What the hell am i to do?? am i stupid or just in love??

So me and my boyfriend met over the summer while i was working 3rd shift at mcdonalds. he said he fell in love with me by the first sight. He told me it took 30 seconds and he was drop dead head over heals in love with me. well the one thing that really sucked about this whole deal was, i couldnt like him. He told me the first day we talked that he was married. so i backed off and acted as if i didn't like him. so we played the friend card threw almost to the end of the summer. Then i guess things started to get worse between him and his wife. and i get a text one day saying he told his wife he needed time apart. so she packed up and left. I was so hessitant to be with him. It felt wrong, because of the fact he was married.. and still is.. but he was just so damn persistant. We have been to gether now for almost 4 months and he is the best man that has ever walked into my life. I am drop dead head over heals in love with this man. I have tried to leave, i have tried to walk away. After his wife found out about me she was at his house every night.. and slowly moved back in. I left so he could do the "right thing" and thats when she moved back in. He felt he owed it to her, and to obey his vows. but he couldnt even stay away for more then a week. We haven't had sex so it isnt about that. and now we are together she won't leave at all. two weeks ago i moved in two apartments down from him and ...her... and ever since he gets prank calls she wrote on the wall "repent yourself" and will not leave. I have heard him muiltapul times to leave, he wants a divorce. and sh will not go... she asked if he was still with me.. he said yes.. she still is there.. wouldnt you have been gone months ago?.. i would have.. and i only stay because i can't go.. I love him .. i have never felt this way for anyone EVER.. in my life and with any man i've been with before.. this sucks. i don't know what to do. He has to sneeak around so she doesnt fight.. and finally i told him that he needs to have a divorce lawer by the end of january or im walking away and i can't let myself look back... UGH!!!!! WHY??? am i a horrible person for doing this?.. and omg

 

Honestly I'd walk away now. I've heard many a time about women that wait for married men who promise that they told their wife the wanted a divorce. Normally its a load of crap, they like playing two women. Do yourself a favor and move on.

 

You did the right thing by setting a deadline for him. He needs to make up his mind and man up. He will probably not meet your deadline, and at that point you should walk away.

Honestly, your deadline is too lenient if anything. If he wants you he should make up his mind right now.

But seriously, honey...start trying to get ready to walk away. He's probably not ever going to get honest and deserve you. Sarah's right: most guys like this don't.

And you'll find another perfect man who isn't married. Most people do!

 

Hes trying very hard to sucker you in .. don't let him . Either way hes lying to his wife ; he'll lie to you. You do not ever need that you are better thn that. Whether you THINK or KNOW you are in Love you can find way more people to love that will love you back 100 000 times more love!!