Single and feeling free. Might never date again.

I've been in both kinds of relationships. I'd say I've been in controlling ones less because I am pretty headstrong and was controlled a lot when I was younger. But I can't stand being in a relationship where my every need and word is bowed to. I was in a relationship like that for 2 years and by the end of it I just looked like a total controlling bitch. Crazy how the person you're with can control people's view of you as a whole.

My now husband while is quite opinionated and headstrong, let's me know all the same that I have full control and credit on our life and where it is. Which is nice at times but it can put a lot of pressure on. But my husband also tends to take the wheel socially. Which frees me to stand in the corner, observe, and take notes.

If I wasn't with him it would definitely be a long time before I got with anyone else. I guess I'm just far too independent. It's easy for me to feel held back.



<3 Bunnie

 

I like a shared situation where we might even buck heads a bit and sometimes it goes this way or that but for all the right reasons, not because one must win. I like things talked out and decisions made.

 

my husband of 9 years and I separated 5 months ago. It hasn't been a clean break and we still might reconcile. But there has been a feeling of freedom, of independence that I have been enjoying. And if we do get back together I want to maintain that freedom, and let him have it too... sad that it took breaking up to find it, however we broke up for other reasons.

 

You could look at it as sad, its a part of the journey though. Good luck to you both!

 

How have you replaced the spontaneous sex you used to have 10 times a day?

 

Nah, you'll date again. You're female. You'll start craving that male attention and validation you need. Then whatever nice males comes along next will find a warm spot in your bed. Thumb it down all you want, we both know it's true.

 

I am loving it too. Back in my dream job and living in a new place and no one sponging off me and taking all my money. Woohoo.

 

Sounds good, so not sure if you already told but what's your dream job?

 

Shes got rechargeable batteries for the big black vibrator lol

 

I work in travel with an awesome team and really enjoy it.

 

Does He Ever Try To Contact You Or Was It A Clean Break....???



Cheers Glen.

 

I deleted and blocked him from everything and then left Korea where he is currently rotting away in the army so he has no idea where I am, what I'm doing and no way of contacting me.

 

Glad to hear it, witchie (how should we address you now anyway, when we know you are not a witch or into wicca anymore? ) :sunny:

 

Which country, or did you say that already?

 

New Zealand.

 

notice she hasn't posted since starting this thread. i assume it's because she's busy being happily in love with the next guy.

 

I hope she is happily in love....
Happily, where are you? lol

 

I actually like witchie

 

Wicky would also be an option After all, no country in the southern hemisphere looks like viking territory as yours!

 

Actually there have been conspiracy theories here for years that the vikings got here before the maori and the maori covered it up.