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#1 kevinhigashi

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Posted September 07 2007 - 10:29 AM

A lot of guys would think being married to a former stripper would rock but it has a lot of downside. I am a jealous type and she can't count how many guys she gave lap dances to. She gave it up, so I try and forget it, which is only fair, but not easy for me. Also, I can suffer from some inadequacy fears. I aint a dynamo is bed and she has known so many guys that I think I must bore her. Yeah, she is hot and yeah, when she wants to turn it on, she can blow me away, but I find it a bit of a struggle at times, too.

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Posted September 07 2007 - 11:25 AM

sure it could have down side but you knew she was a stripper before you married her....she must think alot of you or she would'nt a married you.... so you should'nt feel insure about anything look at it this way she found something in you that none of the other guys had so try not to be insure and just have fun with her

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Posted January 08 2009 - 05:24 PM

My wife is a stripper..currently. She's a little hotty, and here's the scoop. First, the poster who noted your wife must see something in you is right. Trust her...I'm very jealous, but my wife still strips, gives lap dances, etc. (no sex) She hauls in about $5000.00 a month cash.

If you are an insecure man, stay away from strippers because even if they quit you will live the thought of how many men they have done (or you imagine they have done) and feel inadequate. My first night with my wife I lit her up like a Christmas tree!

Yes, it can be a drain dwelling on whether they are screwing for cash, but that's where trust comes in. She wears a ring at all times (like men give a damn) and turns away many offers for expensive trips etc.

Last week, she walked in with $1400.00 cash in five hours. For the first time I thought "okay..what did you do." Then she told it straight, some older dude with his hands in certain activity walked in, took one look at her and decided she was his. He insisted, after he thought he was baiting her, that she drink his drinks, normally they have juice or a touch of Pineapple juice. She agreed after he whipped out the first $200.00 after her first dance. He kept ordering rounds of Jack Daniels, and she kept dumping them under the table. She played him out until her shift ended at 9:00PM. When she left, of course he followed her out and thought he was going home with her. She nicely said "no." She jumped in a cab and walked into my arms a half hour later. She said he looked like someone kicked him in the guts as she drove away and felt guilty, but knew if not her it would be someone else in the club.

This life isn't for everyone. I'm 43 but in great shape, and mature. Twenty years ago I would have went insane thinking about what she does and if she was doing more....now I know better. She's an awesome wife, mother, and best friend! However, don't think strippers are sex kittens; the majority are women who have cycles...but when it's on it's on!!!!

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Posted January 09 2009 - 01:37 PM

I would never in a million years think that being married to a stripper has an upside. I do not, nor never would I judge a stripper but what I had/have in mind for marriage goes way beyond whats "hot". I think your fears are normal. At this point all you can do is be the best you can be in every facet of life, which I guess is what we all do anyways. Good luck with that and dont beat your own self up.
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Posted January 12 2009 - 09:10 PM

I would never marry, or even date, someone that works or had worked in the sex industry.
Good luck to you.

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Posted January 13 2009 - 11:20 AM

I would never marry, or even date, someone that works or had worked in the sex industry.
Good luck to you.

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Posted January 13 2009 - 11:24 AM

I hardly think strippers work in the sex industry!

They're not selling sex!

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Posted January 13 2009 - 11:48 AM

I hardly think strippers work in the sex industry!

They're not selling sex!


You show them some green in a private lap dance and you may be surprised what they will sell you...

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Posted January 13 2009 - 01:28 PM

i dated a girl who turned out to be a stripper, didn't know until like a year into our relationship. WORST RELATIONSHIP EVER fucking douche bag was used to walking over men and using sexuality to get what she wanted, that doesn't work on me so it caused a lot of tension... then in a twist of fate another x of mine, this girl I was and still am friends with starting stripping, i was disgusted, shes rich and has all the money she needed, I immediately assumed she was in some kind of bind but it turns out she did it to by a vaporizer, fucking gross. And yes, it is the sex industry, its barely a step above prostitution (and only sometimes)

however if it works for you good, but no way in hell would I even consider it. I hate strippers, they are shells of people with nothing inside who use men and take advantage of the double standard of women vs men in our society
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#10 Aristartle

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Posted January 13 2009 - 01:44 PM

You should marry her and have her dance for you and all of your buddies at your bachelor party.
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#11 billyjean305

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Posted January 18 2009 - 11:40 AM

A lot of guys would think being married to a former stripper would rock but it has a lot of downside. I am a jealous type and she can't count how many guys she gave lap dances to. She gave it up, so I try and forget it, which is only fair, but not easy for me. Also, I can suffer from some inadequacy fears. I aint a dynamo is bed and she has known so many guys that I think I must bore her. Yeah, she is hot and yeah, when she wants to turn it on, she can blow me away, but I find it a bit of a struggle at times, too.

in the book " how to fuck a stripper" one of the commandments it specifically states" never try to make a stripper quit bcuz she wont" and you my friend are an example. btw what made you marry one?

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Posted January 28 2009 - 07:13 PM

id say listen to duke13. sounds like itd comfort you. im sure it could be rough. but when you married her you should have thought about this.

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Posted January 28 2009 - 08:05 PM

My wife is a stripper..currently. She's a little hotty, and here's the scoop. First, the poster who noted your wife must see something in you is right. Trust her...I'm very jealous, but my wife still strips, gives lap dances, etc. (no sex) She hauls in about $5000.00 a month cash.

If you are an insecure man, stay away from strippers because even if they quit you will live the thought of how many men they have done (or you imagine they have done) and feel inadequate. My first night with my wife I lit her up like a Christmas tree!

Yes, it can be a drain dwelling on whether they are screwing for cash, but that's where trust comes in. She wears a ring at all times (like men give a damn) and turns away many offers for expensive trips etc.

Last week, she walked in with $1400.00 cash in five hours. For the first time I thought "okay..what did you do." Then she told it straight, some older dude with his hands in certain activity walked in, took one look at her and decided she was his. He insisted, after he thought he was baiting her, that she drink his drinks, normally they have juice or a touch of Pineapple juice. She agreed after he whipped out the first $200.00 after her first dance. He kept ordering rounds of Jack Daniels, and she kept dumping them under the table. She played him out until her shift ended at 9:00PM. When she left, of course he followed her out and thought he was going home with her. She nicely said "no." She jumped in a cab and walked into my arms a half hour later. She said he looked like someone kicked him in the guts as she drove away and felt guilty, but knew if not her it would be someone else in the club.

This life isn't for everyone. I'm 43 but in great shape, and mature. Twenty years ago I would have went insane thinking about what she does and if she was doing more....now I know better. She's an awesome wife, mother, and best friend! However, don't think strippers are sex kittens; the majority are women who have cycles...but when it's on it's on!!!!


LOL wow like str8 from "how to fuck a stripper" book LOL

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Posted February 05 2009 - 12:15 PM

i dated a girl who turned out to be a stripper, didn't know until like a year into our relationship. WORST RELATIONSHIP EVER fucking douche bag was used to walking over men and using sexuality to get what she wanted, that doesn't work on me so it caused a lot of tension... then in a twist of fate another x of mine, this girl I was and still am friends with starting stripping, i was disgusted, shes rich and has all the money she needed, I immediately assumed she was in some kind of bind but it turns out she did it to by a vaporizer, fucking gross. And yes, it is the sex industry, its barely a step above prostitution (and only sometimes)

however if it works for you good, but no way in hell would I even consider it. I hate strippers, they are shells of people with nothing inside who use men and take advantage of the double standard of women vs men in our society


I am a stripper & have never slept with one of my customers. It's in NO WAY close to prostitution. Strippers don't have sex with guys for money. Sure, some might, but that doesn't give anyone the right to put that label on ALL dancers. Pornography is closer to prostitution. I am a beautiful person inside & out. I probably have more of a conscience than most people here. I'm highly intelligent & I love what I do. Dancers don't take advantage of any double standard, but rather a man's stupidity.

To address the real question here...it's ok to marry the girl (if you haven't already.) Just because she used to dance doesn't mean she had sex with all kinds of guys. Dancers are just regular people. It's not nearly as bad as everyone makes the industry out to be. I, too, was ignorant & thought a lot of bad things about dancers, until I went to a club & ultimately became a dancer. I was very wrong. Anybody who thinks dancers are bad people are wrong too. We're just trying to make a living & support ourselves & our families...just like everyone else. So don't go judging saying we are just "shells" of people. I've met some of the most wonderful people that just so happen to be dancers.

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Posted February 12 2009 - 03:47 PM

Personal problem... get a therapist!

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Posted February 12 2009 - 03:55 PM

[quote name='Hippie McRaver']i dated a girl who turned out to be a stripper, didn't know until like a year into our relationship. WORST RELATIONSHIP EVER fucking douche bag was used to walking over men and using sexuality to get what she wanted, that doesn't work on me so it caused a lot of tension... then in a twist of fate another x of mine, this girl I was and still am friends with starting stripping, i was disgusted, shes rich and has all the money she needed, I immediately assumed she was in some kind of bind but it turns out she did it to by a vaporizer, fucking gross. And yes, it is the sex industry, its barely a step above prostitution (and only sometimes)

however if it works for you good, but no way in hell would I even consider it. I hate strippers, they are shells of people with nothing inside who use men and take advantage of the double standard

sounds like someome has a weee bitty ISSUE so cause you had a bad one their all bad. WEAK you are SO WEAK

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Posted February 19 2009 - 02:28 AM

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Posted February 19 2009 - 11:43 PM

face the facts kevin, you have trust issues and you're with a woman that is definitely going to give you cause to confront these issues. perhaps you're in this with her to do just that.

for all the people that think all the strippers are the same, think again. that's like saying all hippies/businessmen/republicans are the same. clearly they're not.
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Posted February 20 2009 - 12:26 PM

I am a stripper & have never slept with one of my customers. It's in NO WAY close to prostitution. Strippers don't have sex with guys for money. Sure, some might, but that doesn't give anyone the right to put that label on ALL dancers. Pornography is closer to prostitution. I am a beautiful person inside & out. I probably have more of a conscience than most people here. I'm highly intelligent & I love what I do. Dancers don't take advantage of any double standard, but rather a man's stupidity.

To address the real question here...it's ok to marry the girl (if you haven't already.) Just because she used to dance doesn't mean she had sex with all kinds of guys. Dancers are just regular people. It's not nearly as bad as everyone makes the industry out to be. I, too, was ignorant & thought a lot of bad things about dancers, until I went to a club & ultimately became a dancer. I was very wrong. Anybody who thinks dancers are bad people are wrong too. We're just trying to make a living & support ourselves & our families...just like everyone else. So don't go judging saying we are just "shells" of people. I've met some of the most wonderful people that just so happen to be dancers.


Sounds LIKE BULLSHIT

I went to a strip club for valentines day for the first time and wow! anyone like pussyfoot to said thats a respectable job is a LIAR!!!!!!!!!
WOW nothing but hookers! those strippers are so dirty on STAGE they were showing off this pussies to every one like its all good! WTF if that a RESPECTABLE WOMEN THEN I DNT KNOW SHIT!

STRIPPERS ALL THEY WANT IS YOUR MONEY! yes i understand that there there to sell you a fantasy but wow they will do anything to suck out your money! HOOOKERS! GOD I WOULD HATE IT if MY MOTHER OR SISTER OR DAUGHTER WAS A STRIPPER it so degrading!! i have little respect for those hookers! i feel bad for the dude who got married to this whore and now is paying the price!

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Posted February 20 2009 - 01:19 PM

^Um wow.

You know there are different quality of clubs right? I've stripped too, and I've never slept with anyone that I've danced for.

Go to cheap clubs you get cheap girls. Simple as that.
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Posted February 20 2009 - 02:01 PM

^Damn that shit was a bit hardcore wasn't it Sarah?! Damn BillyJean calm down. Stripper are still people they deserve respect to like everyone else.

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Posted February 20 2009 - 07:46 PM

^Damn that shit was a bit hardcore wasn't it Sarah?! Damn BillyJean calm down. Stripper are still people they deserve respect to like everyone else.


you my friend need to take your ass to hialeah gold and see how those dirty azz hookers work.


nazi's still run around in football(socca) in europe but i dnt think they still deserve respect.

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Posted February 20 2009 - 07:47 PM

^Um wow.

You know there are different quality of clubs right? I've stripped too, and I've never slept with anyone that I've danced for.

Go to cheap clubs you get cheap girls. Simple as that.


right.......... more MANIPULATIVE stripper "lines" sleep with them or not there all whores.

if i pay 10 dollars here for a lap dance compared to another club's 30 lap dance ?! there all the same shit. there there to take advantage of you. just read the storys above fack......... btw i can careless if you slept with or not?! sorry to break it to you but you deserve no respect. look at what you do? give guy cock tease?! and sit on there laps lie and act "interested" in them to slowing suck there money or am wrong?

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Posted February 20 2009 - 10:51 PM

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Posted February 21 2009 - 07:22 AM

^Um wow.

You know there are different quality of clubs right? I've stripped too, and I've never slept with anyone that I've danced for.

Go to cheap clubs you get cheap girls. Simple as that.


strippers are usually very nice to me.

I feel like it's a giant metaphor for America so it's my patriotic duty to eat one eventually.


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Posted February 21 2009 - 07:23 AM

right.......... more MANIPULATIVE stripper "lines" sleep with them or not there all whores.

if i pay 10 dollars here for a lap dance compared to another club's 30 lap dance ?! there all the same shit. there there to take advantage of you. just read the storys above fack......... btw i can careless if you slept with or not?! sorry to break it to you but you deserve no respect. look at what you do? give guy cock tease?! and sit on there laps lie and act "interested" in them to slowing suck there money or am wrong?


they're not taking advantage of you? wtf? they're transacting business. what do you want? a free one? get a date, go dutch.

I feel like it's a giant metaphor for America so it's my patriotic duty to eat one eventually.


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Posted February 21 2009 - 12:44 PM

right.......... more MANIPULATIVE stripper "lines" sleep with them or not there all whores.

if i pay 10 dollars here for a lap dance compared to another club's 30 lap dance ?! there all the same shit. there there to take advantage of you. just read the storys above fack......... btw i can careless if you slept with or not?! sorry to break it to you but you deserve no respect. look at what you do? give guy cock tease?! and sit on there laps lie and act "interested" in them to slowing suck there money or am wrong?


Your just someone who's probably been replaced by a stripper at one point.

And just so ya know, after I stopped dancing I worked in law. So yeah, I deserve respect.

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Posted February 21 2009 - 09:02 PM

Your just someone who's probably been replaced by a stripper at one point.

And just so ya know, after I stopped dancing I worked in law. So yeah, I deserve respect.

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valentines was my first time going there.......................


you have to have NO RESPECT TO BE A STRIPPER! you think all the honry guys there have respect for them hell no HAHAHAHAHA LOL

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Posted February 21 2009 - 10:32 PM

just because the guys don't respect them doesn't mean the women don't have self respect. that's two different things entirely. besides why do you keep stating all strippers are exactly the same? everybodys different. you can't get around that billyjean.
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Posted February 21 2009 - 11:24 PM

just because the guys don't respect them doesn't mean the women don't have self respect. that's two different things entirely. besides why do you keep stating all strippers are exactly the same? everybodys different. you can't get around that billyjean.


and all drug dealers weight out to be the same! just like a stripper!

theres no SELF respect in theses joints!