Premature ejaculation

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    I am a lay sex therapist who has helped many young men and couples with an embarrassing but very common problem - premature ejaculation, which occurs when the male ejaculates in as little as 10 seconds after he enters a woman (or even before he enters). Some of this problem is due to the newness of the sexual excitment associated with having intercourse with a female, and I dare say that it has happened to every guy at some time in his life. But no one wants to talk about it.

    I have developed ten techniques which I have passed on to young men who have sought my advice on this problem, and many of them have been cured or helped greatly. Some have even named their kids after me in gratitude.

    I have posted the ten techniques in other forums and in PMs to persons, and I will also post those techniques here:

    1. Counting thrusts. Since guys really screw with their brains and not their penises, the more you divert your attention from what is going on in your delivery system down below, the less likely you will ejaculate prematurely.
    Thus, one way to retard orgasm is to count every thrust inward, and focus your attention on the counting and not what your penis is feeling. Try to reach 100, and then start over again. Or think that you are screwing someone really repulsive, and not the beautiful female under you.

    2. Kama Sutra technique. Thousands of years ago, Indian gurus pioneered the technique of thinking of your penis as drawing something out of her vagina, not ejaculating something into it. Premature ejaculation is clearly not just a modern problem.

    3. "Sets of nine" - My favorite technique. Do eight shallow thrusts, each 2-3 inches into the vagina, and then one deep thrust to the hilt, pubic bone to pubic bone, then seven shallow thrusts and two deep ones, then six shallow and three deep, etc. until you are doing nine deep thrusts. This is most pleasurable for both of you, as the first two to three inches of her vagina are the most sensitive, and the deep thrusts are the ones that bring the penis closest to orgasm, as the frenulum (the stringy thing in the "inverted v" under the glans) and shaft skin are stretched the most, causing greater arousal. If you can, do another set of nine and then another.

    4. Ejaculate earlier. In the hours before the intercourse, ejaculate by masturbation (or have an earlier intercourse). Sperm buildup (each of your testicles produces about 10 million of the little tadpoles every hour) heightens the need to ejaculate, and if you have just spent your load, it will take longer to cum a second time.

    5. Lessen glans sensitivity. Use techniques which will lessen the sensitivity of the glans (head) of the penis, such as desensitizing cream (whether or not you are using a condom). The most sensitive parts of your penis are the reddish-colored coronal ridge encircling the back of the glans, and the frenulum in the area surrounding the "inverted v" on the underside of the glans. Touch these areas yourself to verify this.

    6. Less foreplay. Do less foreplay, especially that involving your penis directly, before having intercourse.

    7. Practice "edging". "Edging" is masturbating yourself to the point of orgasm, and then learning techniques to bring yourself down from that point, to a level below the approaching orgasm. Learn to recognize that precise point when orgasm is inevitable, and do things, such as kegel exercises, which may retard it. Some examples:
    a. Pushing down on testicles. Your testicles, when you are near orgasm, rather than hanging loosely below the shaft, will have nested up close to the shaft. With your fingers, gently push down on each testicle, and the desire to orgasm will be retarded.
    b. Squeezing the penis. Squeeze the area just behind the glans as you feel the orgasm coming. Put your thumb on the topside just behind the glans, and your index finger on the underside in the "inverted v" area, squeezing the urethra which carries the urine and ejaculate out of the penis. If you are too late, release your fingers and let the ejaculate flow. There is always another time.

    8. Different positions. Try different intercourse positions - some positions heighten male arousal more than others. Although each guy is different, many guys feel that "woman on top" is less arousing (for you, not her) than other positions.

    9. Stop thrusting. While having intercourse, and you feel yourself approaching orgasm, just stop thrusting. Remain motionless for a minute or two, counting to 60 in your head. Or if you feel you still can't control it, withdraw from her vagina for 30 seconds or so, also counting before reentering.

    10. Thicker condoms. Use a thicker condom, which will lessen the friction on your glans as your penis thrusts in and out of the vagina, which is the motion that brings you to orgasm most often. Experiment with different types of condoms until you find the one that works best for you.

    Another thing which can retard orgasm for older men (guys over 40) is to use Viagra, Levitra, or Cialis, which gives you monster erections on call (at about US$10-$18 a pill), but retards orgasm for many men. Younger men don't need Viagra, etc., which is available only by prescription, and men with heart problems should consult a doctor before using it.

    Some of the techniques work differently if you are cut or uncut, so once you have studied and tried the techniques, if you still have questions, PM me. The LOVE AND SEX FORUM is the perfect place to deal with this problem, as it can be addressed anonymously. I help persons who contact me without charge.
     
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    I have 15 years of experience helping people with premature ejaculation, and the positive feedback i have gotten from many of them makes me want to help others with this embarrassing, but usually cureable, problem.
     
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    Another technique (similar to the "sets of nine" described above) is to just penetrate the vagina with your penis 2-3 inches. That 2-3 inches is the most sensitive part of her vagina, and the thing that brings you closest to orgasm is thrusting all the way in, stretching your frenulum and shaft skin taught. If you just do a series of short thrusts (100 or so), you may pleasure her highly and hold off your orgasm.

    One way to do this is as follows: from the missionary position, with a pillow under her butt, move your upper body to an upright position, with your arms extended on either side of her. Put your lower body weight on your knees, and make rapid, shallow thrusts into her vagina, counting to 100 if you can. This can be exhausting, but if you are counting each thrust, you have a goal to reach before you slide back down to the horizontal position above her. And while you are doing this, both of you can watch your penis as it goes in and out of her vagina, which can be highly erotic.

    You also can take your penis out of her vagina entirely, and then reinsert it again after a few seconds. If you are really hard, you can do this without using your hand to reinsert. Then try to go in and entirely out repeatedly. You should hear a sucking sound each time you take it out of her vagina. Really erotic, but not as stimulating to your penis as other techniques, as it sits there, ready to go back in again when you want it to.
     
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    I tried the counting method but it seemed like taking my mind off the task at hand was not really helpful. it seemed like I was paying too much attention to other things and not what I was doing. But then, when I started paying attention to when I was doing, it was a LOT harder to control myself
     
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    The Creature - Seems like the counting is working for you. "Taking your mind off the task at hand" is exactly what you want if you want to avoid premature ejaculation. If the counting causes you to lose your erection, then try another method.

     
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    well it did help a little but I plan to try a few different things and hopefully one of them will work out better.
    thank you so much. I have been looking all over the internet for some advice on how to help stop this problem. This was perfect (and hopefully at least one will work)
     
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    Some people say that the counting causes them to lose their erection. If this starts to happen, quickly lube up again and reinsert. Your full erection should come back quickly.

     
  8. Era V

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    If you have a big problem with it you can't possibly masturbate enough but you have to do it in a REALLY disciplined way. Set aside as much time as possible whenever you can by yourself when you're not going to be disturbed by anything and have, what we call in the UK and Ireland, a 'posh wank'.

    What this means is that you don't just drop your pants and start yanking but you try and make as erotic an experience, as similar to sex, as possible but just by yourself. Don't use pornography, just lie back and use your imagination, lube up your cock and hands with whatever your preferred lotion, KY, baby oil...whatever you like, bring yourself to erection and then instead of masturbating in the normal way experiment with alternate methods that replicate sex better.

    A loosely clenched lubricated fist can be thrust into and the tightness is totally controlled by you, let your cock do the movement, the way it would be in sex, instead of driving your hand up and down. Another great method for developing a resistance to sensitivity is to masturbate, lubricated bringing your hand down over the head and down the shaft and then letting go and doing that again. So that you're never bringing the hand back up the shaft, it's just constantly replicating the inward thrust...the one that brings you the very most sensation. If you can get used to doing this by yourself then soon your ability to last a long time without ejaculation should greatly improve.
     
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    I will be out of the U.S. for a while, but still can be reached via the Hipforums on the internet, so PM me if you have questions. I appreciate all the kind comments about how much my techniques help overcome premature ejaculation.
     
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    I am an 18/m and have just got my first girlfriend. We have had sex three times so far but I haven't had a orgasm with her.

    I've heard that young men cum really quickly even too quickly.
    I'm not sure if somethings wrong with me.

    We spend about an half an hour in foreplay and a half an hour in sex.
    We have been doing it missionary style alot of the time.
    I find that my body just gets really tired.
    Not sure if its the thrusting or the holding myself over her body.
    I exercize and eat well too 0_0

    If you have any impute I would be very greatful.
     
  11. jacobfredjo

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    shinobi...try some new positions....doggy will get you off in no time.
     
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    PM me if you want to discuss your problem privately. Cutted
     
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    Or post it here if you want to share your problem with others, so they can learn from your experience.

     
  14. Aaron69

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    cutted since then have you found any new ideas for helping people on pre mature ejaculation???just curious cuz i have tried a few of these techniques and none seem to help me too much...Also i was wondering if you have any ideas on how to help me stay hard? I will be fine until i will try to put it in and then i go soft, but if i get in in time then i will be hard until I cum??any ideas
     
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    Aaron - I don't provide specific advice on sexual intercourse matters to persons under 18.

     
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    well fuck u too then pal
     
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    I will be happy to talk with you about this adult game when you grow up. Sex is not something to take lightly - you can die from it, or create another (unwanted) human life that can be a burden on you for the rest of your life.


     
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    well i understand that and I know what responsibilities i have to have to even mess with this shit.....Im smart with my actions and BELIEVE me i know the consequences the the ADULTGAME.......
     
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    I guess it is the father in me and not the sex therapist that is coming out when I speak like i did to you.

     
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    aight. well i understand now and my bad for the rude reply but this is like the only spot i know of to get help on this type of crap
     

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