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#1 InSearchOfMore

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Posted November 22 2005 - 09:17 PM

Oh heres the deal
I can cum when my clits involved. But I cant cum from just good old fashion sex. The problem is, my bf thinks i can. The first few times we were together I faked it. Im not sure why. I think I was drunk. ANd now its been a year, and I still cant cum. I know this is very common. But I was just wondering If you could help.

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Posted November 22 2005 - 10:00 PM

yeah I have the same problem, but I ended up tellin my boyfriend and now he has made it his mission to make me cum with just sex (no clit action) I was going to post my own thread about this but since you have I will just ask it here, got any tips for my boy? :p
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Posted November 22 2005 - 10:03 PM

Most women need clitoral stimulation. If you don't want to do it manually, and he's just not quite good in at that either, then just do it missionary. Make him grind his pelvis into your clit while he thrusts and you're sure to cum. :)


Either that or do it with you on top, leaning at at angle so he hits your G spot.
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Posted November 22 2005 - 11:18 PM

You're right, 75% of women can't cum during intercourse and almost 95% can't cum until they've been eaten out once already. You know, warming things up. The easiest way is to do your best to figure out your own body. Figure out what makes you tick. This means masturbating and trying to make yourself cum without clitoral stimulation. Also, there's no shame in adding clitoral stimulation during sex to help things along.

I would suggest having a clitoral orgasm first, then trying to find and massage your G-spot. It took my wfie a long time and a lot of masturbating to figure it all out and she's still learning. I don't know why women's body's have to be so complex, but I'm enjoying helping her solve the mystery. :)

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Posted November 23 2005 - 08:40 AM

Those are some titties. Lakewood, OH?

You're fucked. No pun intended. Buy a vibe and use that while you're fucking.

And tell him that no, he's not that great. You lied.
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Posted November 23 2005 - 10:13 AM

I am from Dayton, Ohio. And those are some very nice titties if I do say so myself.
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Posted November 23 2005 - 03:12 PM

lol thanx. Im in co not oh. I have done all the clit stuff, vib and whatnot, just looking for tips on how to cum with out it. My bf is great in bed so thats not it. Fishbone thanx for the info didnt know that. And thanx for the all the nice tit comments. lol :-)

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Posted November 25 2005 - 12:36 PM

Have your boyfriend stimulate your clit (fingers or whatever) as your having intercourse. You could try having him stimulate it for a few minutes and then stop and start. Its not an exact science.....if it was =)

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Posted November 25 2005 - 12:40 PM

Have you boyfriend bone your ass and leave your clit alone. You will become so acclamated to ass boning that your attention will be taken away from your magic button and redirected to your brown star instead.

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Posted February 12 2007 - 03:23 PM

I had a gf like that once, who had trouble cumming during intercourse. We found out that if we made love doggie style, and I stimulated her clit at the same time, she saw stars and rockets went off everywhere. Oral sex also got her going.

With another, if I rubbed her clit almost to the point of orgasm, then entered her, she was able to cum, and wow did she ever cum.

Have you tried riding him and while he's inside you, reach down and rub your clit yourself? Not only is it gratifying for you, it usually is a turn on for him.

It almost sounds like you're not spending enough time in foreplay before he enters you. Hold him off until you're really ready.

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Posted February 13 2007 - 11:54 AM

In search of... only 25% of women can have orgasms from intercourse alone, 25% from both intercourse and manual stimulation, 25% from manual alone and 25% never come. So you are not alone.

Have your boyfriend try g spot stimulation, which I describe in many other posts in this forum. PM me if you want more information, or can't find my other posts. I can give women g spot orgasms who have never had them before with these techniques.

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Posted February 22 2007 - 11:43 PM

Only 25% of women can cum without manual stimulation? That sounds like a flawed statistic to me. I've been with quite a few women and only one of them required manual stimulation to cum during sex. The rest had no problem with it. Not to say that it is weird, but the statistic that 75% can't seems a little high to me.

A suggestion for the OP: Try having a butt plug in your rear during sex. It will tighten your vagina a LOT and possibility allow you to have the type of orgasm you desire. If not it will still feel incredable. Happy humping!

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Posted February 22 2007 - 11:49 PM

My advice: More masturbation (this will narrow down what gets you off), do Kegel exercises (I promise this works), you CANNOT have an orgasm if you're drunk (trust me, it won't happen), & don't try so hard!!!!! Being relaxed is the key here.

EVERY woman is different. This is the ONLY surefire way for me to get off: my breasts MUST be licked & sucked at the same time that I'm being stimulated, alternately between clitoral & G-spot/vaginally. Different, but effective!!! :drool:
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Posted February 23 2007 - 06:47 PM

Make sure to take your time and have plenty of foreplay. The more excited I get prior to intercourse, the easier it is for me to cum.

I like doggy style too, but I imagine you've already tried that.
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Posted March 10 2007 - 01:14 PM

My wife orgasms from deep pen. It doesnt always happen as I am not 8 inches but in some positions if I am really turned on I can get the right angle with enough flex(think kegal for men) and hit that spot(I can feel it when I hit it, its weird kind of like entering a tighter spot). I know when I hit it because she starts to go nuts. This is the only way she orgasms naturaly. If it doesnt happen she or I will just reach down and get her to climax. I Don't think its right for only one partner to orgasm. If she doesnt get there then I will get a toy out or go down on her.

If he has an issue with you having to reach down, try it doggie and reach back and grab his balls(skin) and rub them against your clit. This not only gets my wife off but drives me crazy also.
Also try riding a dildo on top and move your hips to find how to get it to hit the spot. Practice this and if you can get yourself to orgasm from it then do the same on top of your man. The main thing is its your body and you need to explore it to find out what gets you hot and what doesn't then explain this to him and if he cares about you he will do what needs to be done.

Good luck!

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Posted March 13 2007 - 10:10 AM

Captain Zeep - In a 2005 British study by Tim Spector of the twin research unit of St. Thomas Hospital in London, his team asked more than 6000 female twins to fill out a confidential questionnaire about how often they achieved orgasm through intercourse and masturbation. They got 4037 complete replies from women, aged 19 to 83. Only 14% reported always experiencing orgasm during intercourse. Another 32% reported they were unable to achieve orgasm more than a quarter of the time, while 16% never achieved it at all. The study concluded that 34% of this variation in the ability to orgasm is genetic. 34% of the women stated that they could always achieve orgasm through masturbation.

Another study from Nov 2006 done in the Netherlands found that between 25% and 33% of all women never or seldom have an orgasm, and that only 10% of all women always get an orgasm while making love.

When I mention these studies, I round them off for easy reference, and say 25% of women get orgasms from intercourse alone (usually or always), 25% from intercourse combined with manual stimulation, 25% from masturbation alone, and 25% never have orgasms.

If anything, I am being generous to us guys and our ability to bring our women to orgasm through intercourse. Captain, you are lucky to have a woman who responds so well to you.

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Posted March 13 2007 - 10:41 AM

insearchofmore if your not cumming throiugh penetration alone acceopt the fact that ypu need more & explain it to him, wether or not he takes that starts payin enough attention to the rest of your body or notr is on him, but you still have the option to get yourself off while riding him
sex is a shared experience & u both should be sharingth cum experience, however u can & it shouldnt be assummed that u will like everything he likes or vice versa but with communicating your needs u can both get what u want & desire


btw good catchy title, im sure that caufght some attention..lol but im betting ya are getting alotta pm's from ppl with 0 posts..lol

help me cum probly get ya alotta volunteers..lol
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Posted March 13 2007 - 10:45 AM

oh geez cutted why are u so obseessed with spreading your instructions around that u revive a thread from 2 years ago..lol

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Posted March 15 2007 - 08:39 AM

Soaring Eagle -

1.The name of this thread is "Help me CUM".
2. Captain Zeep said my statistics on the % of women who can cum through intercourse, etc, are "flawed".
3. I then post an authoritative study on female orgasm based on a survey of 4000 English women.
4. You complain that the 2005 study is old - two years old.

Give me a break.

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Posted March 15 2007 - 01:09 PM

No, soaring eagle means that the thread is over two years old. The originsl post was from november of 2005.

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Posted March 15 2007 - 01:18 PM

Also, your math is flawed. Not to split hairs but the 2005 study concluded that 16% could not acheave the big O during sex. How do you get 25% from that? The 2006 study said that 25-33% seldem or never had an orgasem. There is a big difference between seldem and never. So "adjusting" the number to mean 25% never cum is a bogus assumption for anyone who claims to be scientific. So by you're own research your conclusion is that 16% of women can't orgasum, and most studies have a margin of error of about 5% on average. So you're statstic should be 11-21% of women can't cum during sex.

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Posted March 15 2007 - 11:10 PM

One study said 16% never get an orgasm, the other said 25-33% seldom or never have an orgasm. I used a 25% figure for "never", combining these two studies. Even 20% is a large number, if you will accept that. Your 11% figure would be way low.

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Posted March 16 2007 - 12:53 AM

I was assuming an average margin of error. I havn't seen the studies but a margin always exists. But again, there is still a big difference between "almost" and "never", and combining studies isn't a valad position since both are representing the same cross section of women.

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Posted March 16 2007 - 07:54 AM

Captain Zeep - One study is of Dutch women and the other is of English women. And there are studies of U.S.women which support my figures. I will find them and report back.

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Posted March 16 2007 - 02:45 PM

Captain Zeep - One study I found says that 25% of the females say they almost always have orgasms in intercourse, and 30% say they rarely or never do (10% say never). The other study (a global sex survey of 317,000 people in 41 countries by Durex) said that 17% of females say they have an orgasm every time they have sex. No reported statistics by Durex on those who never have the big O, except that 10%of Chinese and Finns and 8% of Swedes and Indians reported never having an orgasm. No breakdown between men and women in this statistic.

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Posted March 18 2007 - 02:26 PM

lovely face to ,wish i could help you come.would love to stimulate you nipples/areola till you orgasmed

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Posted March 19 2007 - 05:15 PM

The clitoral stimulation does help some people, because it definately increases the sensitivity inside, however.. if you orgasm orally before intercorse there is a great chance that you may not be able to get off again. A good tip is to make slow contractions. Flex your muscles (as if you had to pee really bad) then release quickly. By doing this you may find is much easier to reach a climax due to a difference in stimulation. It also especially helps a lot of girls when they close their eyes and visualize the penis itself rubbing their insides.
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