My feelings and mind are a pretty mess atm

Hi, at the moment, I just don't know how to handle my feelings anymore... what happened ?

Well, I've been living together with my girlfriend for 12 years... romance has been gone for a couple of years by now.
We both play a lot of a certain online game... and there's is where my problem started...

Last year I was invited in a "guild", when time got by there was this other player I chatted a lot with... I felt kind of connection... noting more at that moment... untill
Somebody thought it might be a cool idea of us to post our pictures on the guild website, most of us did...
And than I discovered that the player I chatted a lot with... is a gorgious you woman... and to make it even worse... she told me she liked my looks as well.
So we kept on chatting during the game, but our chats became more and more flirtatious... my feelings for her kept growing and than one evening I told her that I love her.
To my surprise, she answered that she had known that for quite a while... and that she shared the same feelings for me.
Since that day we don't only chat ingame, but we also chat through gmail, and now even sms...
We would like so much to be together, but she lives in southern europe while I live in Belgium

I know that you guys don't have any ready-made solutions, but I just nneded to get this in the open and share...

 

first thing first does your GF or the other one now of the sitution?

seconed you should talk to your GF about how you feel maybe your problems will solve them self

well I be waiting to hear what is happening with you

 

I think that there is a support group for girlfriends against world of warcraft, if there isn't there should be. My boyfriend is on there from the time he gets home from work until weee hours into the night, then he wonders why he is always tired.

Anyway, that being said, we can't blame the game in your situation (or in mine which is very similar I might add). There was a problem with your relationship before meeting this new person. You said the romance was gone. So my question is, why can't you just break up with your live in gf and move on? Is there a reason why you want to string her along if you have feelings for someone else?

No, seriously I'm asking this because I'm in the same boat. I live with my boyfriend (of 7 years) and I really don't want to be with him anymore, but at the moment there really isn't much of a way out of this relationship, or rather maybe I just don't want to give up some of the "things" that I have in it. Sucks for me. Especially since I have the hots for someone that lives 2000 miles away.

But I don't know the rest of your situation. I just think it would be best to be honest with your girlfriend at least. And if you really wanted to work on your relationship, then you are going to have to get off the game. I'm sorry, but it is true.

 

i really hate the whole break up with someone for someone else thing, so realize im biased to begin with

id say work on it with your gf. you say the romance is dead, well, make it alive again. figure out whats missing for both of you, work on it together. see a couples counsellor. i mean, 12 years is a lot, there has to have been something there worth fighting for at teh start, i think you should try and discover if its still there before you go after ms internetz

 

LOVE is WORK - it's not just feelings and romance. From what little you have told us, I can see three options for you:

a.) Stay and work on your relationship (this means doing whatever it takes to bring back the romance)

b.) Stay and continue cheating on her until she finds out and the shit hits the fan or you can't take it anymore and the shit hits the fan

or

c.) Leave. This leaves you free to pursue this other woman (or not - long distance relationships may or may not be what you really want).

Unless you're lying about your age, you're likely more than old enough to know the possible consequences of each option. So which option are you willing to take and which consequences are you prepared to face?