My story...Open to advice..please?

Ok so basically.
Me and my girlfriend/Fiancé have been having problems on and off for the past month or so now.
Different problems keep rising up, and we keep ppulling through. Well if i'm to be honest. I'M pulling US through cuz i'm stronger minded than she is. We both know this and both agree on that.
However, since we are both in college. She NEEDS to pass to be able to go UNI next year. At the moment it dosn't look like she's going to get the grades needed for uni =|

Questions:

Am i a bad person for secretly wanting her to fail? Baring in mine she'll be moving away for 3 years only being able to see her for holidays etc etc .... ( i want her to pass too though =S)

Even though we keep getting problems.....More and more.....Is it wrong that i keep fighting to keep for her? Knowing that she is my everything, and i know she feels the same way?

Will this eventually end up destroying us both?

 

If you let things destroy you, they will.

Wanting her to fail so she moves away says you don't really wanna be with her anyway. You are being unfair to both of you by staying there if you secretly want her to fail.

You say you are each other's everything, but maybe you just say that because you're comfortable together. You can't be each others everything when you secretly want her to disappear...

 

yes it is wrong that you secretly want her to fail....you cant be honest and are hoping you can blame a split on her and her grades....stop being a pussy and dump her so she can meet someone that has her best interests at heart

 

If she fails she stays? If she passes she moves? I'm not clear.

If she passes and moves, no there is nothing wrong with having those feelings. You want her to be with you. If my (now) husband and I hadn't been able to be with each other at least for weekends, we probably would not have made it. We just needed to be with each other, even though we fought a lot too.

None of us can determine IF you will make it, and/or what will be the deciding factors either way. Do what you feel is best.

 

Seems like coming clean and owning up to your feelings, is the best way to stay together.
Just freakin' tell her....Once you make your grades and you move forward in life whether or not we're able to manage to keep our relationship together, I will be happy for you and proud of you for fulfilling your goals in life, You're the best and you deserve all the best in life..WITH OR WITH ME!!
I suppose when she decides that she wants to make the grades she deserves and makes decisions on her own behalf without worry or concern about her relationship with you then she'll be able to find out if your love will stand the test of time. Love is about inspiring and encouraging each other to reach your highest heights after all!:love:

 

If she's youre everything and you love her, then yes, fighting to keep her is the right thing to do. I understand secretly wanting her to fait, those are feelings you cant control, but I think should try and help her pass. If you love someone, you need to help them. Don't put your needs on front of hers.

 

Don't get me wrong i'm helping her out alot.
Getting her student accomindation sorted. Help revsion etc etc
I've told her how i feel etc etc.
I just don't want to be apart is all =/

 

Well I understand bro, its hard. Keep helping her, keep doing what you are doing, respect her path. I know it sounds cheezelord but if it's meant to be you'll pull through. If you change her journey, one day she will resent you for it.

 

I suppose