Hello! I have a situation and Im not sure what to do. There is this certain girl , who liked me very much some years ago. She is a great person, very hot and I have no clue, why I never asked her out or started a relationship with her. I now know, it was the biggest mistake of my life to never let her closer to me. A month ago I invited her for a drink, but she wasnt in the same town as I was (the town I live in is where we both study, and we both come from the same hometown), she was in her home town, so nothing happened. But she did say we can have a drink in our hometown. Now, three days latter I invited her for a drink once again (via phone-messages), but now I was in my hometown (her hometown too) and she wasnt. Again nothing happened. I than wrote, that if she has time, she can call and we can go out. She hasnt called yet. When we see each other on the street, we usually have a short conversation. I remember last summer, she just stopped playing tennis when I came to the sport center and we were a group of friends and she started doing pushups next to a bench I was sitting. (is this a thing a girl does if she likes a guy?) Should I ask her out again? What are my chances? Should I tell her, not liking her before was a mistake? Any other tips and advices?
You've gotta chill...if she likes you, let her come to you. You've already asked her out a few times now see if she returns the interest
Mate I guess i can say i understand a little where you are coming from as i am in a similar situation of wondering if i should persue a girl, asking her to a drink again. everyone keeps saying to me that i should just keep asking her if i do not get a negative 'no i am not interested response' but gee it is hard to know what the chances are of her saying yes without actually asking her in person. I don't know about you but i find it really hard to actually pick the phone up and ring her...may sound a bit sad and crappy but its prehaps me not wanting to get knocked back? I say ring her again and explain that you would like her to at least say if she is not interested to tell you? hope that makes sense dude?!
Well if I was in your situation, I would defiantly tell her that not asking her out before was a mistake, and that you have fallin for her harder than anyone before. But dont hurt her if she does come back to you. If she isnt interested she will tell you, and then you will know it is time to move on. you cant be affraid of rejection in a time like this. Let me know how things work out for you. -xo Peace and Love Ember
^i would NOT say you have 'fallen for her harder than ever' as it will probably freak her out. you should seriously just let it chill for a while, if she doesn't contact you maybe call her one more time in the future (not like 2 weeks, more like a month) and see if she is available
You asked her out twice already, she knows you're interested. Trying again makes you look like too motivated or desperate to go out with her. Just let it roll, wait for her to come back on the offer. You say, you're living in the same city and got the same hometown? Sooner or later you'll meet her in person, then just ask if she got time right now for a drink, lunch, café or whatever, depending on the time of day. Be spontaneous, chances are good that she got time and accepts. Your situation sounds a lot like one I found myself in, I had a close female friend about 2 years ago, a real cute girl who liked me a lot. I never asked her out because I feared I might lose her as a friend. Few months later, we had kind of a break-up because she never had time to hang out with me, she always only came to me when she got problems. Again, few months later, I felt I made a big mistake, that it would have been best to try being more than friends because I lost her nonetheless. But it was too late at that point, I learnt from that and hopefully am not going to make that mistake again...
"I have a situation and Im not sure what to do. There is this certain girl , who liked me very much some years ago. She is a great person, very hot and I have no clue, why I never asked her out or started a relationship with her. I now know, it was the biggest mistake of my life to never let her closer to me. " -Seems it may be a case of timing, I've noticed that's common in lots of friendship/ relationships. Perhaps you were too shy or inexperienced when she showed her interest in you some years ago. If she's till interested, maybe she's playing a lil' hard to get. Chillax on the issue a bit, when you run into her again play it cool. Let her know your interested and try to avoid sending the vibe that your into a chase! Confidence= Sexy *wink
