of shame in doing something like this it will stay open, she must be up for it. Tell her how great she looks like that, open only for you. Works for me. It would work better if she is a submissive type and is used to displaying herself to you.

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Posted February 27 2008 - 12:35 AM

I agree with Overlymature, If she is allowing you to have anal sex (and a lot of women dont) then why are you pushing her boundarys and making her uncomfortable? She may well withdraw those priviliges all together.

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Posted February 27 2008 - 03:06 PM

Hello everyone, Im 23 from the US


Says your 19......
Right and wrong, much like good and evil does not exist, all we have is perception and our opinions.

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Posted February 28 2008 - 01:06 PM

Correct, a normal length anal session will produce a "gaper". obviously the larger the tool, the bigger the gaper. Tell her to push out hard when you pull out and it will open up nice for ya.

or she might shit on you by pushing too hard

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Posted August 08 2012 - 06:28 PM

Most women are shy about that sort of thing, her first reaction when you pull out is to clinch her muscle closed, next time you have anal sex do it with her on her back with a pillow under her hips and legs spread and pushed up around her chest, after you cum tell her to reach down and spread her ass checks for you and push out instead of closing up. If she can deal with the feeling of shame in doing something like this it will stay open, she must be up for it. Tell her how great she looks like that, open only for you. Works for me. It would work better if she is a submissive type and is used to displaying herself to you.

Peace


You hit a key word here.. A woman must be willing to submit!!

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Posted August 08 2012 - 06:59 PM

Is there such a sextoy (?) that can be inserted & allows the gape to stay open & is still visible without it closing ? Something like a glass type dildo that magnifies the inside as well as the outside? There's some type of medical type instrument that's used to do internal vaginal inspections that keep the vagina open for as long as needed?

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Posted August 08 2012 - 08:23 PM

Is there such a sextoy (?) that can be inserted & allows the gape to stay open & is still visible without it closing ? Something like a glass type dildo that magnifies the inside as well as the outside? There's some type of medical type instrument that's used to do internal vaginal inspections that keep the vagina open for as long as needed?


Many .... Glass butt blugs are sexy and pretty ... Still a woman/man that is willing to submit to you is the best way to get the desired effect!!! Just my opinion... Wanting to give in to what your partner wants and being open to yourself sexually is really the only way for both engaged to be pleased intimately ....

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Posted August 09 2012 - 03:41 AM

Says your 19......

are you a detective? :bobby:
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#17 myttia

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Posted August 09 2012 - 04:00 PM

Is there such a sextoy (?) that can be inserted & allows the gape to stay open & is still visible without it closing ? Something like a glass type dildo that magnifies the inside as well as the outside? There's some type of medical type instrument that's used to do internal vaginal inspections that keep the vagina open for as long as needed?


yes. saw this, pretty hot, but even the biggest one wont get my boy in through it (unless maybe he suprises himself when he's soft, but then he'd get stuck like on a cock ring lol, but then i spose he could fuck me with it! lol if it didnt hurt him too much??)

darn i cant find it on the net, its like a buttplug but with a hole through the middle. taperred on the front end so it can slide in. I think the biggest one is only 1.5" hollow though :/

if anyone finds it please post! :)

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Posted August 09 2012 - 04:11 PM

yes. saw this, pretty hot, but even the biggest one wont get my boy in through it (unless maybe he suprises himself when he's soft, but then he'd get stuck like on a cock ring lol, but then i spose he could fuck me with it! lol if it didnt hurt him too much??)

darn i cant find it on the net, its like a buttplug but with a hole through the middle. taperred on the front end so it can slide in. I think the biggest one is only 1.5" hollow though :/

if anyone finds it please post! :)


I can imagine a butt plug with it completely hollow & open at both ends so air passes in & out. It would take a well lubed & gaped & penetrated butt to stay open for a few minutes so you could see it thou after withdrawing the penis or a giant sized plug?

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Posted August 13 2012 - 08:35 PM

as for gaping, everyone says push out - i dont, i relax instead actually - this keeps your insides from being pushed against your ass, which in the videos with the pros produces prolapses (which i think are kinda gross, personally...). Instead when im on all 4s with my abdomen below my back hole, my insides are being pulled down away from my hole, and if i relax, i open up and air sneaks in hehe. sometimes this makes me clamp up again, but evenbefore we start playing I can do this and open up like 1/2 an inch! Id love to open up like 1 1/2" inches for my guy, show him that im super ready for him without any touching yet, just cuz im.. iguess a butt slut lol! but 1/2 inch is still nice, he can get his little finger in without touching the sides, but sometimes i clamp shut around him hehehe start the game all over again

saw a girl in some porn vids that could do that.. katy heart i think or something? old school vids (older anal vids are better, less violent/forceful, less frantic, hotter.)

can any other girls do this? how wide can you gape without having been touched yet?

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Posted August 14 2012 - 05:10 AM

I didn't used to be able to gape (although I'm not sure I ever really tried). My sphincter would begin close even before he pulled out.

The more I have had anal the sooner and more relaxed my sphincter has become, that's for sure. After I have been penetrated for a while, I just seem to open up and stay open, particularly if I'm on all fours. I know this is directly related to practice and muscle memory. Also using dongs and not plugs will help as well. Plugs encourage the sphincter to want to close.

Lastly, this is not something you can make your girl do. It has to be something she wants to do. Everything in bed needs to be consensual. No matter how far out there.

#21 Jocelyn001

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Posted August 14 2012 - 05:18 AM

She's probably not getting enough action for it to just gape open. And I'm guessing the two of you don't really want her to have that issue.

I like anal, but if mine started to gape, I'd quit anal sex. It would be very unattractive for me to just shit without wanting to.

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Posted August 16 2012 - 06:09 AM

as for gaping, everyone says push out - i dont, i relax instead actually - this keeps your insides from being pushed against your ass, which in the videos with the pros produces prolapses (which i think are kinda gross, personally...). Instead when im on all 4s with my abdomen below my back hole, my insides are being pulled down away from my hole, and if i relax, i open up and air sneaks in hehe. sometimes this makes me clamp up again, but evenbefore we start playing I can do this and open up like 1/2 an inch! Id love to open up like 1 1/2" inches for my guy, show him that im super ready for him without any touching yet, just cuz im.. iguess a butt slut lol! but 1/2 inch is still nice, he can get his little finger in without touching the sides, but sometimes i clamp shut around him hehehe start the game all over

can any other girls do this? how wide can you gape without having been touched yet?


My wife has been a practicing gaper for a while. She's getting better at it. She uses the push out method though, like she's pooping. After a good anal session, she can work it and get some good gapes but it doesn't always stay open. Her asshole seems to be good for anal sex, she's never had any pain and can do it anytime but the gape isn't all there yet.

Gaping before? Hmmm... That would be hot. I'll have to have her try that out. She usually just spreads her cheeks and in I go!

Must have her try this out!

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Posted August 16 2012 - 06:12 AM

I like anal, but if mine started to gape, I'd quit anal sex. It would be very unattractive for me to just shit without wanting to.


That just doesnt happen. it's a myth that a lot of anal causes pooping problems. My wife has been getting buttfucked regularly for years and years. I assure you that she shits just fine. She did used to worry about this when we first started almost daily anal sex and would always ask me if her asshole feels too loose or whatever. It never did. She poops when she needs to with no issues.

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Posted August 17 2012 - 12:00 AM

as for gaping, everyone says push out - i dont, i relax instead actually - this keeps your insides from being pushed against your ass, which in the videos with the pros produces prolapses (which i think are kinda gross, personally...). Instead when im on all 4s with my abdomen below my back hole, my insides are being pulled down away from my hole, and if i relax, i open up and air sneaks in hehe. sometimes this makes me clamp up again, but evenbefore we start playing I can do this and open up like 1/2 an inch! Id love to open up like 1 1/2" inches for my guy, show him that im super ready for him without any touching yet, just cuz im.. iguess a butt slut lol! but 1/2 inch is still nice, he can get his little finger in without touching the sides, but sometimes i clamp shut around him hehehe start the game all over again

saw a girl in some porn vids that could do that.. katy heart i think or something? old school vids (older anal vids are better, less violent/forceful, less frantic, hotter.)

can any other girls do this? how wide can you gape without having been touched yet?


That's so hot! I never knew you could pre-gape. But it kind of makes sense. I can almost imagine the feeling of it opening all on it's own.

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Posted August 19 2012 - 09:05 AM

as for gaping, everyone says push out - i dont, i relax instead actually - this keeps your insides from being pushed against your ass, which in the videos with the pros produces prolapses (which i think are kinda gross, personally...). Instead when im on all 4s with my abdomen below my back hole, my insides are being pulled down away from my hole, and if i relax, i open up and air sneaks in hehe. sometimes this makes me clamp up again, but evenbefore we start playing I can do this and open up like 1/2 an inch! Id love to open up like 1 1/2" inches for my guy, show him that im super ready for him without any touching yet, just cuz im.. iguess a butt slut lol! but 1/2 inch is still nice, he can get his little finger in without touching the sides, but sometimes i clamp shut around him hehehe start the game all over again

saw a girl in some porn vids that could do that.. katy heart i think or something? old school vids (older anal vids are better, less violent/forceful, less frantic, hotter.)

can any other girls do this? how wide can you gape without having been touched yet?


You've got that right Myttia - the part about relaxing, not pushing that is.
My wife gets a real good gape going after she has had an orgasm or 2 and is really relaxed altho I don't think she is even aware she is doing it.
I find this to be hugely stimulating - looking at her beautiful gaping asshole before shoving my dick back in again.

As for the person who started this thread I would recommend that he lavish praise on his GF's ass, telling her how beautiful her asshole is as he fucks it, etc.
Does she orgasm from anal? If not this could be why there is no gape.
A good way to get a gape going is to repeatedly pull out and reinsert - gently and with plenty of lube of course.

So Myttia, you are able to gape 1/2" at will? That's amazing!
I think there is a scene in John Waters' film Pink Flamingos where a man opens and closes his asshole.

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Posted August 20 2012 - 09:01 PM

You've got that right Myttia - the part about relaxing, not pushing that is.

So Myttia, you are able to gape 1/2" at will? That's amazing!
I think there is a scene in John Waters' film Pink Flamingos where a man opens and closes his asshole.


yeah about that, it'snot much, feels huge at the time - likethere's a tension on the outside pulling open instead of closed! its pretty neat, feels very different, and its so hard to control, cuz its involuntary on the inside sphincter... but im so excited...

do other girls experience that - when you think about your boy back there your insides get all quivery? (This sometimes comes in handy say a couple hrs and a shower before hand lol, just start tensing and relaxing back there thinking about him, involuntarily almost, and then have the urge to get all super clean there in case we end up playing :) )

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Posted June 11 2013 - 01:25 AM

Hello I can talk of how to train and play anally.To get the big gapes that you see in porn. First hand because I am a web based porn. star.:) I am very open minded about sexual things like this and can talk about it very openly.So if you have a question ask away!!! Yes the poster that said to use dongs verses plugs is right. Also it helps a lot to get the females more into it and able to relax too....If they plan to set some personal time before anal play like this ...meaning getting a home enema kit and learn how to clean their body.This will do two things one ...she will know it will turn out will be a clean exp and not a messy one ..and she will get to know her anal cavity .How to relax the muscles. Some times help to get better cleaning using a special type of soap to mix into the water... use warm to wrist water...cold will cause cramps and too hot will burn....also use the douche nozzle instead of the anal one .Because the douche one is made round and not a blunt .Plus it going in easier,is more comfortable to use and go's a tad deeper so not to lose as much water...once clean start out with your fingers or small toy ...if using fingers make sure u cut and file smooth your nails!!! once she has relaxed some keep working up using bigger toy ...go slow n use lot of lube... you will be shocked just how open her ass can get in a day of play time! Once she is use to anal play she can insert a dildo right after cleaning and wear it for a while so she will already be loosen up come play time! Usually even with very radical play the ass will close back up in just a few hours.

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Posted June 11 2013 - 01:34 AM

Wow, thanks. I'm an anal virgin but at least I know what to do now if I want to try.
If my guy has erection issues though, anal will be harder to accomplish than vaginal right?
Where do you purchase the kits from?

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Posted June 11 2013 - 01:37 AM

Hello I can talk of how to train and play anally.To get the big gapes that you see in porn. First hand because I am a web based porn. star.:) I am very open minded about sexual things like this and can talk about it very openly.So if you have a question ask away!!! Yes the poster that said to use dongs verses plugs is right. Also it helps a lot to get the females more into it and able to relax too....If they plan to set some personal time before anal play like this ...meaning getting a home enema kit and learn how to clean their body.This will do two things one ...she will know it will turn out will be a clean exp and not a messy one ..and she will get to know her anal cavity .How to relax the muscles. Some times help to get better cleaning using a special type of soap to mix into the water... use warm to wrist water...cold will cause cramps and too hot will burn....also use the douche nozzle instead of the anal one .Because the douche one is made round and not a blunt .Plus it going in easier,is more comfortable to use and go's a tad deeper so not to lose as much water...once clean start out with your fingers or small toy ...if using fingers make sure u cut and file smooth your nails!!! once she has relaxed some keep working up using bigger toy ...go slow n use lot of lube... you will be shocked just how open her ass can get in a day of play time! Once she is use to anal play she can insert a dildo right after cleaning and wear it for a while so she will already be loosen up come play time! Usually even with very radical play the ass will close back up in just a few hours.http://richelinnchambers.com

Edited by RichelinnC, June 12 2013 - 11:25 PM.
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Posted June 13 2013 - 12:36 AM

Yes ,if he has erection issues it will be harder to do .That is until you learn your body. Once you do that it will become easier. The way you can do this is to ...set aside some private time by yourself with no distractions . Use lots of lube,start small..learn your body..what it likes and how to relax....It is not like you become loose it is more like you gain more muscle control. So you in fact know how to expand your muscle to accept him in easier and contract them too to be able to (suck) his love rocket....You will see that just by knowing it is going to be a clean exp.,using lot of lube ,what you learn in your private times... That anal can become very exciting,rewarding exp.for the both of you! The kits can be found at any drug store outlet ,even Wal-mart has them located by the fiber/laxatives .It comes packaged in a small box. Cost is cheapest there too bout 6 bucks. Also helps if he starts out by having you lay flat face dn on bed and use some lite warm oil ,to rub your booty checks with and every so often slightly put them apart.....winks ....have fun ,be safe thanks for the post. http://richelinnchambers.com