what does love at first sight feel like???

How you do feel when you fall for someone the moment you see them?

 

i don't think that's possible. in my opinion, you can't love someone you don't know. i call it lust at first sight

 

Maybe not love straight away but feelings. The first time I saw my partner I just had a feeling we'd get together eventually..

 

Like a kick in the balls

 

still think that's just powerful attraction

 

Indescribable.

 

Yes ^:love:

 

Over-exaggerated limerence.

 

like this..

 

like getting hit by a train.

 

like an idiot.

 

Heart in throat.

 

I never believed in love at first sight until I met my husband. Someone pointed him out as he was walking on the other side of a large room at work and he looked over and we both smiled at each other. I commented to my coworker that he was probably married with kids but he was cute! I couldn't get him off my mind and it wasn't his looks, it was just something I felt - hard to explain. We talked for the first time a day or two later and hit it off immediately. (Nope, he wasn't married, lucky for me!)

I don't know if this counts as actual love at first sight, but it definitely wasn't lust. My feelings were some type of connection, like it was meant for us to get together.

That was over 18 years ago!

IMO, what most people call love at first sight is usually a case of lust. But in my situation, it was just something that was meant to be. We're proof that people can have an immediate connection "at first sight".

He did tell me that when he saw me he felt the same way, that he NEEDED to talk to me. At first I thought it was just a guy's way of explaining the need to try to "get some" but he didn't get ANY until after we spent almost every waking minute together for a couple of weeks.

We both fell in love within the first week, but neither one of us admitted it until we were together about 6 weeks. And believe it or not, HE said "I love you" first! :love:

So back to the original question - what does love at first sight feel like? For me it was a feeling of not just wanting to talk to him but a NEED to do so. Sex wasn't really a factor.

A dialogue from one of our favourite movies, "Singles", where the character of Janet (Brigit Fonda) talks to her boyfriend Cliff (Matt Dillon):

"I know what you're thinking. We connected. And when you make the connection, chemistry takes care of itself. So sit back and enjoy it because you know when it's real. This is real. We just don't even have to discuss it."

(I do not believe this is verbatim but I can’t locate the file where I have what I believe is another version of the same dialogue.)

Maybe it’s all about chemistry? The law of attraction? :2thumbsup:

 

Yup; you two are the romeo and juliet of our time; that which all relationships should be measured against.

Look, I'm a lover myself; I don't want to be shitting all over anyone's romance. And I do have to say, that your story is very, truly wonderful.

I have a slightly similar one, myself. (We talked a lot via phone first, and when I first saw her, she did this cute little super-shy wave, barely a motion really, and something just went over me. I was smitten; and I knew that this girl was something special.)

But that initial connection says nothing compared to all the time we've spent together. The joys and the trials we've faced together over the years. That's what love is.

This Hallmark, Lifetime bullshit romanticism is sickening though.

That first feeling you felt, is as you said it in the end:

(see: Limerence)
But it's not like it's uncommon for people to feel that spark; to really connect; and eventually lose touch.
It's straight up disrespectful to everyone that has loved and lost to act like love is a magical force of destiny. It's straight up disrespectful to everyone that is in love (yourself included); to the idea of love itself. It's straight up dangerous to act that way towards impressionable youth; it will lead to many more broken hearts.

There are people who felt the magic for 20 years, even more, and something happened in their lives; something tragic; and they just couldn't stand to be with the emptiness of that lost happiness anymore. But they will always have those moments; and whether they find new love or not; that will never leave them.

Love is a bond; love is a relationship; love should not ever be considered an emotion. And strong emotions should never be confused with love.

 

The best explanation. You're description is exactly the way I understand love at first sight. Upon meeting the person with whom you will fall in love there is a feeling right off the bat.

I don't think any person could meet someone and say immediately that they're in love, but in my own experience, the moment I met the girl I love I experienced a strange and entirely new feeling, and I continued to feel that way every time I've ever seen her. I came to know that feeling as love, and that's how I now know that what I experienced when I met her was love at first sight.

The misleading part of the idea of love at first sight is the sight aspect. You don't come to feel love simply through looking at someone. I'm convinced that it's something far deeper, some incredibly powerful universal force that can only be identified as "something I felt - hard to explain."

Duck, I disagree that it would be offensive to those who have loved and lost to say that love is a magical force of destiny. I can only believe that anyone who has experienced true love would agree that to have loved and lost is better than to have never loved at all. I don't think any amount of pain of loss can counteract the exquisite pleasure of true love. I feel like something that amazing, no matter how long it lasts, or when it happens, is destiny. But I suppose that's just my belief.

 

You completely misunderstood my meaning. It's offensive because it implies that their love was somehow inferior or false; compared to those who are happily fulfilling their "destine love-at-firt-sights"

 

Right, I was having trouble organizing my words last night. I meant to say that it shouldn't be offensive because I believe that all love is destiny. Whether it lasts or not I think that if it was real then it was meant to be. Not all true love is meant to last forever, but I do believe that it's always meant to happen. I suppose that's more of a spiritual belief that I hold, so it's hard to use that reasoning to make a point. Basically what I'm trying to say is that to have been in love at any point should be a joyful thing, never a thing to be spiteful or angry over. I think that any believer in true love, even if they've been left or anything, shouldn't look down on anyone else's love and should be forever grateful that they've experienced it before.

I'm still having trouble organizing my words.

Ok, I just mean that no love is inferior or false, and anyone who has experienced it themselves should know that, so they should have no reason to be lead to that conclusion.

Here's an example, the girl I love left me a long time ago, and yet I still think that what we had was meant to be. I wouldn't give it up for anything. It was the most amazing thing I've ever felt. I can't take anything bad away from that feeling. It's just everything good. So I would never take offense to the thought that true love is destiny, because it's such a powerful force, it has to be working on a higher level than we can comprehend.

 

the purest form!

 

How can you love someone you don't know? You may be attracted to them, but to say "I've just seen the woman I'm going to spend the rest of my life with, and I don't know her name, marital status, sexual orientation or anything about her" just seems creepy, I think.

I mean, what if you "fall in love" with a gay person of the opposite sex? Or one who is married, or in a committed relationship? Or who lives in a country you can't go to, and s/he can't stay in yours? Or has religious beliefs that are anathema to yours?

What if you're black, and you fall "in love at first sight" with a white woman who is a racist bitch? Or you're Asian, and they're Caucasian and equally racist? What if they have kids, and you don't want them?

I've fallen "in lust at first sight" many times. And I've felt a connection. But I just don't buy "love", as we know it, at first sight.

 

Not possible. When you love someone you love all of them.. you know their soul.

I think what youre talking about is more of a connection, a feeling that this could be it.