she cheated, should i take her back?

I was best friends with this girl for like 5 months and then we began dating, fell in love and such, and we got engaged. I was a jerk to her at summercamp and she cheated on me. I had to go to jail and when i got out i had a day before i went to rehab. she told me that she cheated on me and such and all the nasty comments that come with when you are mad ect...and then i had to go to rehab the day after i got outta jail. i got outta rehab and she started coming around again apologizing for what she did and saying if i would allow it to give us another chance.

She got back with her old boyfriend and they just broke up and me and her are now talking about being together again. She tells me she is very sorry for everything she did and has cried to me about it several times telling me she wishes she could take it all back. I forgave her for it and she forgave me for what i did to her. Shes told me that she will not cheat on me again and such. She ended up staying the night at my house last weekend and was cuddled up with me and rubbed my stomach and then we kissed and one thing lead to another and we ended up having sex. I know there will be trust issues but im not sure if im doing the right thing by trying again with her and putting my heart on the line again.

So what do you think? can/should i trust her that she really wont do it again or should i just not even give it a second chance? Im really in love with her, and i really feel like she is the one and is my soulmate, and im pretty sure she is still in love with me, but im not sure if shes just toying with me or is serious that she wont do it again.

 

once a cheater,always a cheater in my honest opinion

 

If she really loved you? - she never would of cheated on you.

Plain and simple.

Sure, I believe in forgiveness, but forgetting is a whole other thing.

No offence, but....jail...rehab....sounds like you need to get your life in order, before you look for romance....

this is probably what you don't wanna hear....but you asked.

Good luck, bro

:cheers2:

 

i wanted to hear it all haha. just alot to think about. and yea that was about 2 months ago that i got outta there and im straightening myself out. Me and her have been talking and we are just best friends again, taking it rly rly slow. She has a problem with irrational decisions and she is really working on it, shes actually getting therapy for it. And that was why she cheated on me was because i was being a jerk to her and got really pissed off at her, after we talked a little more on the subject yesterday i found out that actually when she was with the other guy at summercamp it only was for like 2 seconds before she decided she couldnt do it, so i guess it kinda doesnt count as cheating but at the same time still is.

 

iii dont think you should, im bein a hypocrite but its only because i still have alot of problems in my relationship because my boyfriend cheated! i don't know your ex so i dont know if she would be the same. But because my boyfriend knows what he is capable of doin to me, he thinks that i will now do that back to him! and im having serious problems with him thinking im going to get one back at him . So i wouldnt, and just save yourself from having any other further problems, that and can you reallyy trust her again??

 

You're both young. Maybe getting married isn't what you should have been thinking about. Maybe she got scared. I'm not one to ever take back a cheater, but it seems like there was a lot of heavy shit going down and people do fucked up things when they don't have their head on straight. Maybe she was too young to even know what she really wanted. If she seems like she has grown, matured, learned from her mistake, maybe she really means it.
I don't know. If you want her back, take her back, but any funny business and she should be out the door. You don't want to become that guy she knows she can run back to every time she screws up. You don't need that.
Good luck!

 

If she really loves you she wouldn't have cheated. Maybe she'll never do it again, I don't know. But she betrayed you and stabbed you in the back in the first place. If she loved you she wouldn't have done that. But you guys are too young to get married. I think you should remain her best friend for awhile and maybe try dating her again once she's matured. I mean you were in jail and she cheated while you were going through a rough time. I remember a long time ago, I had a boyfriend who was in jail (he is now my ex). I wasn't in love with him but he was the guy I lost my virginity to (this is back when I was 16). He was in jail for 5 months and I never cheat on him. I didn't even look at another guy during that whole time he was in jail. I had a commitment with him. Your girlfriend could have waited till you got out of jail. She made a commitment with you. Life isn't all about sex.

 

Once a cheater, always a cheater.
You can forgive someone for doing it, but no matter how hard you try you will never forget. I have reoccuring nightmares because of my experience, I've had to talk to a therapist about it. Infidelity hurts, because it means that you weren't even worth the truth. To know that in the back of your mind that she was with someone else will haunt you, and worrying if she's remaining faithful or not will drive you insane. Cheating ruins everything, it creates a rift of mistrust between a couple and slowly tears them apart. Sorry if that was depressing. Good luck.

 

if she doesnt have the maturity to not cheat and you dont have the maturity to keep from going to jail and rehab and w/e else then......what are you thinking?

 

for real lynz? your bf cheated on you? leave that piece of shit then, thats bs, your way to gorgeous for there to be any reason for a guy to be cheating on you.