Why I only meet players why can I meet a normal guy which is not a player. Sometimes its hard for me to find a guy if he is a player or not .For one month ago I met a guy and we made out I was not sure if he was player but now I found out he is . My problem is I only meet a player which I don't like at all. Why just not a nice guy . What do you think here?
Make sure you get to know a guy and make a connection with him before any "making out". Also, where are you meeting these people? Bars and clubs? Try meeting someone through friends, through a hobby of yours, or some other way. Otherwise, it's luck of the draw. I'd advise staying friends with a man for a while before any relationship stuff. That way you'll know him and whether or not he's steady or a "player". Also give off the right signals. If you seem desperate for attention, you'll sttract the wrong sort. Be cool and happy with just your own company, and make it clear you're only open to the RIGHT sort of man.
Just cos you are a girl that wouldnt sneak of somewhere private with a hot guy only minutes after meeting him doesnt mean all girls think like you do. And its something you never see, you aint one of those girls, and you aint the hot guy. You meet a hot guy and try stick to the three date rule when he's got hotter girls that ring him up out of the blue for a couple hours of fun, or he gets girls asking him to come over after a 5 minute conversation at a bus stop.........and you wonder why you cant hang on. As for the supposed nice guys, the nice guys to you are the ones that are never going to get you angry cos they are never going to say no thanks thers another girl I'd rather hang with
There certainly is truth to this. @cupy - You will meet a decent guy at some point. Exactly when, no one can tell you. But good guys ARE out there. In the meantime, I think Fingermouse has a very good advice.
I never saw myself as a player. I know when I get to dating a woman and I feel she is playing games, I'll drop her. I have more important things than to play games like she was. I also don't kiss until after the third date.
Nice guys get married, players bang skanks. I think we have different opinions about what last place consists of.
i highlight doubt you only meet "players". maybe you dress provocative - promiscuous and lead men who are not looking for relationship in. think of factors around that general example then go look again.
Yah, couldn't agree more. I am looking back and I am most certainly not in "last," by a long shot. Got a super beautiful and cute, amazingly intelligent, very strong and independent gal by my side and I am really happy. Score one for the nice guy! Assholes finish last in the end, they are just "rabbits" as the track/cross country term goes. They bolt out ahead at the start and die down by the mid way point.
it seems so pointless to me... to classify a man as a nice guy or a player. is it really such a perfect dichotomy? you're projecting your frame of mind onto them. people are adaptable and are quick to change behaviors to fit a situation. a nice guy can be a player, and a player can be a nice guy. but you're the thing these men have in common, so if they're all players it leads me to believe that you're either attracting "players" or turning them into "players." that is once you show your crazy side, or start playing head games, they start playing back or maybe look for an exit strategy.
@raz9 , Joking believe me it has nothing to how I dress or where I hang out The other player was my friend and I knew him it was not like I know for 5 min then make out , When I went out with him he wanted kiss me and I liked him too but then when I found out he is a player I hate him so much I don't know if I want to see him again.
@ mmg I agree with you that you said a nice guy can be a player, and a player can be a nice guy. Well my friend is a nice guy but I never expected he is player ..
