My boyfriend has recently asked me to move in. We've been together about a year and I do love him but I'm a bit nervous. Things were a bit rocky for a while but we've learned how to communicate with each other and it makes us a much better couple. I think I would like to see how we live together but first off I'm worried living together might change things and also I don't want to make big mistakes that cause rifts. I think with us comfortable enough to communicate now most things can be resolved but I'd still like advice from people that have done this before. He's very important to me and I want this to go as smoothly as possible.
Ive never really put too much weight in moving in with a guy. As long as your not buying a place together or anything, it's not like you cant easily leave if things don't work out. If your happy with the relationship, go for it. There is no better way to get to know someone then living with them. If your really hesitant about it, you could always do like a test run. Keep the place your living now but stay with him.
Ive never moved in wiv a man but plenty in the past moved in wiv me and i would say if in dout, give it time- Spend more time together but keep your place on or where your living open to come back to for some time out. Listen to the inner voice saying 'be aware' especially if things have reached a space of understanding! Good luck lady be happy xxx
You're always going to bicker and fight and it'll be over the dumbest shit possible too. But it happens to everyone. Bickering can be good in a relationship I hear.
Of course living together will change things! Taking your relationship from going out on dates however frequently or infrequently to waking up and going to bed next to each other every day IS a big change. How the two of you will cope with this change remains to be seen. Nobody wants to make mistakes. But we can and will make them. Just do your best not to make them but accept that from time to time you will. Don't let your fear of doing wrong stop you from trying to do something right. Maybe moving in will turn out to be the best decision you've ever made. Maybe it will turn out to be the biggest mistake you've ever made. Who knows? Make a decision. Whatever path you decide, commit to walking on that path without saying "what if I had taken the other path?" Besides, as PonyGrl420 said: "As long as your not buying a place together or anything, it's not like you cant easily leave if things don't work out." Moving in together is not marriage (at least not in the legal and religious sense of the word), and even that can be escaped from - though not as easily and neatly. Unless there are complications like children, money issues, etc. you can literally say "Oops, I think we made the wrong decision, I want out" and walk out the door. If you're able to communicate and are fairly confident that most issues can be resolved, then I don't see the need to give you any more advice. I get your desire for this to go as smoothly as possible - I just think you already know what to do. If you just need to have a little more faith in yourself and your partner.
