Questions for Bi men

Never Been With One.....I Have Known One In Town But Even Though Iv'e Been Invited For A "Freebee".......

As You Would Have Guessed He's "Commercial"...... And I "Don't Do Pros" Full Stop.......



Cheers Glen.

 

Good for you to recognize the importance.
Sex is an integral part of a happy relationship for the majority of people.
The day you let that go is the first day of a failing relationship.

 

No, I think sexuality is a unique/natural potential we all have.......I can't explain it any other way really.

 

That describes my situation exactly. My wife has very little interest in sex anymore. Every other aspect of our marriage is great. Not an easy dynamic.

 

I met my wife at a collage party well i'll call it what is was an orgy. Up to that point i had never been with a guy or even thought about it. But there was some serious fucking going on, my future wife was sucking cock and had her pussy getting abused and once she started sucking my cock i was in love. After that night we started dating and within 2 months we had an apartment and was living together. She was very open about her sexual proclivities and we basically had our arrangement from the very start. One night she wanted me to do her a favor and she wanted to see me suck a mans cock. She was a total Bi sexual and wanted me to be as well. So i said sure i'll try it and she made the call to a couple of her friends who came over who were a couple and as the night progressed we were all naked and i saw my future wife not only sucking his cock but eating her pussy. She then got up grabbed Tim and guided his cock into my mouth and after some coaching i started enjoying it and i tasted my 1st cum that night besides my own. I didn't swallow but i got a mouth full, which my girl wanted it and kissed me and she sucked it out of my mouth. That was 32 years ago and we are still going strong. Since then, i have sucked and swallowed many men and learned to not only enjoy anal but i crave it. Watching other men regularly fuck her and she seeing me fuck other women is the most awesome thing in this world. She makes sure that the men she plays with are Bi as well.

 

I can only speak for myself. I was born bi, a rare (so I'm told) 50/50 bi. I have always found myself equality attracted to both genders. An interesting thing is that my biggest turn off is androgyny. I like men, and I like women, but I don't like anything in between (chicks with dicks, etc.).

 

It's never really been about gender for me. I just love who i love...Never had anything to do with lack of sex with a woman.

 

I've always had a bi streak, but just as a sexual thing, no romance or emotional connection.

That being said, I have no problem with monogamy when I'm in a relationship.

 

I have always liked women I started noticing girls when I was really young, started looking at them sexually when I was about 11or 12 I was wanking about girls, when I was 13 a mate found some hard core porn mags in his mum's room, there were loads of pictures of women sucking loads of cocks these cocks were the biggest I'd ever seen, I thought they were beautiful all hard and veiny, I became obsessed with sucking a man's cock, I met a man about 6months later while I was hopping school,I went with him on to his little boat as soon as we were on there it was obvious what he wanted, had already suspected, but I was right up for it, I sucked my first cock and I loved it, I sucked him a couple of times that day it was amazing, over the next couple of years I visited his house once or twice a month and I would service him and his friends, I loved every minute of it and I earned a fair bit of cash, during this time I was going out with girls and enjoying sex with them, I've been married for 30years now get a lot of sex with my wife and I really enjoy it but I still suck cock whenever I can, I Love it

 

I think a lot of men myself included, are not actually bi, I have no interest in living with another man, but sucking another man's cock is like the ultimate taboo and so horny, I love my wife I Love living with her and having sex with her, but when I'm in a public toilet sucking on some strangers cock I feel so fucking dirty, nothing comes close

 

I didn’t start really thinking about it until sex dried up at home. Once my wife started going through the life change sex no longer was important to her. I serve a purpose, make sure the bills are paid and there’s food in the house. My needs don’t matter. So I got curious after years of tendencies that might have indicated I was heading this way. Eventually my curiosity got the best of me. And here I am not sure where I’m headed.

 

I always had a fascination with...uh...beautiful examples of the male form, so it could well be that I was born bisexual. But for me realizing it came in high school where everyone had to wear uniforms. When you're a teenage guy you are always thinking about sex and with uniforms that were designed to desexualize the girls' appearance I started noticing the guys more. As a teenager I liked looking at a girls boobs (most teen guys do) but with that not being noticable anymore I naturally started paying more attention to men. If it weren't for boobs I would like men a lot more, tbh.

Male sexuality is target oriented which is why men more than women usually end up more focused on one sex but sometimes the "target" is a list of traits that exist in both men and women. Men like this usually end up bisexual. The most common form of it is (putting it bluntly) a fascination with "cock and tits" which is why so many bi men like porn with transgender females. For me it's a little more complicated but basically I am looking for traits I find attractive; because there is overlap between the sexes when it comes to the things I like it doesn't matter whether that person is a guy or a girl. And when it comes to emotion and relationships, it really depends...a connection could open up with either sex (that's a different brain system), though I'm more heterosexual than homosexual when it comes to that kind of thing.

 

I was married for 25 years and we had a great sex life (3-4) times a week into our mid 30's. When she was 35-39 it dropped back to once every three weeks. She turned 40 and wanted to have sex daily. Then she hits 42 and we may have had sex three times in the next 6 years. She kept telling me she's menopausal so I stopped asking and we divorced after 25 years of marriage. I've since remarried an older woman who is post menopausal and our sex life is fantastic.

 

Pfff, or she had to hide something from you after 42

 

Here's my story on it, I never had the circle jerks and sex with other male school friends that a lot of people seem to have had ( often wonder if it was not just there imagination working) I was always into girls always thought about them when I masturbated which was a lot. I started having sex with girls when I was 14 and was living with them from 16 on, at that time I had a couple of friends that had sex with guys as well as girls didn't bother me just didn't care. It was in my mid 20s that I started looking at guys a little bit more but never acted on it, just wondered what it would be like to suck a cock, no foreplay or anything just a blowjob, me doing the sucking. in my 30s I started to get a little more interested and then started playing with my ass a little more while masturbating this progressed into me buying a dildo to play with, all this was behind closed doors, wife knew nothing about my fantasies and I knew she wouldn't be into anything like this anyways, even her desire for blow jobs and any kind of oral sex was getting less and less. So than I get into my 40s sex life with the wife is getting worse (sex wise), seems to be used as more of a reward than anything else she could take it or leave it didn't matter much to her. Most of my thoughts turned to men at this time when I masturbated don't get me wrong I would have sex with a women at the drop of a hat but never cheated on my wife. we separated in my mid 40s and now I could look else where for sex, Dated a couple of women never really met one I wanted to settle down with and it always seemed to be a lot of time spent just to get into sex, I think I was looking for a women that I didn't have to wine and dine to get sex, greedy I guess on my part. I did go out with one women that was just into sex, used to come over strictly for that and then would leave, great she got what she wanted and I got what I wanted. When I was 45 I went on to a gay dating site and that really peaked my interest in men. It seemed you could find other like minded guys that just wanted their cock sucked and suck in return no intimacy or anything else. I messaged a guy on the site and we met on a back road one night and I sucked him off in his car, I loved it, loved having his cock get hard in my mouth and when he came I loved having his cum in my mouth before swallowing it. He said it was one of the best blowjobs he had ever had, I figured I had enough by women over the years to know what felt good and what I liked. He never sucked me off turns out this was his first time and " he just couldn't do it" I had to settle for a hand job and was actually surprised how much that turned me on, watching him focus on my cock and the look on his face when I came. When I got home I felt kinda cheep, sucking cock in a car was not what I was into. I had a couple more experience's after that both in the car and outside but really was looking for a guy that could get together on a regular basis. I started than to wonder what it would be like to be fucked, once again I found a guy on the gay site who wanted to meet for mutual oral when I asked him if he would be interested in fucking me safe sex only he said yes. He was a local guy so I cleaned up and went over to his house, this was great, no chance of getting caught. When he took off his underwear I was shocked to see the size of his cock, I was around 7 inches but under no exaggeration he had to be at least 10 inches or more and a big around as a beer can. I got in the doggy position and he lubed me up, at first it hurt until he got the head in than just discomfort after he pushed a bit of it in and started stroking I told him to just ram it all in and what a feeling it was. After a few stokes he picked up his pace and the sensations I had were better than any dildo, I couldn't feel him cum in my ass like other people seem to feel but I could tell he came when he rammed me to the hilt and just held it there, I looked down and I had came as well with out any manual stimulation of my cock. I realizes than that I liked sex as much with men as I did women. Around this time I was lucky enough to find another man who like myself was in a relationship with a women but like sex with a man as well, we got together every couple of weeks or at least once a month. We would get a motel room for the day or when we could both get away for the day and night. This was a good time in my life as we tried almost everything together, other than scat or heavy pain I would try anything twice and we continued on for 12 years till he moved out east with his girlfriend. Since then I have had casual sex with a few men mostly married as well, always had this false feeling there would be less chance of an STD. I am now 61 and still look on the gay dating site for someone with like interest, nothing but get together for a bit of sex with no ties and no expectations but as of yet no luck. It seems a lot of guys on there want to talk and email but when it comes to actually meeting and getting down to it the seem to go, like they have the fantasy but just wont act on it seems to be just as much wineing and dining bullshit as I had with women. You would be surprised how many men on these sites are 45 and older. So until I find a man that's into sex and a steady thing with no ties I'll settle for the occasional blowjob from both men and women and nothing on a regular basis. I still love sex with women and like it with men alike just not a lot of action or as much as I would like so I spend a lot of my spare time masturbating and I have no problem with that, bought a flesh light and love it. Sorry this turned more into a novel than a reply.
I should add that now that I am older I like lots of body contact, feeling, licking, kissing not just a blow and go with both men and women.

 

I know just how you feel. I had somethings similar to you but I stated when I was at school. I was raped by an older boy. But after a long time of getting his fingers in my hole he put his cock in me. Years later and after two marriages I stated looking at men again. And like you joined a gay dusty site. I did meet some guys and loved it all. The best was when he put his cock in my ass. So now I'm a boggy as they say. But I still love sex with girls and I have a new GF but she loves doing the things that guys do to me. But I still like being fucked. I'm 62 now and like it even nore that I did in the 20s.

 

Your right as I found out later after the divorce was final. She calls me crying and regretting doing what she did and divorcing me...Well, sour grapes to me lady. You got what you wanted, but not really as he tossed her aside in a short time...lol

 

Mmmmmm hmmmm

 

I feel this question is as naive as what do you think turned you gay, or straight, or transgender. Most people are born as they are. Some realize it later than others. I don't think anyone "turns" anything. People may make choices later because they are more comfortable with themselves. May give up on sexually mismatched relationships since they're tired of them. I am always shocked to hear people are in marriages when the sex was likely never what they wanted, then it trickles to nothing. Do not blame menopause. Though it has issues that may make sex a little more difficult, the freedom to have sex without the fear/responsibility of pregnancy is a thril! HRT can restore most normalcy lost through low hormones and a woman interested in keeping her sex life alive will surely go with this over a sexless marriage that leaves her spouse miserable. I believe women with low sex drives (having sex to please their husbands) just don't care if their sex drives disappear, and they have a further excuse to NOT have sex. Don't blame menopause. These folks just SAY that. A friend told me of couples who are both in their 50s or such, both love each other and just "cuddle." They give up sex even though they're able. I don't get it. There is that spectrum as in anything. Sexual people need to be closely interested in sex. I don't care how much love you have for someone, a "0" and a "6" are hopelessly sexually mismatched. (Just saying a sex scale of 0 being low and 6 being high). Men likely may be more open to any sex rather than NO sex, so may get it where they can find it. Not sure about that. But turning "bi" or "gay" just to have sex at all? I think one must've had inclinations. I had a sexually dull marriage myself. Stuck with it for "love." Love isn't enough. It needs to be fully satisfying. That is just me. Some don't feel as strongly about sex in a relationship. But I'm not going after a woman cause I couldn't get it from a man. Not attracted. If you are, you're bi or gay and likely were always so, just couldn't let that out. Oh and all this crap about getting what they need from grandchildren is crap. Grandchldren are not a substitute for a full relationship with an adult! That is just bullshit.

 

I wasnt born a 47 yr old male with hair growing out of my ears