Premature ejaculation

Discussion in 'Sexual Health' started by Cutted, Aug 20, 2007.

  1. Jackie-Jhonson

    Jackie-Jhonson Member

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    You Have Some Great Tips Here :)
     
  2. MyMind

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    I feel as if my head is too sensitive. I've had sex about 8 or 9 times and even towards the the last times I've had sex and really just try to keep my mind of not cumming, it still shoots out. counting in my head, the start stop method, squeezing never really worked so far. Names like "5- second Bob" really left a number on me, and I feel like my mind can handle it, but it just doesn't work at all.... Usually makes me scared to even date a girl for that reason. My Self esteem gets knocked down in that area.. Help please.
     
  3. Cutted

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    Sounds like you are uncut and your glans is overly sensitive. There are desensitizing creams you can put on the head before sex to lessen the sensation, or you can try pulling back the foreskin and "wearing" your penis with the head exposed all the time, which will have the same effect. Not all uncut guys can pull back their foreskins and have them stay back, however. PM me if you want further instruction.
     
  4. Lilybelle99

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    Hi,

    I am a 19 year old girl and have been having sex with my boyfriend for about 8 months. He used to last a long time when we first started (over half an hour), but now we are lucky if he can last 5 minutes. Any advice on to why this is happening, and what we can do, would be appreciated :)
     
  5. Cutted

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    Five minutes actually is above average. Check out my ten techniques and have your boyfriend contact me for more instruction if they don't help.
     
  6. Caesar222

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    One word. Masturbation. I had really tough time with this myself but the fact of the matter was I was simply not masturbating enough. It's not just getting the penis use to being touched, it's also self training.

    You train yourself to be able to cum. Before that it would always be like "I'm being touched, oh I came" There was not buildup. Through masturbation you learn to build up, then release.
     
  7. Oren_nerO

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    Hey,

    Frequent masturbation seems to have cured my PE. Do kegels usually help people with this issue? And what effect does it have on most people sexual performance?
     
  8. Cutted

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    Definitely yes. Abdominal muscle control is a large part of controlling your ejaculation. Cumming early is a big problem in sexual performance. Women don't usually complain if you last 45 minutes (unless it makes them sore).
     
  9. jabronie

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    I've been with a girl for 4+ years, and while I've had my good moments, it seems like I normally have to be semi-decently drunk to be able to perform like a champ. I've ordered some viagra, and am going to see how that works, but I still feel like I'm not getting anywhere, kind of an weird situation, we only see each other a weekend a month or so, but even when I was having regular sex, I didn't seem to be able to last longer than 10 minutes at most. I'm gonna try to start doing kegels, but it still seems like I don't want to feel like I have to hold back, when I'm drinking, it doesn't affect me whatsoever to go 30-45 minutes and then blow my load. Will viagra help my situation at all, or should I focus on the kegels?
     
  10. dastud

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    I doubt that Viagra will help you last longer but you may be able to stay hard and go for a second round. 10 minutes is not bad - longer than average by the way. I saw a survey that said the average time a woman wants PIV sex to last is 15 to 20 minutes.
     
  11. Cutted

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    Viagra could help you last longer (cialis too). What it does is open the capillaries in the shaft of your penis and let the blood flow in, hardening it. You need to be somewhat aroused for this to work. But 10 minutes is longer than most guys last today, even without a PE problem. But you can learn to control how long you last by using some of the techniques I have posted.
     
  12. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

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    Kegel exercises, and Tantric masturbation techniques may help. I'd personally go about that route before resorting to any meds. That, and of course having a loving partner who will help you through the "training" process.
     
  13. lovemejeje

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    This ideas looks great but not comfortable with the masturbation stuff. Maybe due to my religious background teachings. Can pre-mature ejaculation be stopped without the masturbation techniques?
     
  14. Cutted

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    Most of my 10 techniques do not involve masturbation, but mind control. Check them out.
     
  15. Alternative_Thinker

    Alternative_Thinker Darth Mysterious

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    In that case, don't call it masturbation, call it "preparation" instead.
     
  16. Alex89

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    Hey all, first time here.

    Glad to see a comprehensive thread on PE - going to be looking through it all. Realistically, do these 10 tips/steps/techniques go anywhere in terms of helping us with PE?

    Unfortunately, this has been a huge issue for me. I dated a girl for 4 years and never got any better. I'd always take care of her first to make sure she stayed happy, but when it was time for sex I'd only go a minute max. Only on occasions when we did it more than once (sex, sleep, wake up a bit later and go again) would I be able to go on for about 10 minutes.

    Now that we're not together anymore, I am extremely hesitant/resistant to do it with anyone else. By no means am I pimp-daddy-master, but I do find myself in situations where I could be with a girl if I pursued it. Unfortunately, I never do because of this issue. When I'm able to last, it's great, but I rarely, if ever, get the chance to really do so.

    I have no desire to be able to last hours and become a porn star, but if I could consistently last for 7-10 minutes my sexual life would not only be quite active, but extremely pleasurable as well.

    Hope to hear back from anyone!
     
  17. Cutted

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    You screw with your brain as much as with your penis. You get erect because as you start to get aroused, your brain flashes nitric oxide to your penis and causes blood to flow into the capillaries of the two corpus caverosa sacks in the shaft.

    My ten techniques allow you to deflect the brain impulses away from your penis for short periods when you get close to ejaculation. Practice masturbating, and then when you get close to orgasm start counting or thinking about something else (your grandmother?) before it is too late to stop the ejaculation. Every guy knows when he is about ready to blow, and if you can use any of these techniques to retard the orgasm, you have controlled your PE. Try all ten, and see which works best for you.

    Every guy has experienced PE at some time in his life. You are not alone.
     
  18. Dusky21

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    Just stumbled on this site and it looks like a good place for info. I read the first 8 pages of this post an I too suffer from PE. I've used most of the 10 techniques to no avale, but am going to try the counting technique. I think my problem is more mental now though. This has been ongoing for ten yrs now and now I just get anxiety about it when having sex and tend to only last two min. If the counting technique doesn't work. Then what?
     
  19. griffon

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    just start taking your brain elsewhere when you get close...

    1) thinking about disgusting things - ex wife, politics, etc
    2) multiplication tables - do them! from 1 to 20.
    3) anything that turns you off...

    enjoy sex but don't enjoy it too quickly.

    Make sure your partner is well lubricated - please her first!
    Make sure she does not "play with your cock" too much and get you too close before you even start.

    I routinely last an hour or more with my GF - and thats ok with both of us!
    But there have been occasions where i've been "instantaneous". With age has come control...
     
  20. Cutted

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    Counting should work for you. Also the "sets of nine" have been really good for some guys. Let me know...
     

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