Well, This is gonna be long, so if you stick around... any thoughts would be appreciated. So i come to you today, wondering what is wrong with me. I have a gf. She is pretty chill and is down for me. idk why, but i feel im drifting away from her. Not fast or anything, but i cant help but look around. there is these 3 other girls that have been in my life at one point or another. Now before you ask, No i have never cheated or anything like that. Anyway, lets talk more about the gf first. We get along pretty well for the most part. She is a good gf. shit.... a Great gf. There is just a few little things that i dont like. She does get mad easily and its usually over stupid shit. So this is where my prob comes in. Girl #1 we will call Brenna. Brenna is married. But long before she was married, she was "the one" for me. i was crazy about this girl. She knew it too. problem was, she wasnt interested. Finally, one day she moved. tht was when i got with my now ex (5 yr relationship). After me and the EX broke up, i began talking to Brenna. She expressed that she loved me and the her marriage was going bad. of course i was a sucker for that. She made all kinds of sexual promises and advances. Eventually we decided she owed it to her husband to try and if that failed, i would show him how its done. Girl #2 came into the picture after Brenna faded out. Girl #2. WOW man. she was a cutie. i knew thi girl for 2 years before she moved away to st. louis. She was also engaged in 2008 when she came back to my town to visit family. I was the only one in town she knew so it was only natural for us to hang out. I was crazy about her. I wanted every bit of her. Then, her BF sent her a pic message. he was cheating on her. and proud of it. She broke down and i told some cheesy "only you can prevent forrest fires" joke that made her laugh. She went back to STL and slowly grew away from me and eventually fell for another guy. Everytime this clown would hurt her, she would come to me and cry on my internet shoulder. i eventually couldnt take it anymore so i told her i didnt want to be her friend. i only wanted to date her and if that couldnt happen, i was out. Then Girl #3. What can i tell you about #3? Smoking Hot Southern Blond Girl from a small town and she was a cheerleader. problem in this one is she is 18, and im 21. We texted back and fourth for a few weeks but she never really was that interested. I really was into this girl too, only once again... it wasnt returned. Everytime i think of this girl, i want her. i want to just see her. IDK hip. Maybe im just being a whiny baby... but why cant these girls love me the way i love them? maybe im just being picky. I felt like a ghost in HS. and this isnt your typical "nobody noticed me" but more of an "i knew everyone but noone knew me". I have trouble believing girls like me. I hav e never cheated or hurt a GF in my life. Sometimes.... i wish i would. So i guess what im looking for is... why are girls only interested when im "taken" but not when im trying to get with them? makes a guy wanna explode.
Because romantic fantasies are more appealing than the truth. It is more inspiring to dream of perfection than to deal with real circumstances. Goes both ways friend.
sounds like classic: nice guy liking women who are dating terrible men, acts insipid the women walk all over until they leave or his own flaccid ultimatum. I used to think more like that, but it seems the only real change in my actions is I make moves and then move on (i.e. we hang out, I am always clear how I feel and if she's not feeling it I move on, I'm way happier and when you cycle through that quickly you eventually hit people that like you back) of course you have to be "true to your self" which I translate as "don't be totally spineless." Though it's better now you have a chick I guess what I wondering is what is the madness? the fact that women like a man attached better than a man available? because that makes sense, kindergarten style, can't have it I want it; of course hopefully we eventually grow up . Anyways you have a gf and you're not feeling it, if it gets to that point break up with her, don't be a dick and cheat.
Great Words. I guess i just dont like how i couldnt have the one i wanted when i wanted her. I AM happy now. This one is a keeper so far.
