midnite rant... or something

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by junZ, Aug 5, 2010.

  1. junZ

    junZ -dreaded puertorican-

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    ok, i know this is possibly the worst place to rant about my shitty relationship with my wife. (yea i'm looking at you fucking trolls) but i need to let off some steam.

    i've been pondering half of the night the real reason, or the practical use of two human beings sharing 1 single bed. married or not. seriously.... is there anything practical about it? i mean... i've been living with this person for more than 5 years now, we have a lovely daughter and all the perfect family yada-yada you could think of.

    i used to think i loved her... i still do, but lately.... (lately as in the past 8-12 months) i just can't touch her in bed!! unbeli-fuckin-livable!
    fuck.... school taught me US men were more sexual than women. Ok... i can live with that. but hell.... every time i try to even slightly arouse her in some way while sleeping (hey, every man has testosterone rushes in the middle of the night) all i get is rejection or a fucking fight.

    i mean, i don't mean to be rude to the ladies or anything... but for fuck's sake; i get home around 9pm from work, and then she's already asleep(yay!!). then all i have is my hand left. please, ladies... tell me. am i doing something extremely wrong for pleadin' my fucking wife, the mother of my baby for some mid-nite sex!!?? have i fallen into some 7-th layer of hell torture of some sorts? am i really the inconsiderate one for having 10X thousand times her sex drive?

    /rant

    i'm gonna go jerk off. if you'll excuse me....
     
  2. sophieclair

    sophieclair Senior Member

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    You need to be more romantic with her. Sounds like you just come home and expect it. That probably doesn't fly with her.
     
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    might need to take that pussy, but take it nicely, slap a warm lubed hand in there once you got an erection.., make sure shes sleeping on her side, split her, get in her even shes slight resistant.. make sure you aint pissing around to get that dick (you are ranting bout now( in her... now make love to her, and cuddle her tight , dont return nasty words to her. even if she bitching with the come on moan get the fuck off.. if this women truly loves you,, and you love her, you should be able to click... you certainly cant be raping your wife, if shes responding with the "mmmm mmmmmmm oh oh baby mmmm" once things get going.. Im going be honest with you, some crazy women like that shit, the arguing bitch stir gets their blood pumping. If you was thinking about this, this will cause clit swelling and arousal... Its much easier to get the blood pumping with anger out of sleep than it is to wake up softly..:D

    believe me you cuddle love after taking the pussy, truly take care of the women in your life, dont abuse her in daily life like hit her and call her names and stuff,, Taking the pussy is what men do to loving sleepy wife... Its not rape dude .. and try not to cum in her all the time, so she dont need to get up and wash.. its much nicer for them if they can just fall back alseep, not wake up to dead fish in snatch...
     
  4. KozmicBlue

    KozmicBlue Senior Member

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    Is the lack of midnight sex the only reason you think your relationship is shitty? Cos if she thinks that too.. well then no wonder you're not getting any. Have you talked to her about how you feel? Do you guys have sex any other time? Maybe by nighttime she's just really tired and really appreciates a good night's sleep which is fair enough. So how about taking some time off during the day or plan a special evening just for the two of you? Also.. How old is your child? Taking care of a little one is hard work and I know at the end of the day I'm sometimes so exhausted sex is pretty much the last thing on my mind. :p
     
  5. Duck

    Duck quack. Lifetime Supporter

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    Yes. Children.

    I wanted to give you some quotes from The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce (which is based off of a 25 year study), but it's hard to do so, because it's so wordy.

    In short, the good doctors found that divorce makes:
    -children of divorce more anxious and uncomfortable with the opposite sex
    -they have more trouble forming and maintaining relationships
    -they have a hard time learning to trust people
    -female children of divorce often are attracted to troubled men
    -children of divorce often rush into marriage/serious relationships
    -children of divorce often doubt if a happy marriage is even possible
    -children grow up slower "Most are well into their 20s and 30s before they graduate into adulthood"
    -children of divorce have a harder time leaving home, and a harder time getting started on their own
     
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    when my GF was getting her hysterectomy.. she wasnt very sexual at all, Fact she was pissing me off cause she was not the women I once knew.. and while I was still able to fuck other women( some of them right in the same house while my gf was sleeping) i really wanted my GF to be back to normal.. This took about a year.. Shes now the hot bed fuck she used to be..
     
  7. junZ

    junZ -dreaded puertorican-

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    she's almost 2.

    and yes, I've sit down with her, plenty of times... in the past year and have tried to make her understand my point of view regarding this subject.
    yes, we do go out. yes, we do have our special occasions as a couple. yes, we do have regular sex like any married couple.

    i buy her gifts, clothes, jewelery, take her out to dinner. surprise her with roses or even songs at times. hell i'm in love with my wife, and I want to believe so... i don't want it to end!

    oh and she doesn't take care of the baby all day (which I know can be pretty exhausting... trust me!) she has a full-time job just like me.

    but if there's any males out there reading this, at least you have to give me credit cuz only you guys know how important sex is for us.

    jezzus!!

    i don't do this every night.... i'm not a psycho/sick sexual person. (i think)
    I have quite a sex drive, yeah... but who wouldn't if you have a hot wife who loves you?

    i was only ranting cuz most young people these days have sex casually, spontaneously, dynamically.... just when they please. even more so if they married. if i happen to need sexual intercourse in the middle of the night cuz i'm having physical contact with my woman as i sleep...... well, i think is perfectly normal! what i've been trying to understand is why is she on denial always?
     
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    you know, im a male right? / :)
     
  9. junZ

    junZ -dreaded puertorican-

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    ^ yeah, that's what I thought....

    can you tell me please that i'm not insane because i think sex is a VERY important matter?
     
  10. Duck

    Duck quack. Lifetime Supporter

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    I'm a 21 year old and I have been with my girl for 3 1/2 years, I will probably be with her always.
    I've never had casual sex, and will only, if my girlie is with me.

    I can still jerk off to sluts, any time I want, without having to deal with their usually disgusting personalities =)

    I know how hard it is to go without sex because within this period, we've had a medical issue each, that has made us unable for a couple months -- and it SUCKS.

    Most of the people I know, that go out and have casual sex often, are unable to keep relationships (or be faithful) even when they want to, and are miserable when they are sober, or in a completely fruitless life that is leading nowhere.

    If you're doing something with yourself; whether it be making your way in the world, or keeping your way in the world -- you're going to have more important shit to spend energy on.

    I'm just saying, save divorce for when it's absolutely needed; it's just not good for your daughter; and a rather silly issue to divorce over. (There's always porn, webcam whores, 900 lines, and cheating)
     
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    is she sexual at all during the day. does she initiate sex, send signals during the day? Do you shrug her off during the day.. turn cold shoulders when she wasnt to cuddle. hug(no sex during the day?.. you might need to bump into her more often during the day, but dont have sex, get her warmed up and you on her mind more often sexually..

    Is she eating, drinking,right, taking any medication??... How hot is your bedroom, knowing youre from PR.. could be heat issues where shes very uncomfortable with the extra heat your adding to the bed.. Try getting a fan, if shes hot get a damp cool cloth for her.. dont leave her hanging ..
    dont know what else to tell you..
     
  12. junZ

    junZ -dreaded puertorican-

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    duck: i agree completely... but when i mean "casual sex" i didn't mean with other girls or whatever.... i meant casual like, umm... any time of the day/night.

    ex. "uhh we're here.... the baby is sound asleep, lets have sex in the living room"

    THAT kind of casual sex.
     
  13. junZ

    junZ -dreaded puertorican-

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    we have air conditioners in both our bedrooms..... :/
     
  14. Duck

    Duck quack. Lifetime Supporter

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    If she doesn't want to cuddle, I'd fear you might have worse problems than her being sexually unavailable.
    That's a sign that a woman is emotionally displeased - she could be feeling problems with your guys' relationship too, or it could even be worse.

    May be time to sit down for a serious chat.
     
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    what does she do during the day? ..
    do you guys party at all?.. like get high, drink alcohol and have any sex?
     
  16. junZ

    junZ -dreaded puertorican-

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    duck: no... she does want to cuddle. its me who sometimes don't want to.

    orison: she works. i work.
    she doesn't drink at all. much less get high...
    i do the occasional drinking. no weed for me for the moment, since we're going through a transition process @ work, and i can't risk it.
    sex? no.
     
  17. Duck

    Duck quack. Lifetime Supporter

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    ohhhhh sorry, must've read that wrong or something.

    I would cuddle more often, if not, every time that you can, and get playful while cuddling and talking or whatever you guys do.



    Does she have a high-stress job?
     
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    you can always do what ralph does.. "baby youre the greatest"..
     
  19. junZ

    junZ -dreaded puertorican-

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    does that really work? :confused:
     
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    the honeymooners is a very good show for learning marital skills. yes.. though it is very very old. Its created in a stressful post WWII time period, where employment isnt so easy to find. They have very little but do manage to hold their love together..
    Married with children is another example, or even the family guy.. no matter what Ralph, Al, or Peter does, Their wives are always by their sides supporting them. No Matter how badly they screw up. And they do screw up..
    Many a tv household show displays couples carrying on, fighting, destructive crazy dudes that live next door Urkle but still have Magic Glue to keep their family together..

    Maybe spend some time watching them, eating some pop corn with the lady and play footsies on the couch..
    you might need a break, Both of you...
     

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