What do you think of keeping naked pictures of your ex bf or gf? What would you do if you found out your ex kept them all along without telling you? And you found them by snooping? Say I'm asking all these questions in a hypothetical situation where you found yourself in a long term and committed relationship with said partner? Should you have the right to ask them to dispose of these pictures/videos? What about pictures and videos that contain nothing sexual of the ex? What if one of the above mentioned ex partners was married to your current partner at the time? Do they have more of a right to keep certain "memories?"
Of course you have the right to ask them to delete the pictures/videos... doesn't mean they'll do it. I don't think I would care, really. I would probably keep pictures to remember them by, doesn't mean I'm not over them or that I'm stocking them. They are memories, so why wouldn't I keep them? I understand these are nude pictures, but hey, seeing someone naked is a memory one would probably like to keep
dammit..I was expecting pictures I'd say just ask him to get rid of them because it makes you uncomfortable...hopefully he understands and does it (the sexual ones)....the basic ones he should be allowed to keep...they are snapshots of his life...I thinks its ok to keep regular pictures
More so than anything, I was wondering what YOUR reaction would be? Perhaps from both sides, if you can provide it.
me as the finder = Id be pissed but would understand that pictures are just memories.. me as the picture keeper= Id be pissed that someone was snooping in my personal items or computer (all guesses since Im not even sure what exactly the original post is saying)
no one has wanted to see me naked in quite a few years....i couldnt give them away ....do you want some?.....any one? they are in my albums
I think it would bother me. Not to say it was be detrimental to our relationship, but I certainly would make a comment about him wanting to see her naked, something like if you like seeing her naked so much why dont you try and make shit work with her? just to be a little asshole. but on a serious note, i can sort of see why someone would save that kind of stuff. they are memories, and i mean i wouldn't really want to throw away naked pics of someone if they at one time were really special to me..
I would not like to find someone kept nude pictures, especially if they did not tell me before that they did. I am not sure how I would find them just by accident though, so that could be an issue for them as well. If I went looking for them that is not right either. I would probably ask them to not keep them but if they refused to get rid of them, I am not sure that would be a deal breaker for me. Other pictures, I have no right to ask them to get rid of. There may be many reasons they wish to keep them and that should be. I would not get rid of my old wedding photos for anyone. My father, who has passed away, is in them and they are some of the nicest photos I have of him.
depends on what your ex looks like. i don't think i would do anything. why the hell would she tell me anyway? i suppose i'd probably be a little flattered. well, i definitely wouldn't say anything in that case. they did nothing wrong, and you snooped through their stuff, so why admit it? reminds me of the time in first grade one of my classmates raised his hand in the middle of class and announced to the teacher "marcus laughed when i picked my nose and ate the booger." now i'm confused. you're in a committed relationship with your ex? in that case there's really no reason for them not to keep your nudes. you can ask them whatever you want, but if you gave them a naked picture you had to expect them to hang on to it. same deal, except now they can show their friends without being an asshole. wait, what? your ex bf was married to your current bf and was dating you at the same time? this is getting too jerry springer for me...
I just don't see a problem. That is to say, you may have a problem there, but nothing you have said indicates a problem. Why should he throw away pictures? It would be one thing if he wanted to have them on his desk or something, but why should they bother you if they are stuffed away in a box at the bottom of a closet or something like that? Do you have pictures from your high school or college days? Any former boy friends in those pictures? Did you run all of those picture through a shredder or did you keep them. Do you want him to undergo electric shock to try to delete his memories? After all, he might remember what former girl friends looked like naked. (Say... do you remember what your former lovers looked like when they were naked? Do you think they might still have nude pictures of you? What about nude memories of you?)
I feel that before allowing someone to have naked pictures of you, you should consider whether or not you would care in the case that you were to break up. Couples break up all the time. Even if you are happy and think it will last. If you allow someone to have pictures of you naked then you should be prepared for this type of shit.
I know my husband has pics of exes and shit and i'm pissed but i don't want him to know i know so i can' just tell him to dispose. Me, what's past is past and i don't need to keep memories.
