Why do men ask this?

Discussion in 'Sex Polls' started by Candybuttons, Dec 30, 2017.

  1. SamCuddly

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    As for wet pussies, the context is important. I agree it is a stupid question. I think the previous response saying "what they are asking is if you are turned on" is the answer. The question would not be relevant to always, just relevant to the moment. And I agree it could be an inappropriate question. If it is not appropriate for the guy to ask then just politely say that the question is too personal.

    From watching videos of women getting excited, many women definitely get wet when excited. Have you heard of female ejaculation? That is different, but some women really, really squirt.

    However imagine this. If a guy was getting oral in that area, it might be important to know how likely she is to get wet and how wet would she get. It might be good to talk about issues early and as gently as possible. If the conversation is appropriate, perhaps a woman could turn the conversation around to oral sex. Perhaps she could give the guy permission to stop being oral when she gets really wet. She could turn the question around and ask if he wants to eat her or would eat her. So when a guy asks if you get wet, ask him if he wants to eat you.

    Women say that they want a guy that is honest. They say they want a guy that expresses their feelings. But when it comes to sex, perhaps their most common and strongest feelings, they are considered to be jerks for saying anything about sex. It is a huge contradiction.

    Men often gauge their interest in a woman based on the likelihood of sex. It certainly makes sense that if a woman does not want sex with him (within a relationship) then they are incompatible. Women gauge their interest in a man based on his lack of interest in sex. If a man says anything about sex then women assume that sex is the only thing he wants. That is another huge barrier for men and women.

    I think that when a man asks about how many fingers a woman can get into their pussy, it is because he has been watching adult movies ("porn"). It might be that he just wants to know the truth; what they show in porn is often not realistic for real women. You could use the question and questio0ns like it to educate the guy. Tell him what real women are like. There is such a huge, huge, huge abundance of unrealistic sex in "porn". I think many of us guys are starved for the truth; we want to see real sex, the type that nice guys do and that is so extremely rare in porn. I wish I could talk about adult movies with a pretty young woman as a friend. I am uncomfortable talking with guys about sex and the only women that might talk with me, I am uncomfortable talking with them. The problem is that women assume that talking about sex means talking about her and me having sex and no matter how much I say that is not what I am trying to do, they assume they know what I am thinking.

    If a man wants to talk about sex then if you are uncomfortable doing that then politely say you are uncomfortable. If you are comfortable then try to make it clear that you just want to discuss things if that is the truth. A man is likely to really, really enjoy talking with a woman about adult movies. Talking about sex can be important in a relationship and talking about adult movies could really help to get a healthy discussion going. Use it as an opportunity to educate him, even if you don't have sex with him
     
  2. wheattie_70

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    I have NEVER asked a woman how many fingers she can get in her, lol. So I have no idea on that one. Wet pussy? Idk if I have ever asked that, but I have had women tell me they are really wet and it is a turn on. To me, I thought it just meant they are really horny - same when I have a bunch of pre-cum drip out. The more I'm aroused, the more comes out.
     
  3. Klimax2gether

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    I am not sure why men ask how many fingers you can get in your pussy because that does not make sense. Men always want a tighter pussy and if one can insert many fingers then it means the pussy is wider and therefore not tighter. I never ever worried how many fingers I can insert into my wife's pussy which is always very pleasantly tighter for me when ever I penetrate her.
    Regarding the wetness of vagina, most probably they must thinking whether the woman is sexually excited to be wet. As you rightly said the vagina is always moist. However, when there is erotic stimulation all the accessory glands in the vestibule of the vagina secretes lubricant fluid. Also from the cervix of the uterus there is a lot of mucus produced in women of childbearing age. The whole length of the vaginal walls do not have any glands but they are kept moist by fluid leaking out constantly from the vagina tissue.
     
  4. Klimax2gether

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    There is nothing like the soft aroma of woman's drippy juice caught on her panties. They contain the pheromones to which men are attracted.
     
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  5. TrudginAcrossTheTundra

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    "Perhaps she could give the guy permission to stop being oral when she gets really wet."


    I don't get that one... the wetter the better IMO.
     
  6. roccobkln

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    Im not sure why, but next time ask how many fingers you can fit in his ass.
     
  7. Asphalt-cowboy

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    Can’t say as I have never asked a woman how many fingers she can get in.
     
  8. 420Rabbit

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    If I'm at the stage with a woman where I am asking that intimate of a question I would rather be putting my mouth on her pussy or my cock in it. Then I could find out for myself without even asking.
     
  9. YouCanTrustMe

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    How many fingers you can get in your pussy? I’ve never asked that.

    Is it a turn on for men if you can get lots in? Not for me. I don’t want to park my car in there!

    Also, why do men ask if my Pussy is wet? It’s always wet, it’s a vagina! I’ve never asked you that. But when I’ve asked a woman that, it’s like her asking me if I’m hard. And if you’re always wet, you have a medical problem.

    I want to know more about men and how their brains work exactly Yeah, and men would like to know at least 2% of how women’s brains work!
     
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  10. C3po

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    Logically thinking, I would guess the finger question is a way to gauge how well they will fit, or find out if you're in to fisting. The wetness thing is an arousal gauge to see how he's doing so far in impressing you with his wit and intellect. Just my thoughts.
     
  11. iamjustme

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    THis is an old thread...but to answer the OP's question - a guy is a real dumbass if he ask you this question. I have never asked that, nor will I ever.
     
  12. Slunted

    Slunted 'long time listener, first time caller'

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    Just a heads up we dont even know how our brains work.:wink:
     
  13. g65389pon

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    I don’t think I’ve ever asked a woman “how many fingers”. If I’ve been fooling around with her for long I generally have an idea. Before menopause when really worked up my wife loved 4 of my fingers in her pussy but now in menopause she only allows me to finger her when licking her clit. Only 1 finger then.
     
  14. JS420

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    Personally I think both of those questions are rude.:angry: Is this something they ask on the first date :smiley::smiley::smiley: or just in casual conversation:smirk::smirk::smirk:
    Funny, I don't remember ever asking either of those questions and I am a man. I always reserved my judgment for when I was actually having sex and would insert as many fingers as she was comfortable with and I could always tell when her labia were wet. And yes I know that a vagina is always wet, although some are wetter than others!!:wink::wink:
     
  15. Chuck Burns

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    Guess it's the mystery of the pussy that compels us to ask
     
  16. jimandjan

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    I have never asked and never would, But I would like to find out for myself.
     
  17. Anyfun

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    I can't speak for others, only myself. I know girls are wet the majority of the time. I ask mostly to guage arousal and only if your someone I'm chatting with or trying to hookup with. If we've played before, it's my job to make you aroused and make you tell me what I want to know without asking because I already know.
     
  18. Andy Schumer

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    I will say that throughout my life I never asked those questions and it felt immature and inappropriate to ask, except when talking dirty with a horny friend with benefits, horny wife or girlfriend. I never asked that kind of question but I have asked about a woman’s preferences with what she likes
     
  19. Angela36

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    I've never had a guy ask me that.
     
  20. TrudginAcrossTheTundra

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    You attract guys who are more mature.
     
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